PRE-MARITAL SEX? AGREE TO IT?

[Mikaino]

Depending on the person and their views.

[Whisper Gently]

As long as you're not stupid about it. And stay faithful.

[Vailen]

I'm pretty much a huge proponent of pre-martial sex, particularly for women. I don't know about most girls but I'd want my wedding night to be enjoyable and special, not spend it in pain from losing virginity. Not to mention having sex beforehand means you know your partner and how compatible you are in bed instead of leaving that for a surprise once you've already committed. That it's immoral just seems like a really outdated concept anyway, back when people also used to get married at fifteen.

[Jukulele]

I'm not positive on how to word my opinion on this, so forgive me if this is choppy and awkwardly phrased..

If you have known the person for a significant amount of time (say, a year or two) and you feel that you are going strong in your relationship, I believe it's okay for premarital sex to take place as long as you are being responsible. While I do not personally agree with having sex after knowing/dating someone for less than a year, I understand that there are people who feel that a certain number of months is sufficient. That is their choice, and I respect that. I have a number of close friends who have already had sex after dating the person for only a few months, and the majority of the relationships have ended.

I guess what I'm trying to get across is that if you feel the person is very, very special to you and you trust them enough with yourself, do what you want with your sex life. But, if something happens between the two of you, it will definitely hurt knowing that you gave yourself to that person only for the relationship to end.

I hope that made sense. cat_sweatdrop

[lumnata]

This kinda assumes all people desire and will eventually get married.

[kixoh]

It's fine.

[When an Empire Falls]

If you want to wait until you're married, then the more power to you. Personally, I think it's fine to have sex prior to because you want to know if you're sexually compatible with your partner, and if you can work on it with them to perfect it to fit each others needs.

[Master Mikado]

If two people care about one another to the point where they want to have sex before they are married, I see nothing wrong with it.

I've been happy with my girlfriend for two months (which is not a long time, but we have known one another for years, just didn't date until recently).

Throughout the time we knew one another, we didn't do anything sexual together, we dated other people and were friends.

In late February 2012 or early March, we were drinking at a party and made out (that's it), and began actually seeing each other.

She slept over a lot at my house, and at the time we were both going through some drug issues, personally, mine was cocaine. Any cocaine user is aware of what people call "coke-d**k", so I won't say we didn't TRY having sex before we were officially together, but that "coke-d**k" made it impossible.

We both cleaned up, and also cut back a lot on our drinking, after a month of us dating we had sex one night, and it's been happening since.

There is nothing wrong with it, if two people are happy together and willing to do that sort of thing with them, then they should be allowed to by all means. It's two people becoming one, in a sense.
Nothing wrong with that.

Many people disagree, but we all look at things differently, I suppose - I've only met one person who wouldn't have sex until marriage, and that was due to strong religious belief.

There's nothing wrong with that either, all the power to them if they don't want to give up their virginity before they are one hundred percent certain that they will be spending a long time with this person.

The only time I look at sex before marriage differently, is when people are going around having sex with people all the time, every night, different people.

It all comes down, ultimately (in my opinion), to a respect thing. If you respect yourself, you won't have sex with a LOT of people, plain and simple, before marriage or after a first marriage.

If you disrespect yourself, well, you're going to do whatever you want.

It's really a complicated discussion and topic at the end of the day, but the point is... If someone is happy, let them be happy, whether it means having sex before marriage, or having sex after marriage.