Well, and this is just me personally, I get a new SO or I, too, become independent.
I thought this was generally the smart thing to do
and that only pathetic bitches did otherwise. neutral
A lot of times I'm perfectly happy being on my own. Most of the time I'm very happy. But sometimes (like any couple) we have issues and I am looking for tips on communicating this without accusing him of something, which tends to make him turn inward.
If you can't communicate this issue then your problem isn't the lack of attention, but the barriers preventing clear communication within the relationship. If he can't be part of the solution because he won't listen to you, then he's not worth it. heart
I try to talk about it with him.
The problem I see here is that your boyfriend isn't really willing to listen. The communication channel is broken simply because he doesn't want to talk about it or tries to justify his behavior by saying you're trying to guilt trip him.
Letting time pass will only make the distance stronger and you'll feel more lonely even if he's next to you. Quality time with your partner entails having interaction with each other, either verbally or physically. You could try and suggest him to go for a walk in the park, or going out to eat to talk about stuff. If he's still not willing to listen to you, then this relationship will break. It also depends on how you approach things with him. If you're civil and calm and try to express your feelings without arguing, then he'll most likely listen.