Lolita is... Sexy?

[Taliesiin]

Sexiness and sexuality are not inherently sexual. Nudity itself isn't inherently sexual. It's what people attach to it, what it makes people fantasize about that makes it sexual.

So it's fine for you to feel sexy in anything you put on. "Modesty" is just another social construct.

[Taliesiin]

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Have you ever actually read the book? It is a masterpiece of literature, and I don't appreciate you talking badly about it.

Did I say something negative about it?

First post.

Yea. I said it's a book about a *****.
It is a book about a *****.
Whats the negative connotation?

It's hard to tell with the censors...

Turn off your adult filtering in your settings. The term she used isn't technically a "bad" word, I'm surprised Gaia would censor something like that. Silly.

I've read the book and found nothing wrong with calling it a book about a *****. It is what it is. Completely amazing book though.

[Clover_IceQueen]

Taliesiin

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Did I say something negative about it?

First post.

Yea. I said it's a book about a *****.
It is a book about a *****.
Whats the negative connotation?

It's hard to tell with the censors...

Turn off your adult filtering in your settings. The term she used isn't technically a "bad" word, I'm surprised Gaia would censor something like that. Silly.

I've read the book and found nothing wrong with calling it a book about a *****. It is what it is. Completely amazing book though.

Indeed. As a writer myself, I find that book to be amazingly crafted. The language in it is so beautiful... I hope I can write that well, one day.

[Almond Milks]

skunkplayer

Almond Milks

Famously Deranged

I don't believe that a "Sexy" or "Sexually Attractive" Lolita isn't a Lolita. It's simply a different styled Lolita, just like a Goth/Victorian/Kawaii Lolita, Its simply categorized like every other type of Lolita. Just because some people like to show some skin doesn't mean they aren't any less Lolita than any other one.

Sexy doesn't have to mean showing skin, that's not the kind of attractive we are talking about. Skimpy clothing goes against most lolita styles aside from ero, so yes, if someone was showing off a lot of skin it probably would go against the lolita aesthetic.

Does Lolita have to be so cut and dry? That is just what is becoming such a mix up here. Can any style be so cookie cutter to say "You can't be lolita because the cut of your skirt or top is wrong?"

If something goes completely against the aesthetic of a fashion, it isn't the same fashion anymore. There are plenty of ways you can experiment with lolita without erasing what lolita is. Besides, there is an entire style of lolita dedicated to pushing the boundaries in that way, which is why I mentioned ero. You can be non-cookie-cutter without flashing your boobs at everyone, it's not as black and white as the assumptions you're making.

[Famously Deranged]

Almond Milks

Famously Deranged

I don't believe that a "Sexy" or "Sexually Attractive" Lolita isn't a Lolita. It's simply a different styled Lolita, just like a Goth/Victorian/Kawaii Lolita, Its simply categorized like every other type of Lolita. Just because some people like to show some skin doesn't mean they aren't any less Lolita than any other one.

Sexy doesn't have to mean showing skin, that's not the kind of attractive we are talking about. Skimpy clothing goes against most lolita styles aside from ero, so yes, if someone was showing off a lot of skin it probably would go against the lolita aesthetic.
Hmm.. Not really. I guess, yeah if it was just some, sex toy like lolita outfit, then yes I agree. But like, Just a more attractive, skin showing Lolita outfit would probably count as one. It all depends on how far the person is going with the sexiness of the outfit.

[skunkplayer]

Famously Deranged

Almond Milks

Famously Deranged

I don't believe that a "Sexy" or "Sexually Attractive" Lolita isn't a Lolita. It's simply a different styled Lolita, just like a Goth/Victorian/Kawaii Lolita, Its simply categorized like every other type of Lolita. Just because some people like to show some skin doesn't mean they aren't any less Lolita than any other one.

Sexy doesn't have to mean showing skin, that's not the kind of attractive we are talking about. Skimpy clothing goes against most lolita styles aside from ero, so yes, if someone was showing off a lot of skin it probably would go against the lolita aesthetic.

