Sexuality

Sexuality?

Straight	40.1%	[ 152 ]
Lesbian	8.7%	[ 33 ]
Gay	11.3%	[ 43 ]
Bisexual	28.5%	[ 108 ]
Asexual	11.3%	[ 43 ]
Total Votes:			[ 379 ]

[mayday22]

That's a good way to put it, Papaya.

Amuletox - So it's natural for you?

[Suzuku90]

I don't know who in their right mind would choose to be gay. I mean, people in the LGBT community get attacked and are discriminated against all the time; plus, we don't get equal rights as everyone else. I'm scared of hanging out with some of my close friends just because they're catholic. If I could choose, I'd be straight just so I could avoid all that.

Other than those problems, I'm perfectly happy with being bi. It's just another part of myself that I can't change. It really bugs me when people say that sexuality's a choice; it makes the community look like a bunch of evil attention-seekers.

Hm... if I were straight, maybe I wouldn't be so upset at the Westboro Baptist Church. I might've never even heard of them! Fred Phelps is downright evil >____<

[mayday22]

I made a big deal to leave Christianity a while back. This is a big part of it.

Thanks for the input, Suzuku.

[maydayp]

I'm asexual, and I've had many arguments and conversations with people like the one in the OP. but I didn't know of asexuality until I was 16, and I was wow, that's basicly me...but what if I'm just a late bloomer, so until recently I've just been holding out on calling myself anything, besides from questioning. this year though I finally decided I wasn't a late bloomer, and have also found out about aromantics (don't have romantic feelings about people). I'm still getting used to it (some times I'm like but what if this suddenly changes, what if I'm wrong), though I'm coming out a little, like to a few chosen friends, and people who don't know my family, since I don't know how to tell them, or even if I'm completely ready to.

[mayday22]

You have almost the same username as me. (Irrelevant).

If asexuality exits, it's only one more argument to disprove those that claim, "Being gay is not natural. It's not natural to be anything but straight."

I always have fun responding to that...

[iheartevil]

I'm complicated.

I do like both boys and girls, which would make me bi. But I am more attracted to boys than girls, which makes me hesitant to claim the label of bi as I don't want to come of as someone who is says they are bi just to be edgy or impress people. I can say with all certainty though that I didn't choose this. I'd much rather be totally straight actually, it would make things so much easier.

[Krimson-yuki-san]

mayday22

I am straight, but I am an advocate for gay rights. Nothing about homosexuality really unsettles me.

In fact, it would make the most sense to me to be bisexual. I do believe that everyone is worth something, love is love, etc. I understand that homosexuality occurs in nature in all animals. So, when people argue against it because 'the point of our race is to reproduce,' I don't buy into it. Besides, as I said, if you love someone, it doesn't matter what gender they are.

I had a debate with my friend in which I was on the side of, "You can't help who you love." He claimed that you could. So I asked him that, if homosexuality was the 'norm,' could he force himself to be gay. He claimed that he could.

I began to question what made people gay. I know someone in my school who is gay and chose to have a stereotype lisp and 'gay voice.'

So, I turned the question around and asked, "Why am I straight if it makes the most sense to be bisexual?" I knew the answer was: Nature. I just am straight. That is the way it is.

My question is, why is it that any of you have the sexuality that you do?

Is it nature, did you chose it, and are you happy with it?

Thanks.

Although I cannot pin point the origin of my sexuality, or claim to, I do believe that it is very natural. The point of being alive is reproducing and putting off the demise of our race. Also in nature when a species begins to overpopulate and overextend the environment, homosexual activity occurs. Along with disease and famine, all natural factors that serve to lower and stabilize the population.

Many people don't see homosexuality in humans in as the same thing, mainly because people don't see themselves as animals. The truth is, we are. So I can say that homosexuality in humans is natural, and it occurs to lower the population. I cannot give an exact reason.

[mayday22]

iheartevil - Sounds tough. Yeah, being straight does make things easier, but when you're finally happy with whoever you're with, your sexuality will not matter to you anymore. It's unfortunate that, no matter what you consider yourself, it does influence the way people look at you.

Krimson - I always say the same thing, but I never considered overpoulation contributing to it - even in animals. Is that a personal theory or a scientific claim?

[Virgil_V]

gonk

[The Masked Facepalmer]

Mostly heterosexual.

[Neferita]

I'm somewhere between bi and straight. Bi in theory, straight in practice. I had a pseudo-relationship with a girl years ago (long story, it didn't end well) but would probably not actively pursue a relationship with a female at this point.

I suspect that most people are bi to some extent, but most people lean strongly one way or the other. You can't choose who you're attracted to. You can choose who to pursue relationships with, of course, but if you deliberately choose people you're not really attracted to in order to force yourself into one sexual orientation or another, that's not fair to you or them.

[mayday22]

Facepalmer - Mostly?

Neferita - Why do you believe that most people are bi to some extent?

[maydayp_p]

mayday22

Facepalmer - Mostly?

Neferita - Why do you believe that most people are bi to some extent?

actually it's true statisticly most (I don't remember the actual precent), some where around 90%, people have encounters that to do not fit with the sexuality they allign to. (this was a study with hetero and homosexuals only)
edit... I could be wrong, since this is based on memory, which can be very faulty.

[mayday22]

Maybe I'll try to find the survey.

I don't usually trust the number alone. I like to know who came up with the number and how.

[~Ruminer Sonatina~]

Well, I believe sexuality has to do only with what is already in the name -- sex. I believe when someone claims to be a lesbian, they aren't claiming to only be able to fall in love with other girls, they are saying they are only sexually attracted to other girls. You fall in love with the person (or the soul), not the body. Our bodies waste away over time and eventually die, but I believe our souls live on. Live on in what, I'm not sure yet. I'm in a stage in my life where I'm not entirely sure what I believe after afterlives or God's existence. That's irrelevant, though.

I don't believe our souls have genders. I mean, I'm a girl, but I could've easily have been born a boy. Essentially, I think I'd still be the same person if I was a boy. Anyways, you fall in love with the person, not the gender or body. It's silly for people to say "I'm straight," meaning "I will never fall in love with another man/woman." There's over 6 billion people in the world. It would be foolish to say there's not one other girl out there in the world that I could live with for the rest of my life -- be my "soulmate" if prefer that term -- and be totally in love with. Whether I'd be sexually attracted to her however, is questionable. There you have to question whether sexual attraction has to do with your ability to be fully in love with someone. I'll leave that to you guys.

I hope all of that makes sense. gonk

EDIT: To elaborate on what I'm saying, I believe that a 100% gay man could fall in love with a woman, but he wouldn't be sexually attracted to her. So I wonder what "best friends" are but people you're in love with, just not sexually attracted to? Hmm...