The Painful Truth: Self Harm - Discussion & Understanding

Do you self harm?

Yes	35.8%	[ 1024 ]
I used to, but I recovered	32.7%	[ 934 ]
I don't, but I know someone who does	13.6%	[ 389 ]
No	17.9%	[ 512 ]
Total Votes:			[ 2859 ]

[summer1412]

Baby_Mia

A question on self-harm before I decide if I should post here.

Is it self-harm if you keep going to someone that you know will hurt you emotionally? FOR INSTANCE, if you continue to go to someone for sex knowing that, in the end, you'll feel terrible?

I think that's self-harming in an emotional way, rather than physical. We've been focusing more on the physical aspects of self harm, such as cutting or physically injuring oneself. You are more than welcome to post here regardless, it seems everybody has an opinion or belief on self harm and we'd love to hear yours.

[Baby_Mia]

summer1412

Baby_Mia

A question on self-harm before I decide if I should post here.

Is it self-harm if you keep going to someone that you know will hurt you emotionally? FOR INSTANCE, if you continue to go to someone for sex knowing that, in the end, you'll feel terrible?

I think that's self-harming in an emotional way, rather than physical. We've been focusing more on the physical aspects of self harm, such as cutting or physically injuring oneself. You are more than welcome to post here regardless, it seems everybody has an opinion or belief on self harm and we'd love to hear yours.

Well, I just think that it'd be considered self-harm since you're the one letting the harm happen; and since it's sex, which is physical...
Not to mention the physical effects of sex and what *can* happen. I say this because I've been in two pregnancy scares the past year, and the latter of the two wasn't a scare, but a reality. Unfortunate miscarriage, but nonetheless... Even though I know that I shouldn't go back, when times at home get hard (and they do), I get the urge to go back and "hurt" myself, then lie there in sick self-loathing for a few minutes.

[summer1412]

Baby_Mia

summer1412

Baby_Mia

A question on self-harm before I decide if I should post here.

Is it self-harm if you keep going to someone that you know will hurt you emotionally? FOR INSTANCE, if you continue to go to someone for sex knowing that, in the end, you'll feel terrible?

I think that's self-harming in an emotional way, rather than physical. We've been focusing more on the physical aspects of self harm, such as cutting or physically injuring oneself. You are more than welcome to post here regardless, it seems everybody has an opinion or belief on self harm and we'd love to hear yours.

Well, I just think that it'd be considered self-harm since you're the one letting the harm happen; and since it's sex, which is physical...
Not to mention the physical effects of sex and what *can* happen. I say this because I've been in two pregnancy scares the past year, and the latter of the two wasn't a scare, but a reality. Unfortunate miscarriage, but nonetheless... Even though I know that I shouldn't go back, when times at home get hard (and they do), I get the urge to go back and "hurt" myself, then lie there in sick self-loathing for a few minutes.

I honestly don't consider sex - regretted or otherwise - self harm. This is just my opinion, others here may disagree.
It may be emotional distress, but it isn't the same thing, imo.

[GoddessDivine]

summer1412

Baby_Mia

summer1412

Baby_Mia

A question on self-harm before I decide if I should post here.

Is it self-harm if you keep going to someone that you know will hurt you emotionally? FOR INSTANCE, if you continue to go to someone for sex knowing that, in the end, you'll feel terrible?

I think that's self-harming in an emotional way, rather than physical. We've been focusing more on the physical aspects of self harm, such as cutting or physically injuring oneself. You are more than welcome to post here regardless, it seems everybody has an opinion or belief on self harm and we'd love to hear yours.

Well, I just think that it'd be considered self-harm since you're the one letting the harm happen; and since it's sex, which is physical...
Not to mention the physical effects of sex and what *can* happen. I say this because I've been in two pregnancy scares the past year, and the latter of the two wasn't a scare, but a reality. Unfortunate miscarriage, but nonetheless... Even though I know that I shouldn't go back, when times at home get hard (and they do), I get the urge to go back and "hurt" myself, then lie there in sick self-loathing for a few minutes.

