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Post: 93245519_1 created on Sat, 19 Jul 2014 05:36:49 +0000
Posted: Sat, 19 Jul 2014 05:36:49 +0000

So, I have this boyfriend who I am in love with. He promised me he would not watch porn or nudity but he did. I almost left him. I am struggling every day with anger. My feelings are hurt. It doesn't seem like he's assuring me that he won't do it again. What should I do? Any solutions that I would approve of? Note: letting him watch any of it is not what I think is a solution.

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Post: 93245519_2 created on Mon, 21 Jul 2014 09:59:27 +0000
Posted: Mon, 21 Jul 2014 09:59:27 +0000

His feelings of the anonymous and random girls on the screen is nothing compared to the feelings you have for you, his actual real-life girlfriend. Love and being turned on, in this case, are very clearly separated.

But I think he should stay away from certain activities if it bothers you and makes you feel so. You should tell him that it makes you sad and let him comfort you about it.

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Post: 93245519_3 created on Mon, 21 Jul 2014 19:16:15 +0000
Posted: Mon, 21 Jul 2014 19:16:15 +0000

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I understand it's natural for some men to want to watch it, but yes it does hurt me and make me angry when he does it and doesn't not do it for me and I tried talking about it with him but he keeps going to the websites. I decided today that I am breaking up with him. I can't take it any longer. Thank you for your advice.

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Post: 93245519_4 created on Mon, 21 Jul 2014 19:17:15 +0000
Posted: Mon, 21 Jul 2014 19:17:15 +0000

Alright everyone, I decided I am breaking up with him. He went to another website today and that is the last straw for me. I can not take it any longer.

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Post: 93245519_5 created on Tue, 22 Jul 2014 03:13:17 +0000
Posted: Tue, 22 Jul 2014 03:13:17 +0000

Why? To everything here -- why?

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Post: 93245519_6 created on Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:03:37 +0000
Posted: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:03:37 +0000

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Why? To everything here -- why?

I can not explain why he watched porn. I can't explain why my feelings are hurt and I am angry either.

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Post: 93245519_7 created on Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:24:20 +0000
Posted: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:24:20 +0000

Judgements aside--I understand if you have a preference in certain things with a relationship. That's all good; everyone has their perks and nitpicks.

But... have you tried creating a compromise with him? Nothing gets done in a jiffy. Lack of communication is a big part as to why relationships tend to fail. Have you tried to understand his point of view, or ask why he persists? Find compromises. They're a life-saver in everything.

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Post: 93245519_8 created on Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:35:29 +0000
Posted: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:35:29 +0000

Meera Smorthy

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Why? To everything here -- why?

I can not explain why he watches porn. I can't explain why my feelings are hurt and I am angry either.

This sounds like a problem for ice cream!

That's all I got...no joke, I got nuthin.

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Post: 93245519_9 created on Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:35:49 +0000
Posted: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:35:49 +0000

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Like what kind of compromise? I don't want to let him watch it if that's what you mean. My feelings are still hurt and I am still angry.

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Post: 93245519_10 created on Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:37:03 +0000
Posted: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:37:03 +0000

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Meera Smorthy

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Why? To everything here -- why?

I can not explain why he watches porn. I can't explain why my feelings are hurt and I am angry either.

This sounds like a problem for ice cream!

That's all I got...no joke, I got nuthin.

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Post: 93245519_11 created on Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:43:36 +0000
Posted: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 01:43:36 +0000

Meera Smorthy

First off, have you tried talking to him about it? I'm not talking about a fight, but an actual conversation to try and understand why. Compromises don't pop out of nowhere; they pop out of trying to understand each other and having a real talk about it. Not pointing fingers, not throwing accusations at each other, or yelling. Real, calm talk.