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I want a vertical labret soooo badly. But I doubt my parents will be okay with it. They hated my septum (which I got done twice, and both times caved into pressure to remove it -_-) so not sure how that would turn out.
Also, no kissing for a while, that's gonna make me super sad.
Edit: I'm kinda worried that I'll be too clumsy with a vertical labret and get it caught on things. But I LOVE how it looks compared to just a center labret. Could I achieve a vertical labret look by using a circular ring jewelry? Or would it constantly move and not give it that effect? Also would the back of the ring be jamming into my teeth constantly if I were to do this??? Thanks!
Standard response of: If you live with your parents, are dependent on them for food and shelter and care, then it's not worth it to be pierced against their wishes. If you don't live with them, then they should have little to no say in what you do with your life, so long as it's safe, sane, and consensual.
I had a vertical labret once upon a time. Never got it caught on anything. The whole forks concern a lot of people have isn't something you should worry about, so long as you eat like a regular human and your forks are the same as everyone else's. The way forks are designed, they can't get caught on vertical labrets.
You wouldn't want to wear a ring in a vertical labret. It would look pretty silly, as too much of the ring would be hanging out. You could get a
reverse vertical labret, they're pretty rare, but do exist. The only visible jewelry is the one bead that sits on the lip, the other end is inside the mouth.
Yeah, I've pretty much decided that I won't get a septum done again until I move out, because I know I'll be pressured into removing it even though I can still hide it. Apparently having a "moo" / cow piercing is really disturbing??????
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Oh I meant a ring in a center labret, to give it the illusion of a vertical labret
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That's pretty! But I really like the look of having the two ball ends, it just looks so pretty
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I guess my mindset right now is that I have 4 more years of school to go, and I'd rather have them while I study and enjoy having them before I have to enter a career that might not be tolerant with body-mods.
emo You can wear a ring in a traditional labret all you want, you can even wear D rings if you're concerned about the inside rubbing on your gums and teeth. I would recommend getting sized and fitted for the D ring by a professional piercer, since you need to make sure you have the right diameter and that's hard to figure out on your own. Just have them do it, write down all the specs for you, and you can go from there.
It makes me sad when people tell stories of how their parents and family make fun of them for their piercings and body mods. You can dislike something all you want, but that does NOT give you the right or privilege to insult that person, make fun of them, question their intelligence, any of that. It makes me feel more and more lucky that pretty much none of my family really cares. They're all pretty chill, and my dad has just stopped questioning me. He says "I trust you to not to do anything stupid or truly detrimental to your future, so go for it." They're seemingly more concerned about my makeup choices anymore.
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In the end, I think you have two main choices, you can either A) Do what you want, forget about what they think and what they say and do what makes you happy because it makes you happy (so long as it's all safe, sane, consensual, you're of age, use your own money, all that fun stuff), or B) Not rock the boat at all, keep your head down and finish school, get out, and never get to do the things you want because work won't allow it, or because you're afraid of what people might possibly think of you.
Take it from someone who's varying sorts of alternative, has been for a long time, and is not afraid to talk about it: You really do just have to stop giving a ******** what other people think. I know it's hard and painful and frustrating when your family makes fun of you, they're the people who are supposed to love you and care about you the most, but if that's how they're going to treat you, it may be worth it to cut them out of your life. At least partially, anyway. Nothing good comes from keeping toxic or negative people in your life, whether they're blood or not. If they insult you, walk out of the room. Leave the conversation. Excuse yourself from the party and go home/to your room, etc. If they ask why you don't participate anymore, explain that you're tired of them insulting you and don't want to be insulted, so you don't participate. Sometimes they get it, sometimes they don't, but the best you can do is express your feelings on the subject, be firm but not sink to their level, and do what's best for you in the end.