POlSON CANDY
I can't help but judge people who decide to be virgins by choice til marriage. They have no clue how much they're missing... not only that but since they wait so long, it sets them up for false expectations on what their first time is going to be like. There's also a chance they're be stuck with someone who sucks at sex for life. Life should be lived to the fullest. Not to be wasted on solely one person...
But that's just my opinion. If you wanna live life not knowing about all the amazing sex you're missing out on, then good for you. Good sex makes a great relationship. If you make a commitment to someone who flat out sucks in bed, then your life is going to suck.
3nodding
Sweetheart, I'm not 'missing out' on anything. I've no interest in having sex right now, and if for some reason I really want to have sex before marriage, I'm not barred from doing so, nor will I feel guilty. It's simply something I want to do, because of my personal views seeing it as something being between people who love each other dearly, and my value on marriage. And while I've never actually had sex, I do know how to pleasure myself, so it's not an issue of 'not knowing.' I know sex is an absolutely wonderful thing. I know how good it feels when you've hit the right spot. I'm positive it's even better with the right sex partner.
Now, that's an argument people try to me all the time--I might marry someone who can't please me, that we can't have a good relationship. But the fact of the matter, knowing someone will be good with you does not mean having sex with them beforehand. Being open and talking about sex, and learning about each others fetishes and kinks and spots can help you figure out if being sex partners is something you can do successfully. You can be sexual with each other without having sex (mutual masturbation, and other intimate moments, for example). There's also the fact that if we do end up together and don't enjoy sex with him, what's the big deal? If I've gone however long without sex, I'm sure I can go longer. You don't need sex with each other to be sexually happy. And if he were to enjoy it, I'd still please him. If he didn't, well, so what. Because if he lets that ruin a marriage, well, I suppose I made a mistake with who I married. I can go on with life perfectly content.