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Love is difficult to describe. It's feeling absolutely certain about someone, never having a doubt that you love them and a shred of question doesn't ever cross your mind.
It's sharing yourself with someone else, knowing that even if you make mistakes, you'll be loved.
It's wonderful but so often people can't differentiate simple love and being in love. That ends badly.

This. 100% how I feel.

EDIT: Sex is not a matter of losing control. Or if it is, at least one person involved is using drugs / alcohol. I would not even call having sex while intoxicated "losing control." If you can't control yourself during sex and don't want it, that's rape. Completely different issue.

I agree that standards are a bit high. The things you have to do just to get into a good school now are beyond ridiculous.
There are other factors involved in college or school in general to make students depressed. There's the social atmosphere, financial issues and the massive amount of debt owed after getting financial aid, living on your own, things like that. The workload is a contributing factors and is definitely stressful, but not a main cause of suicidal tendencies.

People like to view sex and love as a combination. Sex and marriage.
First of all, marriage has lost whatever "sanctity" it had, even it even had any sanctity in it. People get arranged to be married, people get married while drunk in Vegas or for money. It's wonderful if two people are getting married because they're in love, and I have no problems about that.
Onto that, I don't think that sex needs to wait until marriage, for the reasons I posted above. Marriage doesn't guarantee you'll love someone.Love and lust are very different from each other, however, I believe sex should wait until you're in love and ready for it. If you cannot accept the fact that there is TONS of responsibility involved in both parts, then you're not ready. If you have doubts, you're not ready.
Summing it up, I believe sex should be for when you're in love and ready, not marriage.

EDIT: I haven't read through the thread, so excuse this post.

Haven't read through the entire thread, didn't want to bother.
It makes me sad the way some people view suicide, the things people assume.
Just because someone cuts does NOT make them emo. Sadly, "emo" has spun into it's own thing and become just another label.
I have cut in the past. Do you know how much it angers me whenever I'm told that I'm "emo" simply because I do/have CUT? I have issues, and I think everyone is. Some are more vocal about, others aren't.
I believe that in some regards, suicide is selfish. To whoever that has said that everyone will move on, that your friends, family, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, whoever, would get over it....
If you HONESTLY believe that people can get over things like that, you're delusional. It takes awhile to get over a death, let alone a suicide. The pain can subside, but no one can truly get over a death. I've had close relatives die, and in fact, my great grandmother might even be dying right now. I can't get over that fact. I can ignore it, but it will sit in my mind and keep coming up. When someone has "gotten over" a death, it just means that it's no longer the first thought in their mind. It does NOT mean that the person who is gone is forgotten and uncared for.

I've never attempted suicide, but it has been a thought that runs through my mind. When I was 14, I played with my life. I think suicide is something that can be prevented, because even if someone doesn't say anything, there will be changes in behavior and things that can be observed by anyone who is close to them.
Coming from someone who wasn't far from suicide, I've put up walls to see who would break them down. When almost no one broke them down, it just drove me closer to attempting suicide. People could see that I had changed. I either slept too much or too little. I ate too much or too little. People could see I was sad, and they'd ask me what was up, and I would just say "nothing" and it felt like no one cared, just because there wasn't anyone who would dig deeper.
It's not a subject taken lightly for me, and if I know someone who even just cuts themselves, I try to get them to stop, I offer a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to. It's not just about my conscience. I've been there, and it's horrible.
It's a person's choice, but other people have the power to be there, to ask what is truly wrong and be understanding, to not yell.

That is my two cents, but it's a serious issue.

50. How many eggs did you find while doing this quiz?
Quite a lot. :]]] <3

49. What is the second line of the song?
I dunno!! crying

48. Do you know the lyrics to "Here Comes Peter Cottontail"?
Hah, nope.

47. Has your family held up some sort of easter tradition?
Not really.

46. Honestly, are you going to eat a lot of candy this easter?
Oh yes!!