TTC and Adoption Support O5.29.2O15

What about you?

I'm trying to conceive!	15.2%	[ 96 ]
I have a baby!	7.0%	[ 44 ]
I'm TTC #2+!	3.3%	[ 21 ]
I don't want kids	22.2%	[ 140 ]
I'm pregnant!	7.8%	[ 49 ]
I'm infertile	5.1%	[ 32 ]
I'm just voting~	39.5%	[ 249 ]
Total Votes:			[ 631 ]

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Faerie Dreams

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Faerie Dreams

I wish you the best of luck!
And I totally understand the need for this thread outside of the pregnancy support....
I have a son and desperately want another, but know it's a bad time for another child right now so we aren't trying
But reading everyone talking about their pregnancies make my desires for another kid 100x worse

*plenty of sticky baby dust sent your way*

Thank you very much for the baby dust!! May I add you to the parents list? biggrin

Sure! my son is currently 17 months old and named Cyrus =)

I'll probably be ttc come February, I want to wait till I start potty training him before I have a newborn to take care of as well

You are completely welcome to stay and chat in the meant time! Thanks for letting me add ya to the list~

[AraTeran]

I had my kid with IVF.

Fertility testing involves a lot of things. Some of the stuff is considered elective so you might have to pay out of pocket, but if you have irregular periods you might be able to get a good amount of it covered as a health problem.

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hapahaole

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A major part of my anxiety about getting pregnant comes from the fact that the prime fertility age is 20-24, and I am closing in on 24.

I've never heard about a prime fertility age before. If it helps, I'm pregnant with my first and I'm 29. I don't think there's anything magical about the age 24. I have heard something about complications being more likely if you have your first after 30. I thought it had more to do with being sexually active before 30 than actually conceiving before then, but I don't remember my source so I'm not sure on it. I also have a sister in law that had her first last year after trying for 2-3 years (conceived at 28 yrs old). So be patient and don't get anxious about turning 24. You still have plenty of time. 3nodding

One piece of advice another sister in law (who is a nurse) gave a friend who was trying was to stop trying so hard. The idea is that the stress and anxiety of wanting and hoping taxes the body of energy. All of these emotional roller coasters are draining and your body doesn't dare get pregnant because your energy is too taxed to be able to put energy into growing another human being. The friend took the advice and went back on birth control. sweatdrop Kinda missed the point there. But I have noticed that a lot of people I know who have tried for years finally got pregnant after giving up on the idea and moving on with their lives. Easier said than done, I know. But perhaps finding a career goal or humanitarian effort to focus your energy and get your mind off it instead might help? (Providing that isn't too draining on you either).

Given your irregular periods I would also recommend you see a fertility doctor. Knowledge is power. If you do have something wrong early intervention may help immensely. And if nothing is wrong, it could help decrease your anxiety levels which can help you conceive biggrin I just think there's more pro's than con's for you. Best of luck to you no matter what you decide! And don't let people try to tell you to not want to conceive (I hope it doesn't sound like that's what I'm trying to do, it's not!). There isn't a more beautiful goal for you to have. I wish you all the luck in reaching it!

This is the article I was reading referring to age vs. coneception here.

Though thank you for telling me about your sisters! I love hearing stories about people who are older who've become pregnant and had children. I did have high anxiety and stress the first 6 months we were trying back in 2O11, I've learned to just relax and enjoy it; I'm excited but not stressed. This time the sexual connection is much more sensual and less "planned".

And thank you for your advice about seeing a fertility doctor. I do want to see a fertility doctor if natural conception continues to just not work for us. I suppose my greatest reason for wanting to wait at this point is to that I have a clearer "start" date on when we began TTC. I have heard many doctors will turn you away if you've only been trying for a few months. I should be receiving my OPKs in the mail tomorrow and after a few months of using them I will be looking in to Fertility Specialists.

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AraTeran

I had my kid with IVF.

Fertility testing involves a lot of things. Some of the stuff is considered elective so you might have to pay out of pocket, but if you have irregular periods you might be able to get a good amount of it covered as a health problem.

First of all; congratulations!!! May I add your name to the list of parents?

Second; thank you so much for posting here. I have a lot of questions about IVF, I guess my main fears are how painful it could be, if it could interfere with natural conception if we try it and it doesn't work, how much did it cost? I would much rather getting these questions answered by some one life rather than reading articles that may be outdated. Thanks again for posting!!!

[AraTeran]

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AraTeran

I had my kid with IVF.

Fertility testing involves a lot of things. Some of the stuff is considered elective so you might have to pay out of pocket, but if you have irregular periods you might be able to get a good amount of it covered as a health problem.

First of all; congratulations!!! May I add your name to the list of parents?

Second; thank you so much for posting here. I have a lot of questions about IVF, I guess my main fears are how painful it could be, if it could interfere with natural conception if we try it and it doesn't work, how much did it cost? I would much rather getting these questions answered by some one life rather than reading articles that may be outdated. Thanks again for posting!!!

You can add me to the parent list.

We didn't do IVF the typical way; my husband is transgender (female to male) so we harvested his eggs, got them fertilized, and implanted one into me after a few years being frozen. Normally the female just has them harvested, fertilized, and implanted a couple days later. I am familiar with the whole process though so feel free to ask me any questions. It was expensive so we had to save for awhile to get it done and it involves lots of needles but we are glad we got it done.

