MissVaiFluff
So I haven't thought about this in awhile. When I was growing up, in middle school, being bisexual wasn't common, but it definitely was becoming more and more acceptable. But only among the girls. It still was unheard of of any guys coming out as bi or gay.
Until there was a guy who finally came out...as bi.
This was not too surprising considering he was very effeminate.
Being an immature 7th grader, I thought that guys just came out as bi so that they didn't have to come out as actually being gay.
In high school, I learned that I was being insensitive and that a person is whatever they claim to be.
But despite this I've never actually met an older bisexual male.
So I was wondering, do you believe bisexuality is just a phase (for both male and female) or is it just an uncommon occurrence among the older generations (I'm 20).
Bisexuality is akin to homosexuality and heterosexuality; it is a normative position of one's sexuality. Most bisexuals have varying degrees of attraction towards men and women. For instance, I am attracted to women about 90% of the time, and men maybe 10% of the time. I still consider myself a bisexual, despite that ratio changing throughout the years, and sometimes, moments. But in most cases, if someone identifies as a bisexual today, and meaningfully so, not just for attention or experimentation, they will also be bisexual years from now.
Whether somone will lean more towards homosexual or heterosexual tendencies in the future is unknown, but what I am sure of is that if at some point in your life you realize that you are capable of feeling true attraction towards a set of characteristics defined by a gender, you will always be capable of it. You never transition entirely to homosexuality or heterosexuality. Those who say they have merely repress attraction to the opposite gender, consciously or unconsciously. This can be done so relatively easily if your attraction to that gender is not very great, but it will always be with you, like an embarrassing secret.
I wouldn't doubt that social pressures are the reason why bisexuals often disregard their least preferred gender and stick with the other, in order to be "normal" within the confines of homosexuality and heterosexuality. I instead embrace my attraction to both genders, and I think other bisexuals should do the same, or at least feel that they are able to.