Not wanting to be gay?

[Veneficus Monstrum]

Do you think it's wrong for me, or anyone for that matter to not want to be gay?

With me, it's almost to the point of depression. Maybe I'm weak, but it just makes life harder, for me at least.

Thoughts?

[DXnobodyX]

Maybe you should think about it less.

[Suicidesoldier#1]

Um... uh...

Homosexuals are bad!


*head esplodes*

No then don't be homosexual if you don't want to be; problem solved.

[CH1YO]

I don't want to be gay.

[keeping my secrets]

Ehhhh....

I've sorta been there. I've had my moments when I wished I were straight.

The truth is, the world is far kinder to straight people. No one goes around protesting against the rights of straight people, and against the rights of their families. No one carries signs saying "God hates heterosexuals". Kids don't commit suicide because they can't deal with the fact that they are straight.

Pair that with the natural expectations society has for people (for instance, I was supposed to marry a man right after high school graduation and have a bunch of babies) and not being able to meet those exact expectations in the "traditional" way and you've got a recipe for depression.

It is harder to be gay. cry And feeling that doesn't make you weak.

Is there someone you can talk to? A gay friend or family member? A GSA you can join?

[keeping my secrets]

Suicidesoldier#1

No then don't be homosexual if you don't want to be; problem solved.

It's not quite that simple. neutral You don't exactly choose who you're attracted to. OP could choose to be celibate if they wished, but they still wouldn't magically become heterosexual.

[Veneficus Monstrum]

keeping my secrets

Ehhhh....

I've sorta been there. I've had my moments when I wished I were straight.

The truth is, the world is far kinder to straight people. No one goes around protesting against the rights of straight people, and against the rights of their families. No one carries signs saying "God hates heterosexuals". Kids don't commit suicide because they can't deal with the fact that they are straight.

Pair that with the natural expectations society has for people (for instance, I was supposed to marry a man right after high school graduation and have a bunch of babies) and not being able to meet those exact expectations in the "traditional" way and you've got a recipe for depression.

It is harder to be gay. cry And feeling that doesn't make you weak.

Is there someone you can talk to? A gay friend or family member? A GSA you can join?

Unfortunately, no. I mean, I talk to my friends about stuff, but most are striaght, so it's hard for them to actually understand. I could join the GSA at my college, but I do horribly around people I don't know. The hardest thing for me is being attracted to guys I have a 0% chance with. confused

[Suicidesoldier#1]

keeping my secrets

Suicidesoldier#1

No then don't be homosexual if you don't want to be; problem solved.

It's not quite that simple. neutral You don't exactly choose who you're attracted to. OP could choose to be celibate if they wished, but they still wouldn't magically become heterosexual.

You can.

[keeping my secrets]

Veneficus Monstrum

keeping my secrets

Ehhhh....

I've sorta been there. I've had my moments when I wished I were straight.

The truth is, the world is far kinder to straight people. No one goes around protesting against the rights of straight people, and against the rights of their families. No one carries signs saying "God hates heterosexuals". Kids don't commit suicide because they can't deal with the fact that they are straight.

Pair that with the natural expectations society has for people (for instance, I was supposed to marry a man right after high school graduation and have a bunch of babies) and not being able to meet those exact expectations in the "traditional" way and you've got a recipe for depression.

It is harder to be gay. cry And feeling that doesn't make you weak.

Is there someone you can talk to? A gay friend or family member? A GSA you can join?

Unfortunately, no. I mean, I talk to my friends about stuff, but most are striaght, so it's hard for them to actually understand. I could join the GSA at my college, but I do horribly around people I don't know. The hardest thing for me is being attracted to guys I have a 0% chance with. confused

I hear that. I've been trying to convince myself to go to another one of the GSA meetings at my college and I still haven't done it. I've only gone to one in the two years I've gone to school there. sweatdrop

I don't know what to say....there are some lgbt guilds and threads here on Gaia...have you tried chatting in some of those? I used to, but it's kind of hard to follow the conversation in some of them.

[Veneficus Monstrum]

keeping my secrets

Veneficus Monstrum

keeping my secrets

Ehhhh....

I've sorta been there. I've had my moments when I wished I were straight.

The truth is, the world is far kinder to straight people. No one goes around protesting against the rights of straight people, and against the rights of their families. No one carries signs saying "God hates heterosexuals". Kids don't commit suicide because they can't deal with the fact that they are straight.

Pair that with the natural expectations society has for people (for instance, I was supposed to marry a man right after high school graduation and have a bunch of babies) and not being able to meet those exact expectations in the "traditional" way and you've got a recipe for depression.

It is harder to be gay. cry And feeling that doesn't make you weak.

Is there someone you can talk to? A gay friend or family member? A GSA you can join?