I honestly don't consider sex - regretted or otherwise - self harm. This is just my opinion, others here may disagree.
It may be emotional distress, but it isn't the same thing, imo.

Neither do I, but her mentality seems similar to the Self-Harm cycle.

[summer1412]

To better phrase it: sex is not an injury, unless it's rape, which someone can't control. Therefore it isn't physical harm. And with a pregnancy and miscarriage (my deepest sympathy for yours), it happens to women who have no regret about the cause.

[Baby_Mia]

summer1412

To better phrase it: sex is not an injury, unless it's rape, which someone can't control. Therefore it isn't physical harm. And with a pregnancy and miscarriage (my deepest sympathy for yours), it happens to women who have no regret about the cause.

Ah, I neglected to mention that that's what the first instance with this person in question was. Didn't think it was relevant.

[summer1412]

GoddessDivine

summer1412

Baby_Mia

summer1412

Baby_Mia

A question on self-harm before I decide if I should post here.

Is it self-harm if you keep going to someone that you know will hurt you emotionally? FOR INSTANCE, if you continue to go to someone for sex knowing that, in the end, you'll feel terrible?

I think that's self-harming in an emotional way, rather than physical. We've been focusing more on the physical aspects of self harm, such as cutting or physically injuring oneself. You are more than welcome to post here regardless, it seems everybody has an opinion or belief on self harm and we'd love to hear yours.

Well, I just think that it'd be considered self-harm since you're the one letting the harm happen; and since it's sex, which is physical...
Not to mention the physical effects of sex and what *can* happen. I say this because I've been in two pregnancy scares the past year, and the latter of the two wasn't a scare, but a reality. Unfortunate miscarriage, but nonetheless... Even though I know that I shouldn't go back, when times at home get hard (and they do), I get the urge to go back and "hurt" myself, then lie there in sick self-loathing for a few minutes.

I honestly don't consider sex - regretted or otherwise - self harm. This is just my opinion, others here may disagree.
It may be emotional distress, but it isn't the same thing, imo.

Neither do I, but her mentality seems similar to the Self-Harm cycle.

Perhaps, but it seems to border more along the lines of self-loathing or victim's mentality, imo.

Sorry to be analyzing you, honey, I just tend to come at things from a more psychological standpoint sometimes.

[summer1412]

Baby_Mia

summer1412

To better phrase it: sex is not an injury, unless it's rape, which someone can't control. Therefore it isn't physical harm. And with a pregnancy and miscarriage (my deepest sympathy for yours), it happens to women who have no regret about the cause.

Ah, I neglected to mention that that's what the first instance with this person in question was. Didn't think it was relevant.

It is to an extent. If it's rape, it's not self harming because you could not control it and you were not doing it to yourself.
To continue sleeping with this person, that is emotionally harmful, but I do not consider it self harm. This is just my opinion, as I said, others here may feel differently.

[WindWolf94]

Baby_Mia

summer1412

To better phrase it: sex is not an injury, unless it's rape, which someone can't control. Therefore it isn't physical harm. And with a pregnancy and miscarriage (my deepest sympathy for yours), it happens to women who have no regret about the cause.

Ah, I neglected to mention that that's what the first instance with this person in question was. Didn't think it was relevant.

erm...... you really should have told the police.

[GoddessDivine]

summer1412

GoddessDivine

summer1412

Baby_Mia

summer1412

Baby_Mia

A question on self-harm before I decide if I should post here.

Is it self-harm if you keep going to someone that you know will hurt you emotionally? FOR INSTANCE, if you continue to go to someone for sex knowing that, in the end, you'll feel terrible?

I think that's self-harming in an emotional way, rather than physical. We've been focusing more on the physical aspects of self harm, such as cutting or physically injuring oneself. You are more than welcome to post here regardless, it seems everybody has an opinion or belief on self harm and we'd love to hear yours.

Well, I just think that it'd be considered self-harm since you're the one letting the harm happen; and since it's sex, which is physical...
Not to mention the physical effects of sex and what *can* happen. I say this because I've been in two pregnancy scares the past year, and the latter of the two wasn't a scare, but a reality. Unfortunate miscarriage, but nonetheless... Even though I know that I shouldn't go back, when times at home get hard (and they do), I get the urge to go back and "hurt" myself, then lie there in sick self-loathing for a few minutes.

