PRE-MARITAL SEX? AGREE TO IT?

[Mads Hatter]

Honney Boy

TrueLore

Honney Boy

logan the god of candy

no sex before marriage means no children before marriage. if you refuse to have children with somebody just because they don't believe in marriage, then it can't be love and you shouldn't be together. i feel very strongly about this.

Not if you're a homosexual.

Or using contraception responsibly. Sex does not necessarily equate to having children.

True, but no form of birth control is infallible. The Midwest is a good example of how much abstinence can fail.

I wouldn't say that its abstinence that's failing here, just because I've never really heard of someone getting pregnant from not having sex (no religious input please), but rather abstinence only education is what's failing. Which might have been what you were trying to say in the first place, in which case, sorry for the redundancy.

[Veruka Fox]

Saxgrrrl

I know that I'm completely out numbered here, but I am very against pre-marital sex, sex without any promise of marriage, sex outside of marriage, homosexual activity(I'm not against the individuals, I am against the act. It's yucky in my own opinion), etc.

My reasons: my mother is an ignorant selfish slut, and if she were a whore, we'd be rich.

She betrayed her family, my dad, me, and my little brother, to satisfy her weak willed urges.

Family is one of the biggest priorities to me and if you look at the basics of sex: reason for sex=reproduction=creation of family
should any child be brought into this world without the support of a loving family? If you look at the average human being, their personalities, opinions, habits, political and social views and much more of themselves are formed during their childhoods. Families are there to raise healthy children, to be healthy themselves.

I am not okay with sex out of marriage. I have my reasons.

Sex is for reproduction only? Not bonding with the person you vowed to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH? I'd rather be happy, personally. I think that sex as an unmarried person when done safely is great. It seems to me that you think a single person who has sex is not monogamous? Not all married people are monogamous, not all monogamous people are married.

And if you want a happy family, I think the two pillars of that family should have a healthy relationship with each other as well. If one is not sexually satisfied (which can lead to unhappiness and contempt), it is very likely they will seek for that satisfaction outside of marriage. This is why I think pre-marital sex is important before tying the knot. Otherwise, one person strays and the framework falls apart.

[Mads Hatter]

Veruka Fox

Saxgrrrl

I know that I'm completely out numbered here, but I am very against pre-marital sex, sex without any promise of marriage, sex outside of marriage, homosexual activity(I'm not against the individuals, I am against the act. It's yucky in my own opinion), etc.

My reasons: my mother is an ignorant selfish slut, and if she were a whore, we'd be rich.

She betrayed her family, my dad, me, and my little brother, to satisfy her weak willed urges.

Family is one of the biggest priorities to me and if you look at the basics of sex: reason for sex=reproduction=creation of family
should any child be brought into this world without the support of a loving family? If you look at the average human being, their personalities, opinions, habits, political and social views and much more of themselves are formed during their childhoods. Families are there to raise healthy children, to be healthy themselves.

I am not okay with sex out of marriage. I have my reasons.

Sex is for reproduction only? Not bonding with the person you vowed to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH? I'd rather be happy, personally. I think that sex as an unmarried person when done safely is great. It seems to me that you think a single person who has sex is not monogamous? Not all married people are monogamous, not all monogamous people are married.

And if you want a happy family, I think the two pillars of that family should have a healthy relationship with each other as well. If one is not sexually satisfied (which can lead to unhappiness and contempt), it is very likely they will seek for that satisfaction outside of marriage. This is why I think pre-marital sex is important before tying the knot. Otherwise, one person strays and the framework falls apart.

Actually, the majority of cheating occurs because of a lack of an emotional satisfaction, not sexual, which fits in with bonding. They then seek the emotional satisfaction through sex with a person outside of the marriage.

http://articles.cnn.com/2008-10-03/living/o.why.men.cheat_1_cheating-gary-marriage-counselor?_s=PM:LIVING

[Saxgrrrl]

Veruka Fox

Saxgrrrl

I know that I'm completely out numbered here, but I am very against pre-marital sex, sex without any promise of marriage, sex outside of marriage, homosexual activity(I'm not against the individuals, I am against the act. It's yucky in my own opinion), etc.

My reasons: my mother is an ignorant selfish slut, and if she were a whore, we'd be rich.

She betrayed her family, my dad, me, and my little brother, to satisfy her weak willed urges.

Family is one of the biggest priorities to me and if you look at the basics of sex: reason for sex=reproduction=creation of family
should any child be brought into this world without the support of a loving family? If you look at the average human being, their personalities, opinions, habits, political and social views and much more of themselves are formed during their childhoods. Families are there to raise healthy children, to be healthy themselves.

I am not okay with sex out of marriage. I have my reasons.

Sex is for reproduction only? Not bonding with the person you vowed to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH? I'd rather be happy, personally. I think that sex as an unmarried person when done safely is great. It seems to me that you think a single person who has sex is not monogamous? Not all married people are monogamous, not all monogamous people are married.