Unfortunately, no. I mean, I talk to my friends about stuff, but most are striaght, so it's hard for them to actually understand. I could join the GSA at my college, but I do horribly around people I don't know. The hardest thing for me is being attracted to guys I have a 0% chance with. confused

I hear that. I've been trying to convince myself to go to another one of the GSA meetings at my college and I still haven't done it. I've only gone to one in the two years I've gone to school there. sweatdrop

I don't know what to say....there are some lgbt guilds and threads here on Gaia...have you tried chatting in some of those? I used to, but it's kind of hard to follow the conversation in some of them.

Yeah, I'm actually in one. But like you said, it's hard to follow the conversations... >_>

[keeping my secrets]

Suicidesoldier#1

keeping my secrets

Suicidesoldier#1

No then don't be homosexual if you don't want to be; problem solved.

It's not quite that simple. neutral You don't exactly choose who you're attracted to. OP could choose to be celibate if they wished, but they still wouldn't magically become heterosexual.

You can.

Umm. No. I've tried. I'm not attracted to dudes at all...and never have been. And the deeper reality is that, for the most part and most of the time, I'm okay with that...sometimes even happy about it.

I saw this image the other day, and realized that I actually want to get married one day. I want this kind of cheesy memorable moment for myself, and eventually I'll have it whether it's legally recognized or not. But I hope it will be.

[Suicidesoldier#1]

keeping my secrets

Suicidesoldier#1

keeping my secrets

Suicidesoldier#1

No then don't be homosexual if you don't want to be; problem solved.

It's not quite that simple. neutral You don't exactly choose who you're attracted to. OP could choose to be celibate if they wished, but they still wouldn't magically become heterosexual.

You can.

Umm. No. I've tried. I'm not attracted to dudes at all...and never have been. And the deeper reality is that, for the most part and most of the time, I'm okay with that...sometimes even happy about it.

I saw this image the other day, and realized that I actually want to get married one day. I want this kind of cheesy memorable moment for myself, and eventually I'll have it whether it's legally recognized or not. But I hope it will be.

Well there you go.

You don't want to be straight.


See, I knew it all along.

In that case, go do what you want to do.


What's the root of your depression anyways?

Lacking a mate or what?

[keeping my secrets]

Suicidesoldier#1

Well there you go.

You don't want to be straight.


See, I knew it all along.

In that case, go do what you want to do.


What's the root of your depression anyways?

Lacking a mate or what?

smile Yeah, I suppose it would be nice to find a girlfriend. Not that I know how to even do that. o_O

At the "root of my depression" is probably:

1) That some members of my family are disappointed in me and the loss of some of their hopes/expectations for me (even though they tell me they aren't, I can tell that they are).

If When I marry, it won't be the traditional wedding that they'd hoped for...and--like I said--given where I live, it may not even be legal when I do.

I know....what should matter is my own happiness, and blahblahblah...but what my family thinks matters to me.

And 2) that I am--for the most part--still stuck in the closet in real life, and nowhere near brave enough to fully come out (mainly because I've seen how those who do come out in my home town are talked about and treated for it).

I don't want to be straight....but the feeling that it would be easier if I were sometimes comes around to visit.

[Suicidesoldier#1]

keeping my secrets

Suicidesoldier#1

Well there you go.

You don't want to be straight.


See, I knew it all along.

In that case, go do what you want to do.


What's the root of your depression anyways?

Lacking a mate or what?

smile Yeah, I suppose it would be nice to find a girlfriend. Not that I know how to even do that. o_O

At the "root of my depression" is probably:

1) That some members of my family are disappointed in me and the loss of some of their hopes/expectations for me (even though they tell me they aren't, I can tell that they are).

If When I marry, it won't be the traditional wedding that they'd hoped for...and--like I said--given where I live, it may not even be legal when I do.

I know....what should matter is my own happiness, and blahblahblah...but what my family thinks matters to me.

And 2) that I am--for the most part--still stuck in the closet in real life, and nowhere near brave enough to fully come out (mainly because I've seen how those who do come out in my home town are talked about and treated for it).

I don't want to be straight....but the feeling that it would be easier if I were sometimes comes around to visit.

Okay, so societal pressures.

Well ******** them.


It's not illegal to be gay there is just no legality in reference to it.

It's a blatant technicality error that might be corrected soon.


Course then corporations could marry; lolololololol

You can simply find a person who is homosexual; then you go.


Maybe try a bar or something.

Find what you like and go for it; maybe try the internet.


Just act like a normal person and don't pretend to let it bother you; it will go away.

Also there's no reason you have to go around telling everybody, if they see you with someone and think you are gay okay, but no reason you have to be so obvious about it.

[Pseudo-Onkelos]

CH1YO

I don't want to be gay.

You can't have a gay old time if that's the case.

Yabba dabba doo!