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You need to talk to your friend about it how you feel about his/her sister. I have two close friends that are best friends and one developed feelings for the other's sister...and they talked it over and he gave the ok.

It's just best to let your friend know what's going on and how you feel so that it's not like a big SURPRISE! down the road. Also, see how she feels about you as well.

You're not being heartless. You both have to be on the same page, going the same pace for things to work. Even if you two are on the same page, if you aren't at the same pace then it won't work.

I can relate to you because my boyfriend and I almost had a falling out back in September because even though we both are definitely wanting to get married, settle down and have kids, he misunderstood that I meant to wait for a while. He thought I meant immediately, and there he thought we were going about this at different speeds; we ended up arguing about it because he said I was pressuring him into it and he got scared and said a lot of hurtful things, which he did apologize for the next day when we took time that night to calm down and cool off. For us, it was a complete misunderstanding because he didn't know that I was willing to wait to do all that...your ex on the other hand WANTS to rush it. There was no miscommunication or misunderstanding.

You're not ready to rush into it, especially not after two months, and she should be understanding about it. If someone truly loves you, they are willing to wait, no matter what. you did the right thing in telling her you didn't want it rushed, and if can't respect where you stand on the issue, then she isn't worth your time.

Not everyone uses it for sexual reasons though. I initially got BC for medical reasons and it's helped a lot.

Waiting a few extra months never hurt anyone. Take those extra months to save up on money for a baby.

Tell me why marriage is a stupid reason to have a baby? Are you saying that my the reason my boyfriend and I are waiting to have a baby is stupid? My parents must be stupid to have gotten married first and then have a kid!

And you're only 18, you just turned 18 this year. How are you possibly financially stable? My bf and I are both 22 and we're not financially ready for a child yet.

Well my boyfriend and I are planning on getting engaged soon and then married in a couple of years after that and yes, we want kids really bad but we're willing to wait until after marriage and when we know we can support our children. Having a baby is more than just wanting one, you need to be financially ready yourself and so does he. It's best you wait until after marriage because yea, you're engaged now, but what if you have a baby and you two never get married and you two break up? Having a baby is a big commitment, you should really think into it more.

At times I feel like I'm not good enough for my boyfriend but only because of what OTHER people say about me. We're both attractive people, intelligent, good morals and a lot going for us and we love each other a lot. The only thing is, people look down on ME because I took time out from school to join the military so I haven't finished college yet. The people from the company he just got a job at look down on me because unlike them, I don't have a degree and a career. The girls there think they deserve my boyfriend more than I do, when I can damn well guarantee that I've done a lot MORE with my life they those girls ever have.

The one thing that will always give me comfort is knowing my boyfriend cares nothing for them and that no matter what, he loves me for who I am and what I've done with my life. He knows and has faith in me that I will finish college and get my degree and he's willing to stay with me no matter what people say.

So who cares if you don't think you're not good enough for him...to him, you ARE good enough for him. Just like when people say my boyfriend isn't good enough for me...to me, he IS good enough and I don't need anyone else. You have to believe that you are good enough for him to have stayed with you for so long, right? If you weren't, he would've left you already.