I will say that it is real. Why? Because I am with a person who has DID. Each case is different. Aft first, when I was first looking at it, I was thinking the Hollywood has many to believe... Which made me think that he was just joking in the beginning.
As I started doing my research on the disorder, I quickly realized that he did have have it. There would be times when I saw him and would go out and hug him, only to have him flat out reject me.
My boyfriend, when he switches, is a bit more different than how others with DID switch, which I learned recently that each case has their own individual ways of switching, and not all of them are the same.
I have seen him switch from the core/host personality (the one I am dating) to the protector (I am using some of the terms that many DID people would understand. I also learned these terms because it would be easier for me to communicate with my boyfriend and the others). And it was a very scary experience. I had saw him pass out at my place and I was smacking his face to try and wake him up. And when he woke up, it wasn't him but one of the alter egos. And they were calling me a whinny b***h and to shut the ******** up because I was annoying.
Right now, my boyfriend is going through a tough time trying to merge/integrate with one of the other personalities and trying to see if he can get more to agree under a certain condition with one of the main egos that runs the show from inside his mind. The only one that so far isn't agreeing is the protector, which doesn't surprise me.
It's a very difficult thing to see your partner suffer from not knowing who they truly are and knowing that they got their DID because of something as frightening as abuse when they were very small.
My boyfriend knows that one of the reasons why he got DID was because of a few near death experiences, and because of childhood traumas like bullying and being pressured to the extreme.
For me, I never viewed as DID as MPD. I always viewed it more as a somebody who will "act" in a situation or with a group, not necessarily somebody who has more than one personality... And MPD is the full blown different personalities. The fact that they change the terms and definitions for disorders and syndromes is very difficult.
For example, I right now with the current DSM book, I am able to be clinically diagnosed with BPD, Border Personality Disorder. But the next version that should be coming out next year or so, would say that I do not qualify for that disorder. And I honestly find that to be a bit dangerous for some people. Especially because we are talking about mental health, and many people who have BPD are known to have a very high suicidal rate and tend to not only have BPD, but an other list of disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, be manic depressives, DID, sexual identity disorder, and so on. The new edition would just have the psychologist/therapist killing the ants instead of killing the queen.