Slut Shaming: What's Your View?

[Ghosty Pie]

My ignore list is huge

[Jorgunmandr]

Somehow I feel we have a sexual sociopath in the spotlight today.

[The Sky Does Not Bow]

Ghosty Pie

Since I have plenty of experience in the department.

Empowerment reasons.

And men do not ever have a problem with it, they think its so 'cool' that I do it, and want to do it with me. Until the day that I tell them 'no' or cross them, only then to them am I a 'slut'.

So they only name call when the time is convenient.

To those men, it is impossible that THEY could ever be the problem. No, you're doing it to SPITE them, you harpy!

[chromealias]

Its unhealthy and very silly.

[farcrymaster]

my opinion, with skimpy clothing just a society thing. The media whether movies, music and even sometimes gaming advertise a "Slut's Uniform" If a women goes out in public a short skirt and a low cut top showing off her thighs and cleavage..shes most likely looking for sex, or going to a club. All in all as sad as it is to say in this society is made of first impressions and appearances.

[The Sky Does Not Bow]

Brandan J Cromartie

Somehow I feel we have a sexual sociopath in the spotlight today.

you're not in the spotlight

[Jorgunmandr]

The Sky Does Not Bow

Brandan J Cromartie

Somehow I feel we have a sexual sociopath in the spotlight today.

you're not in the spotlight

Therefore I am not a sexual sociopath. Oh. Wrong day.

[Roseliea]

On clothing; a "slut" is a society's view on things. Women in Amazonian tribes wear nothing but skirts, and the men wear nothing but leaflets. Do they get called "sluts"? No, but if a woman in "modern" society walked around liked that, they would be verbally chastised to no end. If someone is comfortable in little to no clothing, then so be it. But if they strut around in public and make others uncomfortable, I do believe that is a little unfair. It's a conflict of opinion, really. If I want to walk around in small clothing, I should be able to. But at the same time I don't want to have to look at someone else that doesn't enjoy the benefits of form fitting clothing either.

On sex; I like sex. I don't have bundles of experience, but with what little I have experienced, I enjoy it. I believe sex has turned into a "dirty" subject because of the introduction of STDs and fetishes. Yes, STDs and odd fetishes have been around for a while, but they are just recently coming out of the closet. It's so odd how people can label such a natural and healthy act as "dirty". There is a difference between physically connecting with someone and enjoying sex as a personal pleasure, or just partaking in it because of a psychological problem. But either way, as long as all participating parties are aware of the repercussions in the sexual acts being preformed, I say why not.

What I do have a problem with is teenagers not knowing or caring about the repercussions of sex and taking part in it, and then getting pregnant. If you can not protect yourself properly or care for the baby you will likely produce with unprotected sex, then don't have it. Please.

Anyways, the term "slut" is just a word. Many of the people that use this term have been part of actions that would fall under the category of a "slut", or have not participated in any of the actions at all and therefore have no right to judge. Basically, the concept of "if you can't accept yourself, you can't accept others. But if you have accepted yourself, you an accept everyone." Giving a negative opinion, or even an opinion at all, on the lifestyle of another, just says that you aren't accepting of your own. Those who judge others have insecurities of their own.

So I say hell with it, have fun with your life.

[atiny_blackmage]

You know what I don't get?

How can you have half of the population (males) be encouraged to go out and get some, but have the other half told not to go out and get some?

My god. How the ******** has humanity managed to reproduce with such weird rules?

[The Sky Does Not Bow]

bitBlackmage

You know what I don't get?

How can you have half of the population (males) be encouraged to go out and get some, but have the other half told not to go out and get some?

My god. How the ******** has humanity managed to reproduce with such weird rules?

I blame wizards.

[atiny_blackmage]

The Sky Does Not Bow

bitBlackmage

You know what I don't get?

How can you have half of the population (males) be encouraged to go out and get some, but have the other half told not to go out and get some?

My god. How the ******** has humanity managed to reproduce with such weird rules?

I blame wizards.

I blame dwarves. And narwhals.

[Sexual Innuendo]

Doctor Edgewood

Ordinarily I associate overt sexual displays as being expressions of insecurity. It's the same rhetoric behind posting extreme messages on your Facebook page; it's designed to capture attention. Often times these women do not have enough inherent respect for themselves and must 'outsource' their respect to a male audience.

