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- Posted: Tue, 02 Oct 2012 13:38:07 +0000
I was going to write a snarky retort but thought better of it for several reasons. However I'll go ahead and say the following.
I think it's pretty clear that the purpose of my thread is to promote good will and inclusion within the lolita subculture, rather than exclude people. For some reason you have chosen to zero in on my word choice and rather than A) PM me privately or B) Make a polite request in the thread if you thought there was a serious problem, you instead chose to start issuing demands and use a lot of negative language. I'm not sure why you decided to choose my thread as a soap box for your concern, but your tone and attitude are not appreciated.
This is supposed to be a positive place for lolitas, regardless of gender, and I am happy to make any changes I need to to make sure that that is clear. However, I deserve to be treated with politeness, rather than negativity.
I apologize if my word choice has offended you in some way. I have no problem with transgendered people. I have no problem with those who identify as male and choose to wear dresses. The fact that I used the words "girls" and "sisters" does not change that, and does not make me or this thread discriminatory. While those who do not identify as female do of course exist within lolita, females are still very, very much the majority, so I think I can be given at least the benefit of the doubt that I meant no ill.
Unfortunately your post seems to have derailed the thread, and started more drama (the very thing I was attempting to distance the lolita community from, if only in this single thread) but I hope that future posters will continue to share their positive experiences.
I don't think he was being that unreasonable about it, to be honest. Just saying "girls" and "sisters" could definitely be seen as discriminatory. If you didn't mean it to be, that's wonderful, I believe you, but why not just apologize and move on instead of arguing about it?