AliKat1988
Suicidesoldier#1
AliKat1988
Suicidesoldier#1
CrazyEyedFreak
I am assuming you are straight- go try to be attracted to the same gender for a day. Can't, can you? For gay people, it's the same way. They can't feel attracted to the opposite gender.
I don't
want to.
There in lies the thing/
Okay, I will try to make it more obvious to you how attraction is not merely about what you want. I am not sure about if you have ever been in such a situation, but I know that even if you are straight it is possible to be attracted to someone and not wish it to be so. Of course, it is almost always someone of the opposite sex, but that is irrelevant. The type of thing that I am thinking about is if someone feels attracted either to a sibling's or friend's significant other, someone they disagree with on some level, or even to a good friend and not wanting to complicate the friendship. There are reasons why an attraction might exist and you do not want it to be there. They might wish they did feel something for a specific individual that would not be likely to have the same complications, but they cannot merely will themselves to pick a safer match.
But at some level they do want to, even if their better judgement restricts them from it.
What about the lack of being able to feel something for the safer match that they think they should be attracted to? In regards to wanting to, have you considered how limited control we have over our emotions and desires? The parts of the brain associated with sexual arousal and attraction in humans are very primitive parts and like basic emotions they tend to be rather unconscious and difficult to fully control.
Well to some degree.
But I imagine it's possible.
You can control heart rate and all kinds of things.
Which I mean, aren't even up to the brain, as the heart can operate on it's own.
But generally these people do not want to not be gay.
They just don't want stigma or the difficulty dealing with it, not the actual situation itself.
I mean, it's sort like asking, how do you know if your Jewish?
"Are you Jewish?"- Well, no "There you go".
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