theannacracker
Here is a checklist:
-Have you and your boyfriend talked about what would happen if you got pregnant?
-Are you two financially prepared for a pregnancy (whether it be costs for a birth, raising the child, or abortion)?
-Are you on some sort of birth control? Do you plan on getting birth control?
-Does he have condoms? Can you get lube? Are you comfortable enough going into a store and buying those things on your own?
-Are you emotionally ready for this? Sometimes girls can be pushed into something too quickly, and wish they had waited to give up their virginity.
-Have you both gone to your docor to have a check up? Though you're both virgins, it's good to let your doctor know you are sexually active, so if problems pop up they are already informed. You can also get STI's without having sex. Make sure you are physically ready for sex, and that he is too.
-Do you have a place to have sex? If you have to have sex secretly at one of your parent's houses, it's pretty sure that you are not ready for a sexual relationship. Will your parents know that you are sexually active? Will his?
All of these things need to be discussed before you have sex. If you do not have the financial back up for a pregnancy or abortion, if you can't get condoms or another form of birth control, if you are uncomfortable going into a store and buying lube and condoms, wait. Wait until you are both ready. It isn't a bad thing to call it off, if he is a good boyfriend he will understand.
If you do plan to have sex, have lots of foreplay. Use lube. If you feel uncomfortable, stop, and do something else until you have calmed down.
One thing is, sex shouldn't hurt the first time. Or any time. So if it hurts, you are probably very very nervous and tense or doing it wrong.
-Have you and your boyfriend talked about what would happen if you got pregnant?
-Are you two financially prepared for a pregnancy (whether it be costs for a birth, raising the child, or abortion)?
-Are you on some sort of birth control? Do you plan on getting birth control?
-Does he have condoms? Can you get lube? Are you comfortable enough going into a store and buying those things on your own?
-Are you emotionally ready for this? Sometimes girls can be pushed into something too quickly, and wish they had waited to give up their virginity.
-Have you both gone to your docor to have a check up? Though you're both virgins, it's good to let your doctor know you are sexually active, so if problems pop up they are already informed. You can also get STI's without having sex. Make sure you are physically ready for sex, and that he is too.
-Do you have a place to have sex? If you have to have sex secretly at one of your parent's houses, it's pretty sure that you are not ready for a sexual relationship. Will your parents know that you are sexually active? Will his?
All of these things need to be discussed before you have sex. If you do not have the financial back up for a pregnancy or abortion, if you can't get condoms or another form of birth control, if you are uncomfortable going into a store and buying lube and condoms, wait. Wait until you are both ready. It isn't a bad thing to call it off, if he is a good boyfriend he will understand.
If you do plan to have sex, have lots of foreplay. Use lube. If you feel uncomfortable, stop, and do something else until you have calmed down.
One thing is, sex shouldn't hurt the first time. Or any time. So if it hurts, you are probably very very nervous and tense or doing it wrong.
Wow, you're clear on alot of things. This is a very serious issue ,and it's good to be mature about it. This looks really overbroad ,but it's all important.