Hmm.. Not really. I guess, yeah if it was just some, sex toy like lolita outfit, then yes I agree. But like, Just a more attractive, skin showing Lolita outfit would probably count as one. It all depends on how far the person is going with the sexiness of the outfit.

Those are some powerful words my friend, I believe a storm may be soon upon you

[Almond Milks]

skunkplayer

Famously Deranged

Almond Milks

Famously Deranged

I don't believe that a "Sexy" or "Sexually Attractive" Lolita isn't a Lolita. It's simply a different styled Lolita, just like a Goth/Victorian/Kawaii Lolita, Its simply categorized like every other type of Lolita. Just because some people like to show some skin doesn't mean they aren't any less Lolita than any other one.

Sexy doesn't have to mean showing skin, that's not the kind of attractive we are talking about. Skimpy clothing goes against most lolita styles aside from ero, so yes, if someone was showing off a lot of skin it probably would go against the lolita aesthetic.

Hmm.. Not really. I guess, yeah if it was just some, sex toy like lolita outfit, then yes I agree. But like, Just a more attractive, skin showing Lolita outfit would probably count as one. It all depends on how far the person is going with the sexiness of the outfit.

Those are some powerful words my friend, I believe a storm may be soon upon you

If it's ero, that's different, but it's generally accepted within the lolita community that regular lolita isn't skimpy or provocative. I doubt I'll get flamed for stating what you can learn on most lolita blogs. If you think what I'm saying is controversial or something you probably don't know that much about lolita.

[skunkplayer]

Ok.. the lines are being drawn and I think it can be said that you can dress with a bit of skin showing, but you can not walk into the lolita community and look for acceptance. If you want to wear that title and that outfit, then you are technically wrong and the community is offended.

[Almond Milks]

skunkplayer

Ok.. the lines are being drawn and I think it can be said that you can dress with a bit of skin showing, but you can not walk into the lolita community and look for acceptance. If you want to wear that title and that outfit, then you are technically wrong and the community is offended.

Way to twist what I said.

[skunkplayer]

Almond Milks

skunkplayer

Ok.. the lines are being drawn and I think it can be said that you can dress with a bit of skin showing, but you can not walk into the lolita community and look for acceptance. If you want to wear that title and that outfit, then you are technically wrong and the community is offended.

Way to twist what I said.

Sorry, it is a guy thing.. I was speaking to the other guys lurking

[Angel_Takio]

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Have you ever actually read the book? It is a masterpiece of literature, and I don't appreciate you talking badly about it.

Did I say something negative about it?

First post.

Yea. I said it's a book about a *****.
It is a book about a *****.
Whats the negative connotation?

It's hard to tell with the censors...

OOOH!!! I see the problem now.
The word is p-e-d-o-p-h-i-l-e.
You can turn those off, by the way.

[Jp Evan]

lolitaaa 4laugh heart

[Clover_IceQueen]

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Did I say something negative about it?

First post.

Yea. I said it's a book about a *****.
It is a book about a *****.
Whats the negative connotation?

It's hard to tell with the censors...

OOOH!!! I see the problem now.
The word is p-e-d-o-p-h-i-l-e.
You can turn those off, by the way.

Oh lol Silly gaia.

[Angel_Takio]

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Did I say something negative about it?

First post.

Yea. I said it's a book about a *****.
It is a book about a *****.
Whats the negative connotation?

It's hard to tell with the censors...

OOOH!!! I see the problem now.
The word is p-e-d-o-p-h-i-l-e.
You can turn those off, by the way.

Oh lol Silly gaia.

No harm done :3
Speaking of being a reader of fine literature in the lolita community, have you read Jane Eyre?

[Clover_IceQueen]

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Clover_IceQueen

Angel_Takio

Yea. I said it's a book about a *****.
It is a book about a *****.
Whats the negative connotation?

It's hard to tell with the censors...

OOOH!!! I see the problem now.
The word is p-e-d-o-p-h-i-l-e.
You can turn those off, by the way.

Oh lol Silly gaia.

No harm done :3
Speaking of being a reader of fine literature in the lolita community, have you read Jane Eyre?

I've only read an excerpt from it. Unfortunately, I can't get much reading done in college besides reading for classes sweatdrop