virginity---something to be ashamed of?

[kari-fae]

i really find it interesting that in most united states culture, virginity seems to be something for a girl (or guy) to be ashamed of. it's like if you're a senior in high school (which i am) and you have yet to get laid, you're automatically viewed as a hopeless person who will never have luck in love. in my school at least, the majority of girls are major party sluts, the guys total man-whores, and it is ruled by so many cliches and cliques. we're a "sports" school, i guess you could say, and average girls don't have a hope of getting a date without being a cheerleader, because we are so ruled by cliques. as you can see, my school is well known for being able to lower your self esteem...

so what are your thoughts on this? is virginity something to be ashamed of, something to get rid of, or is it something to value and treasure until you find the right person to give it to? all posts are appreciated, but please keep it friendly! =3

[The Book Addict]

kari-fae

i really find it interesting that in most united states culture, virginity seems to be something for a girl (or guy) to be ashamed of. it's like if you're a senior in high school (which i am) and you have yet to get laid, you're automatically viewed as a hopeless person who will never have luck in love. in my school at least, the majority of girls are major party sluts, the guys total man-whores, and it is ruled by so many cliches and cliques. we're a "sports" school, i guess you could say, and average girls don't have a hope of getting a date without being a cheerleader, because we are so ruled by cliques. as you can see, my school is well known for being able to lower your self esteem...

so what are your thoughts on this? is virginity something to be ashamed of, something to get rid of, or is it something to value and treasure until you find the right person to give it to? all posts are appreciated, but please keep it friendly! =3

I had the same thing happen to me when I was in high school. I was also viewed as hopeless and would never even be kissed rolleyes

I say treasure your virginity. There's no real worth in losing it because some complete retards say that you are hopeless.

[kari-fae]

haha thanks! xD that's nice of you to say, but i thought to create this thread and get everyone's opinions on this mostly because i've found that my group of friends discuss this issue quite a bit. i realise that it should be something to value, but for some reason, i've been viewing it as something to just trash as soon as any guy pays attention to me. i'm not naive, just thinking of it the wrong way--as a self esteem booster

[Rikki Rottenheart]

It's pretty sad that our culture is so sexually-oriented that we have a movie called The Eighteen-Year-Old Virgin. And that's supposed to be a bad thing? Wow.

I tried solving my problem by jumping into a friendship with benefits. That was a bad idea. I was taken advantage of, and the situation has forever scarred me.

[kari-fae]

wow katey, we really have a movie like that? that's so f-ing retarded.

and yeah i know that backstory. i would probably do the same thing, but i'm not allowed around any guys, ever, as you know my mother is insane. can't wait till i'm 18! only four months and eighteen days lol xD

[Rikki Rottenheart]

Oh, I can wait until you're eighteen. Don't you dare go off and be a whore. We have enough of those people here.. >_>

[kari-fae]

yeah i can't wait either. and i know i shouldn't but it's so tempting to just turn to a guy for the attention so i'll feel better about myself. even though i definitely know that it's the wrong choice, you know how i feel. so undesirable *cries* and even if i wanted to turn into a whore, no guy wants me anyways so it wouldn't work......

[Tallie]

I have found that those that would judge you for being a virgin aren't worth bothering with, anyway :3
Not that it's always so easy to think this way and move on, ignoring those types of people, but.
Wow. The eighteen-year-old virgin movie?! Our world is so ******** up. XD;

[Rikki Rottenheart]

[This is completely random and has nothing to do with this thread, but... I'm talking to Randy on MySpace IM.. o_O]

[kari-fae]

i think i sort of do think that way, on the outside. i exude way too much confidence sometimes. but really deep down i'm completely insecure in my school. believe me if you went here you'd understand. but i don't want to be like the tons of other sluts at my school, i just want to feel wanted. you know it's like a human need lol. and it just doesn't happen to me, but i figure once i get to college, and a much wider variety of guys, that my self esteem will boost enough xD

[kari-fae]

katey: oh really????? how's it going with him? only a day till your date!!!

[Rikki Rottenheart]

[It's going...interesting. xD Haha. We're talking about possibly having a phone conversation later today.]

[kari-fae]

hehe talking on the phone to people i have never met creeps me out!!!! lol you already knew that though xD still can't believe brittany doesn't think he's a hottie *sigh*

[Rikki Rottenheart]

[lol. He just turned eighteen Tuesday.. O_O]

[kari-fae]

mmm hmm he is yummy!!! too bad i can't call dibs...*sigh* sisters before misters lol but yeah you're very lucky katey. i wish i had a punk hottie after me......