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Remy is back again....

Please don't kill me. D:	12.0%	[ 109 ]
I'll be nice, I promise.	23.6%	[ 214 ]
I'm back for now, we're all good right?	14.3%	[ 130 ]
Wait... What are you doing with that knife?	50.1%	[ 455 ]
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[Song of the Century]

timeywimey666

You could look under the genderqueer identities for a bit of exploring.

maybe0memories

Welcome, both of you 4laugh I'm Roy, 19, FtM, pre-everything and very closeted. I mostly lurk here.

[Hekrus]

theamazingwrabbit

err, updates for anyone who cares?

recently someone was running their mouth and let slip to one of the sargents that I was on T... so i got called in and accused of "taking foreign substances". I wrote a statement denying that i was doing anything without a doc's script, which is the truth. They freaked me out is all, they started reading me rights and asked if i wanted a lawyer and all that.
So i got called back to see them again today, and the assistant flight chief said not to worry about it, that there was some sort of confusion. so... i guess I might be in the clear? No freaking clue yeah? I will let y'all know.

ahh what else... OH i passed my dlpt test! just barely passed but i am not even mad, one kid even failed it and i just really want to get out of here. But when i look back on my life that i spent here, just that past year, i suppose a lot happened? I joined my transgender support group here, started T, met lots of people. I suppose i shouldnt consider it a waste.
It's my last weekend here, i thought i was going to spend it with my best friend but he isnt picking up. For some reason i can't think of anyone else i would want to hang out with. I dont want to just sit here in my room but dammit it's so safe here, if i go outside all by myself I wouldn't gain any enjoyment out of it. I hate being alone so much, i dont care if its just with someone i can just tolerate or barely know.

Also I couldn't think of any situation in which a female would be the least bit interested in a transman. I don't have a proper d**k, and Im not big and tall and super strong and people just look at me like im some sort of novelty, like "oh that's cool but that's something i'd never want to be or be with". Im just so damn scared of being alone, it's one of my worst fears but I think i just have to get over that fear because that's what's going to happen.
Someone said it was because I have to go through this thing first, to transition more and feel better about myself. But I do feel better about myself. I feel way more confident than before, i feel like im finally fusing with my body. Before it would only feel like i was dragging something around that wasnt connected to me like an anchor. Despite all that I still feel inferior to almost everyone around me.

just bitching about random stuff. but it's all on-topic, i swear

Well that sounds nerve wracking, I hope you are in the clear about that whole situation as it seems.

I can totally relate to the worries about finding someone who will appreciate and love you for who you are and not consider you an oddity. But when you think about it everyone is a little odd. I would ask you- when you're thinking about a girl to date do you ask yourself similar questions? Like- is her bust a certain size? is her hair a certain length? is she graceful? You get the idea. If some one is going to truly love you it's going to be for your personality, your sense of humor, your kindness, and if you're trustworthy. Remember, most people are looking for the same thing as you and share similar fears, trans or not. Most people are just looking for someone to love and accept them even with all their flaws. I don't know you, but I think you deserve someone who loves you for who you are and not for petty reasons like the size or existence of specific genitalia. And if you feel like you are getting to a much better place internally I'm really happy for you and I believe that positivity will only attract others in time.

[maybe0memories]

Song of the Century

Thanks for the welcome smile I'm a lurker too, I flit around quite a bit between the ld and in the news forums

[Eddou]

I've been thinking about something for the past few days and I was hoping you guys would have some opinions. I'm wondering if I the reason I stepped away from the idea of transitioning is partly because I'm a really big feminist? I feel as though, there's no point in being who I am if what I'll be, as a women would have a bigger impact in society? I don't mean to devalue either or gender. Its the idea of erasing privilege. I'm very charismatic/strong and I think those are qualities that might get me far where I'm heading. I prefer the idea, based on my values, of a successful me as a woman the better choice. Despite my reflex to continue to identify as male, I've learned to deal with dysphoria and thinking of gender alltogether. There are numerous factors, but I wonder if any other feminists feel the same way?

[Robot Giny]

Eddou

I've been thinking about something for the past few days and I was hoping you guys would have some opinions. I'm wondering if I the reason I stepped away from the idea of transitioning is partly because I'm a really big feminist? I feel as though, there's no point in being who I am if what I'll be, as a women would have a bigger impact in society? I don't mean to devalue either or gender. Its the idea of erasing privilege. I'm very charismatic/strong and I think those are qualities that might get me far where I'm heading. I prefer the idea, based on my values, of a successful me as a woman the better choice. Despite my reflex to continue to identify as male, I've learned to deal with dysphoria and thinking of gender alltogether. There are numerous factors, but I wonder if any other feminists feel the same way?

