Interesting Psychological question.

[twi_loves_you1]

I am very interested in Psychology and so I would like to give a situation and a question at the end and everyone that would like to talk about this topic or any other or even to debate about a psychological topic please post.

I once heard that a woman's relationships are based on her relationship with her father. Well if that relationship isn't very good and the woman has bad romantic relationships do you think it is her fault? Who do you blame? Do you blame anyone?

Please feel free to say what you wish about this topic or any other topics that are about Psychology.

Thanks,
Twi

[soracious wonk]

Relationships falling apart aren't criminal, so I dislike assigning anyone blame. Stuff happens.

That said, between herself and her father, it's the woman of course, who had more to do with her relationship issues. Isn't she a self-determining human?

[twi_loves_you1]

soracious wonk

Relationships falling apart aren't criminal, so I dislike assigning anyone blame. Stuff happens.

That said, between herself and her father, it's the woman of course, who had more to do with her relationship issues. Isn't she a self-determining human?

Yes but she wouldn't it be correct to say that the woman would unknowingly seek out approvle or try and find a man just or close to how her father is and there for not know how to determine what relationships will cause her issues and what ones won't there fore would it not be not her fault that the relationships in her past are so bad?

[Sheedo]

We are all victims of our environments and/or parents, but like someone posted before me, it's irresponsible to assign blame for everything to one thing. Yeah, they'll may want more attention, or this and that. But 50% of what happens is completely out of her control.

[Centuries Before]

twi_loves_you1

I am very interested in Psychology and so I would like to give a situation and a question at the end and everyone that would like to talk about this topic or any other or even to debate about a psychological topic please post.

I once heard that a woman's relationships are based on her relationship with her father. Well if that relationship isn't very good and the woman has bad romantic relationships do you think it is her fault? Who do you blame? Do you blame anyone?

Please feel free to say what you wish about this topic or any other topics that are about Psychology.

Thanks,
Twi

Depends on the woman. Sometimes it is her fault, sometimes it is the man's fault. You can't pin the blame entirely on the same person every single time. People with bad relations with their father, can have excellent romantic relationships, for example.

[Histamina]

You're forgeting, It's is still a sexist world. So, maybe both members of the couple have got the fault of the events and the responsibility to keep the relationship, or to break it.

Our childhood is thing of past, all had a conflict with our parents that we can resolve doing therapy for beat this problems.

But tradicionally, women first have to adapt their ole such as daugther and later such as wife. You think "a bad relationship" is a specie of mistake, but it's something normal happened all days of life. In the past, women were looking for the ideal man because they were only housewifes, and looked their fathers who provided all the necessary for the family. But now, women are looking for a very intimate exciting relationship... so, choosing the wrong man, who never call and is a b*****d... well, you understand. I think, it's forgivable if can be overcoming.

I'm learning English yet, sorry for bad grammar.

[DXnobodyX]

Your theory hates lesbians.....

Theres always a choice, wether you take responsibility for it is up to the person.

[soracious wonk]

twi_loves_you1

soracious wonk

Relationships falling apart aren't criminal, so I dislike assigning anyone blame. Stuff happens.

That said, between herself and her father, it's the woman of course, who had more to do with her relationship issues. Isn't she a self-determining human?

Yes but she wouldn't it be correct to say that the woman would unknowingly seek out approvle or try and find a man just or close to how her father is and there for not know how to determine what relationships will cause her issues and what ones won't there fore would it not be not her fault that the relationships in her past are so bad?

She might want to, yes, but nothing's forcing her to. She is quite capable of denying her internal impulses.

[And Shepherds We Shall Be]

twi_loves_you1

I once heard that a woman's relationships are based on her relationship with her father. Well if that relationship isn't very good and the woman has bad romantic relationships do you think it is her fault? Who do you blame? Do you blame anyone?

Some theories, such as psychoanalysis, suggest that our relationships with our parents impact our future relationships. Freud talked about the Oedipus Complex where a son is in love with his mother and is at war with his father over her attention. Later psychoanalysts added the Elektra complex to include the daughters relationship. This complex is interesting, however there has never been any empirical evidence to support it (much like most of Freud's theories).

[Satanasapphic]

In general, if someone is abused by anyone, especially a parent, they are pretty much always going to be a sort of messed up adult. I don't nessecarily agree with your theory. Personally, I have two dads, and I don't think that messes up my relationships at all.

[Vanillasoybean]

The only one who can manifest positive energy from blame is the woman herself, by taking responsibility for her actions, and understanding her root issues. Every parent makes mistakes that will effect a child psychologically. When we reach an age of accountability, this age varying by maturity level , we are responsible for taking hold of our psychological state and counteracting what psychological impacts the mistakes of our parents have lain. And no, not everyone will become self aware.


But blaming others gets us nowhere, its gentle and kind understanding that makes a difference.

twi_loves_you1

I am very interested in Psychology and so I would like to give a situation and a question at the end and everyone that would like to talk about this topic or any other or even to debate about a psychological topic please post.

I once heard that a woman's relationships are based on her relationship with her father. Well if that relationship isn't very good and the woman has bad romantic relationships do you think it is her fault? Who do you blame? Do you blame anyone?

Please feel free to say what you wish about this topic or any other topics that are about Psychology.

Thanks,
Twi

[Nicolas von Schlachten]

What I'm reading is that her relationships are based off of her relationship with her Father, and that the relationship with the Father was terrible.

The woman in her feels that she needs a partner that reflects something that she was looking for in her Father as a person (no, not a lover). The Father didn't have these things, and the people she got involved in reminds her of her Father (irregardless of whether or not she feels a sexual feeling for the Father), and so, she thought that maybe she could find the personality traits she needed from her Father, but felt repulsed because while looking for deep personality traits, she was dealing with the ones evident in her Father through her current lover already, making it hard for the relationship to work because she's already been in a relationship of sorts with what she dislikes, hence why the relationship fails...

She could be looking for someone who was strong, but kept getting involved in a closet drunk, hence the lack of strength.

She could be looking for someone who has charisma, but keeps finding someone who lacks guts and goals.

She could have been looking for someone who would be more caring when it comes to finances and keeping the family afloat, but keeps running into men / women with a gambling addiction.

[Suincunemon]

Its actually a known fact that girls that have bad relationships with their fathers end up being very promiscuous and always wanting attention from guys. We studied cases of that in sociology. But anyway, my point is that the girl could possibly have commitment problems and have a hard time trusting guys she's in relationships with. She'd be very insecure. No one is to really blame, it just kind of happens.

[blackheartgirl2]

twi_loves_you1

I am very interested in Psychology and so I would like to give a situation and a question at the end and everyone that would like to talk about this topic or any other or even to debate about a psychological topic please post.

I once heard that a woman's relationships are based on her relationship with her father. Well if that relationship isn't very good and the woman has bad romantic relationships do you think it is her fault? Who do you blame? Do you blame anyone?

Please feel free to say what you wish about this topic or any other topics that are about Psychology.

Thanks,
Twi

To a young girl her father is her male roll model you would think that she would understand men and how they act from the way her father acts.
And her relationship with him could affect how she sees other men. If her father was a mean drunk she might have a problem with anyone who drinks or if her father left she might fear other men leaving.

If she had problems with men because of her father then it wouldn't be her fault. If you wanted to put blame it would be her fathers. You would think.

[moirailedLecher]

The fact that her idea of relationships is warped is not her fault but she is responsible for working on her unhealthy ideas and having healthy relationships. She is in no fault for the way she thinks but only she can fix it. Ditto for a man.