A checklist:
1. Are people calling you an a*****e?
2. Why are people calling you an a*****e?
3. Write down the things that may lead someone to call you an a*****e.
4. Work on eliminating those negative traits to become less of an a*****e.
5. Catch yourself when you're acting like an a*****e.
6. Congratulations! You are no longer an a*****e.
Should I try a different approach that doesn't use the word "a*****e" so much?
Capricious Conundrum
However, since altruism usually ensures the continued survival and propagation of the ever-rapacious human species, it could be argued that altruism, at least among humans at our current level of technology, is actually a great evil.
Why do you suppose that? It seems now we come to the question of "What is evil?"
Throughout most of human history, it seems to have been "That which is detrimental to humanity," but I suppose now we
should be considering the safety of all life on our planet. And certainly once we find it elsewhere, all life in the universe.
But then, I suppose, at some point we'll have to question just what "life" really is. Especially if our own technology reaches the point of AI wherein it can qualify for the term "life."