I kind of love this comment, because I am also a huge feminist. I actually just finished my Undergraduate degree in Women, Gender, and Sexualities Studies.

For a while I felt like my trans* identity and my feminist identity were constantly at odds with each other. Then I realized that they couldn't, because my belief in intersectional feminism doesn't allow for that kind of friction. And then I realized that feminist women are everywhere, but feminist men are rare, and thus the impact can be greater (think of Jackson Katz.) Transitioning, and really coming to respect and accept my maleness, has done nothing but solidify and strengthen my own feminism. It was because of feminism that I became strong enough to accept myself this way, and it will continue to be because of feminism that I succeed.

[Ethlora]

I know I'm not a regular but I wanted to pop in and give an update. I've given up trying to pin down my gender. Mostly because whenever I've tried to be specific it's always shifted and changed on me. When I have to use a label, I prefer genderqueer because it's the closest thing to describing my identity.

I recently bumped into a fellow Gaian at my college who is trans. After hanging out with him a few days, I think he's pretty awesome. and it's a shame he's already taken...

[FORTRAN77]

Eddou

I've been thinking about something for the past few days and I was hoping you guys would have some opinions. I'm wondering if I the reason I stepped away from the idea of transitioning is partly because I'm a really big feminist? I feel as though, there's no point in being who I am if what I'll be, as a women would have a bigger impact in society? I don't mean to devalue either or gender. Its the idea of erasing privilege. I'm very charismatic/strong and I think those are qualities that might get me far where I'm heading. I prefer the idea, based on my values, of a successful me as a woman the better choice. Despite my reflex to continue to identify as male, I've learned to deal with dysphoria and thinking of gender alltogether. There are numerous factors, but I wonder if any other feminists feel the same way?

I was in a similar situation. If I succeed as an astrophysicist, if I do it perceived as a woman I'll be breaking down barriers and the act itself will contribute to equality.
However, when I got to university, (right after my all-dude differential equations class - the prof's a woman, rather odd class), I found that the gender ratio was about 60/40. That close to parity combined with the complete disastrous inability to ignore/cope with my dysphoria any longer and the fact it kept getting worse to the point it threatened my life? I realized I couldn't keep ignoring it, because it wasn't going away. I'm glad yours did, if it did. I wasn't going to be successful, I wasn't going to be anything, if I didn't transition. I'm still trying to figure out what being a man who is a feminist exactly means, there's a blog I follow who's one of the most vocal atheistic feminists and he discusses the topic of the role of men in feminism occasionally.

[MarigoldMari]

Little progress update. I got my insurance card replaced in time for my plastic surgery consult on the 6th of June. I met a really awesome vampire goth tattoo artist and now we're a couple, and she's like, "if you can get down here I'll take you as an apprentice" and I'm like, dancing in my apartment. So my life is changing quite a bit, with possibly being able to get my top surgery hopefully by the end of the year, and new beginnings with this lovely lady. I'm not going to put all of my hope into these pieces of possible progress because I've learned not to, but for now I am happy. I'm trying to pace myself, too. Things take time. I'm still a bit worried about who is going to take care of me after my top surgery, but I will deal with that worry when its actually staring me in the face and urgent.

[Eddou]

FORTRAN77

Thank you for replying. heart

I hope you are doing better honestly. I agree representation is one of the most encouraging factors, in science, in politics, but whatever you choose its meant to be for yourself. You made the right choice. I was able to lock my own dysphoria down by disgendering either choices and being selfless for a long time now. I feel like its catching back up to me, since I can't help but assume myself as male, yet make little effort to change physically, it makes the people around me uncomfortable. I could care less about how they view me, but I just feel like it isnt right, like I'm discouraging either one by being in between, but I'm too comfortable this way.

As for feminist men and the place of men in feminism. There is no place for them, there is only feminism. Don't let the concept confuse you, support for equality, representation and empowerment are the key factors don't let any male oriented ideas muddle the movement.

[Eddou]

Robot Giny

Thank you for replying, this is very encouraging heart

I do agree there is no friction between the two values, I just suddenly started doubting myself, because I realized I may have been using a female image as a reason not to go through with transitioning. I still don't know what I'll do with myself, but its really encouraging to know others feel as strongly about feminism and the impact we have either way on the movement.

[theamazingwrabbit]

whoa feminism discussion in a trans thread???
:I

[Eddou]

Why not? Trans people at their base have to discuss gender in one context or the other, don't they?

[Earl Dante]

I don't see how identifying as a man conflicts with feminism.

[Atavist]

Earl Dante

I don't see how identifying as a man conflicts with feminism.

I agree! We have some weird a** femi-nazis at school and they are constantly bad mouthing transgenders. I wish a fire truck would run them over. stressed