Minak0
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- Posted: Mon, 04 Feb 2013 06:11:28 +0000
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As for you being a d**k, I don't see it here. I know how struggles are offline, so I understand your pain and troubles with everything. The "dickness" is sometimes warranted.Good thing is though, you are pretty much a brother to all of us. biggrin
I'm mostly the same person on and offline. But when I get annoyed or pushed too far, I don't take s**t anymore. Take for example the person a few pages back who said they thought most trans people were shallow. I started out okay, but I quickly went into "******** you" mode. I do that offline, too. Except offline I am not so eloquent, so I come off way less intelligent and more just.. Ugly.
I've had a strained relationship with my parents for as long as I can remember. I've been wanting to run away forever. I always disliked them and wanted to move out asap. I was one of those kids that would've been more than happy to disappear at 18 and never see them again. When I got out of the navy, I swore I'd rather be homeless than live with them again (after I moved back in with them from college, I decided that would be the last time).
I have a few theories for why we don't get along, but the tl;dr version is we don't. They try to do everything for me and be nice, but I still can't get along with them. They will be okay and I'll snap over something stupid and it just becomes an "I've never loved you!!" screaming match.
Which is stupid, and nobody should have to deal with that.
My parents didn't accept me as trans for a longass time. So I always had a really nice excuse for hating them to fall back on. But this christmas they went full on the "Son" thing. I got all "Dear Son" letters and christmas gifts and stuff.
So now the only excuse I have left to fallback on why I avoid them is because I'm an a*****e.
So, ******** it, I'll be the black sheep of the family.
We really don't have anything in common, and I've been building on this non-relationship for so long it'd be weird to have a 'real' family now.
If you have a healthy family, don't ruin it. Families can and often are amazing things.
But when I've cared more for my adoptive family of friends than I've cared for my blood family, there's something wrong there. And I really don't think I'll ever change in that regard.
... I didn't mean to type so much.
Sorry. sweatdrop
Welcome. c:
I just tend to ignore those idiots. :/.... They say their thing, they will sit around and wait for a reply, and eventually leave. If you don't grace them with a reply, they will know trolling is ineffective here. As for the online/offline thing, that's gotta be amusing. x_x.... Me, I am not a fighter in any way, even with arguments. No thanks!
Jeez..... that seriously just sucks to hear..... especially since I am one that only ever attends family get-togethers, and no other party-related events like barbeques and stuff. ;/...
Yeah, you are right.... well, atleast they make an attempt, even though it fails? D:... I can't pretend I know how these sparrings occur, but if that's how it is.... like I said, just sucks to hear this. :/....
Awe... that's nice...... my mother still calls me "Son" sadly.... but unlike you, I am just not fully out and about so.... :/.... It's nice they went that far for you though. Atleast where you are standing now, you are being the big man here and admitting it is yourself after they are trying to come to terms with you. Good for you. ;^;
Yeah, I can see it would be awkward at this point. :/.... but just remember, if something happens to them, you may come to regret it. I see stories of people who say things and do things and they regret it in these ways. I wish I could remember the full story, but I know my great grandmother had three daughters, and my grandmother was the middle child. guess when my great grandmother passed on, the older (or was it younger?..) daughter never appeared. I guess she and my great grandmother never got along, and when she passed away, that daughter never made contact with anyone until she needed something. My grandmother told her off. I can't imagine cutting off ties like that and not being there for your parents on their deathbed....
My family is healthy..... but I am not open to them, and that could change everything.... I don't know yet. My family is kind of gullible though. I kind of hope, seeing a therapist, I can get him to say or write a note saying something like "We have diagnosed your son(daughter) for Gender Identity Disorder" so it would be easier to explain to the rest of my family and have it in notation from a specialist. Most would buy it, and it would be easier for me I think.
Now, I wrote a lot back to you. :p....
Don't worry about it. c:
*If you reply, I will reply tomorrow, sleepy :c*
Night bro. :s