And if you want a happy family, I think the two pillars of that family should have a healthy relationship with each other as well. If one is not sexually satisfied (which can lead to unhappiness and contempt), it is very likely they will seek for that satisfaction outside of marriage. This is why I think pre-marital sex is important before tying the knot. Otherwise, one person strays and the framework falls apart.

I see your point. I have no argument.

[Honney Boy]

Mads Hatter

Honney Boy

TrueLore

Honney Boy

logan the god of candy

no sex before marriage means no children before marriage. if you refuse to have children with somebody just because they don't believe in marriage, then it can't be love and you shouldn't be together. i feel very strongly about this.

Not if you're a homosexual.

Or using contraception responsibly. Sex does not necessarily equate to having children.

True, but no form of birth control is infallible. The Midwest is a good example of how much abstinence can fail.

I wouldn't say that its abstinence that's failing here, just because I've never really heard of someone getting pregnant from not having sex (no religious input please), but rather abstinence only education is what's failing. Which might have been what you were trying to say in the first place, in which case, sorry for the redundancy.

People don't follow through with abstinence education, and then aren't taught how to use birth control. I suppose I should've said that the politics of only teaching abstinence is a massive failure.

[Mads Hatter]

Honney Boy

Mads Hatter

Honney Boy

TrueLore

Honney Boy

logan the god of candy

no sex before marriage means no children before marriage. if you refuse to have children with somebody just because they don't believe in marriage, then it can't be love and you shouldn't be together. i feel very strongly about this.

Not if you're a homosexual.

Or using contraception responsibly. Sex does not necessarily equate to having children.

True, but no form of birth control is infallible. The Midwest is a good example of how much abstinence can fail.

I wouldn't say that its abstinence that's failing here, just because I've never really heard of someone getting pregnant from not having sex (no religious input please), but rather abstinence only education is what's failing. Which might have been what you were trying to say in the first place, in which case, sorry for the redundancy.

People don't follow through with abstinence education, and then aren't taught how to use birth control. I suppose I should've said that the politics of only teaching abstinence is a massive failure.

Ah. Well then, I agree.

[Urusai_Shinjitsu]

Marriage is just a legal document that can ruin people financially if they get divorced (50% divorce rates), and marriage is not something sexually repressed people should go into who are dying to experience sex. I had sex with my fiance for my first time and we were deeply in love, and I still am, but relationships fail when we don't even plan nor want them to. I don't regret it at all and it would haven been a big disaster if I rushed into actually getting married before having sex with him, with finally having sex being a big motivating factor to rush into it. Sex with him showed me how inconsiderate he is to my pleasure and satisfaction, how much he disregarded my safety, and how thoughtless and judgmental he can get. It also showed how much satisfying sex means to me in a relationship and shows the true colors of your partner (and what they may say before about sex isn't always the way they turn out to act out during sex, hypocrite), and not something to lay off until marriage and be in big s**t.

[Caught In Crossfire]

Totally fine. It's just a matter of looking up your Age of Consent laws in your certain state. For instance, in Connecticut it is 16. So if i was to have sex, it would have to be with someone who is 16 and willingly agrees to it.


PERFECTLY FINE IF DONE RESPONSIBLY

[Ashlizzle]

I think that's a deeply personal choice that is between you and any potential lover/husband(s) past, present and future. I'm personally waiting for marriage because of my faith, my desire to not get preggers/std and out of respect for my future husband.

[MUSICAL ARTIST]

Dardanos Immortalis

Sex is Sex. Marriage is simply a pointless human construct.

Kind of like borders. The grass is not greener just because you cross an imaginary line.



...Unless, someone just got a new lawn, in which case it might be! pirate

I totally agree with this. Marriage is nothing more than a fabrication made by those Jesus-freaks to make you miserable.

[DarkGoddess1992]

I'm against it. Completely. twisted

[sikio]

I am not against or for pre-marital sex. I believe it is a personal decision. If someone wants to have sex with another person, and that person wants to have sex with them as well, assuming there are no legal issues with them performing coitus as well as no STDs, I think they should be able to have sex, whether married or no. It is their decision, and their lives. I don't think anyone should try to persuade someone else to not have sex or to have sex (unless maybe they're 11 or 12 or that general age range. Then I would say they shouldn't be having sex).
I do agree very strongly with using contraception every time, however. Unless you're okay with the chances of getting/getting her pregnant.
I am not against homosexual intercourse at all. That is a sexual orientation, and it would be cruel to deprive anyone of intimacy they wish to have.
Personally, I refuse to engage in pre-marital sex for my own personal reasons (non-religious reasons, mind you. I am an agnostic atheist).

[Star Box]

i think pre-marital sex is a waste.
it can really ruin someone's wedding night...
i get the whole idea of virtue, and purity, but come on.
i just think it's ridiculous.

in the words of george michael
"sex is natural, sex is good.
not everybody does it, but everybody should."

[krndngr]

It's certainly not my place to judge other people, and I really love having sex, but... simply put, I would be much less willing to marry or even date a girl who has had a lot of penises inside of her.

And of course, I've started turning down sex in order to make my future girl or wife feel special. I don't want a girl that has ******** a thousand dudes, so it's not fair for me to go and ******** a thousand girls.