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- Posted: Tue, 02 Oct 2012 16:27:50 +0000
If I had a husband like that, I'd divorce him. rolleyes (This is probably why I'm 29 and still not married. lol)
Lolita to me is a hobby that I enjoy partaking in. It's not the basis of my relationship. I understand where he is coming from because to him, it's not what people wear everyday. When we started dating, I was a cosplayer. But I only wore it at conventions and had no reason to wear it out in public. I only got into Lolita this year, and it was kind of a replacement of cosplay because I don't have the time to sew costumes anymore, but I want to dress up at conventions still, because it's part of the experience. We also do lots of work at conventions together.
He's also introverted and doesn't like to draw too much attention to himself. While I'm the same in many aspects, I'm also a little more daring than he is. But I respect how he feels about it. I wear it to conventions and meetups. Sometimes I wear a casual coord if a friend in our con-circle is having a get-together. But I won't go out with it with him to the grocery store. If I went by myself or a friend, I would. But me being shy, I'd just wear something really causal and try to make it as normal looking as possible. Now, if I was going out with Lolita friends, I'd be all up for dressing to the 9's. But I haven't established much of a close friendship with any lolis in the local area yet, me being new and all.
Anyhow, It's the same kind of respect he shows me in regards to me not being interested in guns. He won't take me to a gun show because he knows it's not my thing. I won't take him to a meetup because he wouldn't want to be there. I don't force him to ride rollercoasters because he hates them and I love them. He loves olive loaf and I think it's nasty. lol. When you're in relationships, people have different interests. So really it's not THAT big a deal for me, except that I spent so much on this stuff, and I wish I could wear it more often, is all. It's not what brought us together, and is not the basis of my life.