I will say that my list is currently enabled but for several months, I disabled it due to a weird, creepy and very obsessive person who liked to copy and clone my avatars. For me, it wasn’t a matter of ‘oh teh noes, she stoled my idea!’ so much as the fact that seeing a copy/clone of nearly every avatar I made by the same person time and time again, was a little creepy. It made me feel watched and examined and stressed me out quite a bit. Granted, there was more to the obsession and stalking than just avatar copying and the other things she was doing also contributed to the stress. But the avatar copying was the icing on the cake and continued even after much of the other nonsense was sorted out. And while dealing with the other mess, I didn’t want to also see this clone running around talking about how much work she put into her avatars on top of all the other crap she was pulling.
Did disabling the list deter her? Not completely. But it did keep her from copying some of the more obscure EI poses I use as well as some of the item layering I used to get certain looks. (And I can understand why people might want to conceal their clever layering of items. The avatars are a form of self expression and people enjoy preserving the uniqueness, such as it is, of their creativity for as long as possible. That is very understandable to me.) At the very least, I felt slightly vindicated, knowing she was going through that much more trouble to “stalk” me than she would have had the list been enabled.
While the list was disabled, I was never PMed but I was frequently asked in forums about items I had on and I always answered. I never wanted to conceal my avatar from the community at large just to be a jerk—just from one person who was harassing me.
And I feel it was my right to do so if I so wished (and obviously, I did.) To have someone come along and act like they have the right to keep me from having privacy or that I’m pathetic for trying to get a bit of peace of mind or deter a stalker who cleverly evaded TOS in a way that prevented me from outright reporting her, I feel, is just as "damaging" to the feel of the Gaia community as a user hiding what specific items they’re wearing. There’s no “logical reason” for the feature being there? Obviously Gaia felt there was at one time, since they added it. So rather than justifying the existence of the feature, really, people need to be justifying the removal of the feature.
And so far, I haven’t seen any significant arguments for its removal beyond “I find it inconvenient.” Which I don’t think is good enough to specifically take it away considering Gaia felt it was a good idea to add it and clearly a large portion of users utilize it.
Don’t get me wrong—I truly, truly understand that this feature is frustrating. I once saw a trouser/boot combination I really loved yet the user had the equipped list disabled and didn’t respond to my PM. So I spent the next twenty minutes scouring tektek until I found the item. Yesterday I saw someone with a leg/foot combination that made her avatar look like it was wearing spatted, Victorian boots. Again, disabled equipped list. Again, ten minutes of scouring tektek and trying creative layering combinations to come up with the one she was using. I actually find it both frustrating and fun to have to discover on my own what people are wearing.
But the frustration I feel does not, I think, invalidate someone else’s need for privacy—no matter what their reason is. Especially now that I’ve been in a position where I felt the need to hide my equipped list. And trying to invalidate the feature by labeling anyone who uses it as "childish" and "pathetic" is, well, childish and pathetic.