IVF is pretty extreme. There are other easier (and cheaper) things that couples usually try before resorting to IVF.

[Kitty Bear Chama]

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Kitty Bear Chama

My period has always been irregular and I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend of 3.5 years for the past year but I fear I may have PCOS.
My doctor appointment is next week so I'll have my test results then but I'm worried that I may be infertile. My boyfriend and I are 22 and we've talked about having kids in our 20s but if I am infertile, it will devastate me. :/

I wish you good luck. ^_^

I will pray for you. Keep us updated, and whatever news you receive I will be here for you through it if you'd like.

Thank you and I will keep you updated. ^_^

[A Redhead Angel]

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Do you use any kind of period tracker?

[Goondoggle]

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Goondoggle

Good luck TTC! Another girl from the Pregnancy Support thread tried making a thread like this a few days ago and it didn't turn out so well. This one seems to be off to a better start. I know it can be very difficult to hang around pregnant ladies, especially when they are unwanted or unplanned pregnancies while you're trying so hard. It feels unfair. I think a separate TTC thread is a fantastic idea and I'd love to see this become a successful thread. But, if for any reason you decide to shut this thread down, feel free to come join us in the Pregnancy Support thread. Some of us are pregnant, some of us are TTC, and there's plenty of love and support to go around.

If you'd like, I can send you a PM to another website that has a forum dedicated to women TTC. A lot of the women there have PCOS and I'm sure someone might be able to direct you to an affordable specialist in your area.

Yes!! Absolutely!! I would really love to have more out going links and resources for anything TTC, especially dealing with possible infertility and conditions such as PCOS.

And thank you for your welcoming arms- it seems quite a few users disagree about having this separate from the Pregnancy Support thread. I'll just ignore all the negativity and promote positive posts like this. Thank you again and good luck with your pregnancy!! May I add you to the list?

Thank you. ^_^ Sure, you may add me to the list (my EDD is 2/25/14 unless my doctor says otherwise at my appointment on Aug 5). I hope you don't mind if I stick around and help this thread along.

I sent you a PM with the forum I mentioned, that way you can check in out in private before deciding if you want to put it in your resources. Another resource you could add is the Android app (might be for iPhone too) Period Calendar/Tracker. You can track just about all things female, such as your period (obviously), OPK test +/-, pills, symptoms, moods, weight gain/loss, basal body temp, and more (now I just sound like I'm advertising; FOR ONLY $19.99 WE'LL ALSO THROW IN A SECOND FOR FREE). Even if you have irregular periods you might notice a pattern while tracking. Also, if you're keeping track you will have something to take to the doctor with you.

If I can think of anything else that might help, I'll let you know.

[Manther]

Trying to conceive is weird. Practically everyone in my family was an accident. Lol.

Maybe you have PCOS. Look into that.

And why can a 23-year-old be given fertility treatments but a 24-year-old can't get her tubes tied? No fair.

[Sneiroops]

Sermanther

Trying to conceive is weird. Practically everyone in my family was an accident. Lol.

Maybe you have PCOS. Look into that.

And why can a 23-year-old be given fertility treatments but a 24-year-old can't get her tubes tied? No fair.

Who told you that? My sister has her tied at 20.

[Mississippi Black Velvet]

Sticky baby dust hun! smile

I'm Sarah and I have a 6 month old baby girl named Sophia. My husband and I tried for 2 years to get pregnant and I did finally in 2011 but at 19 weeks I miscarried due to an incompetent cervix. A year later I was pregnant again with my daughter whom with a lot of bed rest and medical aid I was able to carry her to 39 weeks.

Don't stop trying though! I wish you all the luck. smile

[Pretty pretty bacon]

Hi heart heart

wanted to stop in and say I thought this was a great idea for a support thread 4laugh


I'm not TTC, but Im 21 and was diagnosed with PCOS at age 17.I'd like to have 3 children one day, so I was devastated to learn it may be impossible. I have since come to accept it, and am just waiting for time to tell what happens. I'm on birth control and spironolactone to treat my PCOS at the moment. I've done a lot of art projects revolving about PCOS, and my concerns of being infertile.... As well have done a lot of research on the condition myself.

Also, i wanted to mention,if tests come back for anyone that there's a reason behind trouble conceiving (such as pcos, endometriosis, etc.) as opposed to unexplained infertility, I highly recommend trying to see a specialist in the condition .

I'm from Illinois , and for the past two years I've been seeing a endocrinologist at University Chicago Hospital that specializes in PCOS . It's made a world of a difference, and the doctor is amazing . If anyone is from Illinois and interested , pm me or quote me and I'll give the contact info . There is also a RE/Reproductive Endocrinologist that specializes in PCOS ,at Northwestern Hospital.

[Manther]

Sneiroops

Sermanther

Trying to conceive is weird. Practically everyone in my family was an accident. Lol.

Maybe you have PCOS. Look into that.

And why can a 23-year-old be given fertility treatments but a 24-year-old can't get her tubes tied? No fair.

Who told you that? My sister has her tied at 20.

How'd that happen?