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- Posted: Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:03:20 +0000
So this is a REALLY messy situation, as the big lebowski would say "a lot of ins, a lot of outs" but there are CLEAR and real major HR violations to the situation.
I'll try to make this concise and short.
So basically I was having sexual relations with my boss (my manager), and they were VERY well concealed and quiet. It lasted for about 4 weeks, and then I decided to call it quits once I realized what a complete BAD idea it was to begin with (mind you I was 19 at the time, he's 27). He didn't really want to stop, and would consistently (not really all the time) would grope me in the break room we have, or come on to me and kiss me.
There are NO cameras in the break room so it would be my word against his.
Anyways, the perfect opportunity to 'out' him came in the form of a VERY stupid move on his part. He groped me in a room that had multiple cameras at the place I work, and I clearly warned him that I could report this to my supervisor. My manager is well, kind of an a*****e and basically just brushed it off. So I followed the correct procedure and issued a complaint.
My supervisor told me he was written up for it... that's all. My manager called me 2 days later "heart broken" and told me that he was already on probation, he didn't mention for what. Safe to say he left me well enough alone.
Fast forward 8 months later, and one of my co-workers went through my opened email account (we share a computer at the work place, and I forgot to log out! major accident on my part), and found a long conversation of text messages between me and my boss (I have an android 4 phone and it copies every conversation I have with people to my email account). I never deleted them because well 8 months had passed by and I never really had to see them.
She really had dig deep and to pull them up, but lets just say they were VERY detailed bits and pieces between me and my manager i.e. places we would meet up to do 'things' and other sexually explicit dialogues... my manager is married and has a kid.
After having found all this out (this co-worker has the BIGGEST mouth) she immediately told someone above us (not necessarily our manager, but someone above our position), and that person told our supervisor.
I was pulled into a meeting with my supervisor and the head director of the place I work (THE boss of my supervisor).
Of coarse I was shocked and dumbfounded and I basically cried, explaining to them that me and my manager no longer are 'seeing' each other. They asked if anything on my part was NON consensual, and I told them about the small instances he would grope me in the break room after I decided to stop the affairs. The told me only a 'handful' of people knew about it (which later EVERYONE found out because my co-worker was running around telling everyone) and asked if I would still want to work here.
Here's the thing, I was shocked that they didn't fire me as well? They first put my manager on suspension until they could figure out what to do, then later they let him go.
They decided to keep me. The first month was hell. None of the people that I worked with would even look at me. I would get side-eye glances from everyone. Basically, I could still keep my job but it came with the stigma of, ' oh look its the slut who slept with our boss'.
Here's what I just found out today from a very reliable source. My manager had an extensive history of this sort of thing. Of inappropriately flirting, touching and evening groping other female workers ( I work at an art museum, and most of the staff, interns included are oddly ALL female and quiet young). He's also had multiple complaints and has been on probation twice, and after my reported incident HR STILL did nothing for his situation.
I was told from a co-worker whom I trust and am friends with (and who use to be a cop) that I could have sued the museum I work for, considering I have evidence against my manager about our explicit affair.
However I don't have evidence about his lecherous history in the museum, but my ex-cop friend the museum does.
So my question is, could I sue them ?
My ex-cop friend also said the only reason they didn't fire me was so that I wouldn't sue them.
The museum is privately owned by a millionaire (probably billionaire) sort of play-boy older guy.
I wouldn't even know HOW to get a lawyer, much less provide a good case against the museum (plus I'm no millionaire myself, so I would imagine any lawyer I could muster up wouldn't stand a chance?)
Any advice or scrutiny is welcomed.
I'll try to make this concise and short.
So basically I was having sexual relations with my boss (my manager), and they were VERY well concealed and quiet. It lasted for about 4 weeks, and then I decided to call it quits once I realized what a complete BAD idea it was to begin with (mind you I was 19 at the time, he's 27). He didn't really want to stop, and would consistently (not really all the time) would grope me in the break room we have, or come on to me and kiss me.
There are NO cameras in the break room so it would be my word against his.
Anyways, the perfect opportunity to 'out' him came in the form of a VERY stupid move on his part. He groped me in a room that had multiple cameras at the place I work, and I clearly warned him that I could report this to my supervisor. My manager is well, kind of an a*****e and basically just brushed it off. So I followed the correct procedure and issued a complaint.
My supervisor told me he was written up for it... that's all. My manager called me 2 days later "heart broken" and told me that he was already on probation, he didn't mention for what. Safe to say he left me well enough alone.
Fast forward 8 months later, and one of my co-workers went through my opened email account (we share a computer at the work place, and I forgot to log out! major accident on my part), and found a long conversation of text messages between me and my boss (I have an android 4 phone and it copies every conversation I have with people to my email account). I never deleted them because well 8 months had passed by and I never really had to see them.
She really had dig deep and to pull them up, but lets just say they were VERY detailed bits and pieces between me and my manager i.e. places we would meet up to do 'things' and other sexually explicit dialogues... my manager is married and has a kid.
After having found all this out (this co-worker has the BIGGEST mouth) she immediately told someone above us (not necessarily our manager, but someone above our position), and that person told our supervisor.
I was pulled into a meeting with my supervisor and the head director of the place I work (THE boss of my supervisor).
Of coarse I was shocked and dumbfounded and I basically cried, explaining to them that me and my manager no longer are 'seeing' each other. They asked if anything on my part was NON consensual, and I told them about the small instances he would grope me in the break room after I decided to stop the affairs. The told me only a 'handful' of people knew about it (which later EVERYONE found out because my co-worker was running around telling everyone) and asked if I would still want to work here.
Here's the thing, I was shocked that they didn't fire me as well? They first put my manager on suspension until they could figure out what to do, then later they let him go.
They decided to keep me. The first month was hell. None of the people that I worked with would even look at me. I would get side-eye glances from everyone. Basically, I could still keep my job but it came with the stigma of, ' oh look its the slut who slept with our boss'.
Here's what I just found out today from a very reliable source. My manager had an extensive history of this sort of thing. Of inappropriately flirting, touching and evening groping other female workers ( I work at an art museum, and most of the staff, interns included are oddly ALL female and quiet young). He's also had multiple complaints and has been on probation twice, and after my reported incident HR STILL did nothing for his situation.
I was told from a co-worker whom I trust and am friends with (and who use to be a cop) that I could have sued the museum I work for, considering I have evidence against my manager about our explicit affair.
However I don't have evidence about his lecherous history in the museum, but my ex-cop friend the museum does.
So my question is, could I sue them ?
My ex-cop friend also said the only reason they didn't fire me was so that I wouldn't sue them.
The museum is privately owned by a millionaire (probably billionaire) sort of play-boy older guy.
I wouldn't even know HOW to get a lawyer, much less provide a good case against the museum (plus I'm no millionaire myself, so I would imagine any lawyer I could muster up wouldn't stand a chance?)
Any advice or scrutiny is welcomed.