I know a good number of women who would never show themselves off for precisely the same reason, however. You might find someone who won't engage in a sexual display because of their insecurities. It depends on how a woman views the qualities of her body; this will vary wildly from person to person and the same is true for males (but we aren't talking about males specifically in this case).

I think that the traditional 'slut' is seeking validation of herself in the eyes of other people. I also don't think that anyone should penalize a woman for deciding to be extremely overt in her sexuality. By the turn of the same coin, I'd encourage women like this to get a little introspective on the reasons for their behavior. If they can't find a deeper explanation for why they do it, then that's on them.

I assume your standard only applies to women. If a man can't find a deeper explanation to why they have casual sex, that's cool, he's a man, it's what they do.

But if a woman can't find a deeper explanation to why they have casual sex, it's probably because she has daddy issues and is looking for male attention from sex instead.

This makes sense, right? neutral

[sailortrance]

Not even gold and silver can

Ugh... Honestly, I don't think that you should be trying to shame anyone for any reason... Even if someone is doing something stupid, wrong or harmful (eg. shooting off fireworks indoors) I don't really see how attacking their self- esteem is in any way helpful.

break the two of us...

[Doctor Edgewood]

Sexual Innuendo

Doctor Edgewood

Ordinarily I associate overt sexual displays as being expressions of insecurity. It's the same rhetoric behind posting extreme messages on your Facebook page; it's designed to capture attention. Often times these women do not have enough inherent respect for themselves and must 'outsource' their respect to a male audience.

I know a good number of women who would never show themselves off for precisely the same reason, however. You might find someone who won't engage in a sexual display because of their insecurities. It depends on how a woman views the qualities of her body; this will vary wildly from person to person and the same is true for males (but we aren't talking about males specifically in this case).

I think that the traditional 'slut' is seeking validation of herself in the eyes of other people. I also don't think that anyone should penalize a woman for deciding to be extremely overt in her sexuality. By the turn of the same coin, I'd encourage women like this to get a little introspective on the reasons for their behavior. If they can't find a deeper explanation for why they do it, then that's on them.

I assume your standard only applies to women. If a man can't find a deeper explanation to why they have casual sex, that's cool, he's a man, it's what they do.

But if a woman can't find a deeper explanation to why they have casual sex, it's probably because she has daddy issues and is looking for male attention from sex instead.

This makes sense, right? neutral

This thread wasn't about people in general, it was about women (men are not traditionally referred to as 'sluts' for exhibiting the same behavior).

I agree with the actual point you were trying to convey with all the subtlety of a sledgehammer. I prefer to keep things contextual, however.

[Sexual Innuendo]

Doctor Edgewood

Sexual Innuendo

Doctor Edgewood

Ordinarily I associate overt sexual displays as being expressions of insecurity. It's the same rhetoric behind posting extreme messages on your Facebook page; it's designed to capture attention. Often times these women do not have enough inherent respect for themselves and must 'outsource' their respect to a male audience.

I know a good number of women who would never show themselves off for precisely the same reason, however. You might find someone who won't engage in a sexual display because of their insecurities. It depends on how a woman views the qualities of her body; this will vary wildly from person to person and the same is true for males (but we aren't talking about males specifically in this case).

I think that the traditional 'slut' is seeking validation of herself in the eyes of other people. I also don't think that anyone should penalize a woman for deciding to be extremely overt in her sexuality. By the turn of the same coin, I'd encourage women like this to get a little introspective on the reasons for their behavior. If they can't find a deeper explanation for why they do it, then that's on them.

I assume your standard only applies to women. If a man can't find a deeper explanation to why they have casual sex, that's cool, he's a man, it's what they do.

But if a woman can't find a deeper explanation to why they have casual sex, it's probably because she has daddy issues and is looking for male attention from sex instead.

This makes sense, right? neutral

This thread wasn't about people in general, it was about women (men are not traditionally referred to as 'sluts' for exhibiting the same behavior).

I agree with the actual point you were trying to convey with all the subtlety of a sledgehammer. I prefer to keep things contextual, however.

Honestly, I feel like even if this thread was about people in general, or male sluts only, you wouldn't've said that. I feel you would really only say that when talking about women.