I honestly don't consider sex - regretted or otherwise - self harm. This is just my opinion, others here may disagree.
It may be emotional distress, but it isn't the same thing, imo.

Neither do I, but her mentality seems similar to the Self-Harm cycle.

Perhaps, but it seems to border more along the lines of self-loathing or victim's mentality, imo.

Sorry to be analyzing you, honey, I just tend to come at things from a more psychological standpoint sometimes.

Ahhhh. Now that's why I recognized it. You know how my two cycles are thrown together. Sometimes I confuse the mentalities, because I recognize the feelings.

[Retarded Ardvarks]

I would contribute to this conversation but i don't really know what to say.

[Baby_Mia]

WindWolf94

Baby_Mia

summer1412

To better phrase it: sex is not an injury, unless it's rape, which someone can't control. Therefore it isn't physical harm. And with a pregnancy and miscarriage (my deepest sympathy for yours), it happens to women who have no regret about the cause.

Ah, I neglected to mention that that's what the first instance with this person in question was. Didn't think it was relevant.

erm...... you really should have told the police.

In an attempt to not make this a really long post, I will summarize:
- Crush for all of high school.
- Graduation.
- He was horny, I was naive. There was a blindfold and fellatio.
- Weeks passed, and I ended up locked in a room with him and the lights turned off. Things happened.
- Didn't go to the police because I was still...I don't know what. Subservient. Don't know the term.
- Went back to him because he was an escape.
- Still go back because he is an escape.

[summer1412]

GoddessDivine

summer1412

Perhaps, but it seems to border more along the lines of self-loathing or victim's mentality, imo.

Sorry to be analyzing you, honey, I just tend to come at things from a more psychological standpoint sometimes.

Ahhhh. Now that's why I recognized it. You know how my two cycles are thrown together. Sometimes I confuse the mentalities, because I recognize the feelings.

It's alright, I understand. The feeling are very similar.

[summer1412]

Baby_Mia

WindWolf94

Baby_Mia

summer1412

To better phrase it: sex is not an injury, unless it's rape, which someone can't control. Therefore it isn't physical harm. And with a pregnancy and miscarriage (my deepest sympathy for yours), it happens to women who have no regret about the cause.

Ah, I neglected to mention that that's what the first instance with this person in question was. Didn't think it was relevant.

erm...... you really should have told the police.

In an attempt to not make this a really long post, I will summarize:
- Crush for all of high school.
- Graduation.
- He was horny, I was naive. There was a blindfold and fellatio.
- Weeks passed, and I ended up locked in a room with him and the lights turned off. Things happened.
- Didn't go to the police because I was still...I don't know what. Subservient. Don't know the term.
- Went back to him because he was an escape.
- Still go back because he is an escape.

This is indeed a very unhealthy relationship... I would encourage severing ties. I know it may be hard, but even though this isn't hurting you physically, this is severely damaging your self esteem, your psyche, your security. It's a damaging relationship.

[WindWolf94]

Baby_Mia

WindWolf94

Baby_Mia

summer1412

To better phrase it: sex is not an injury, unless it's rape, which someone can't control. Therefore it isn't physical harm. And with a pregnancy and miscarriage (my deepest sympathy for yours), it happens to women who have no regret about the cause.

Ah, I neglected to mention that that's what the first instance with this person in question was. Didn't think it was relevant.

erm...... you really should have told the police.

In an attempt to not make this a really long post, I will summarize:
- Crush for all of high school.
- Graduation.
- He was horny, I was naive. There was a blindfold and fellatio.
- Weeks passed, and I ended up locked in a room with him and the lights turned off. Things happened.
- Didn't go to the police because I was still...I don't know what. Subservient. Don't know the term.
- Went back to him because he was an escape.
- Still go back because he is an escape.

that does help me better understand the situation. then, yeah, its is a sort of self harm.

@thread, i feel sort of bad for my karate teacher now.