so this is fair how?

[lovepink689]

My boyfriend is very insecure, and doesn't want me having guy friends, even if i've had them for a while before i knew him. He doesn't want me hanging out with them, so i always make up excuses not to when they ask me.
Everytime there's a new person on my facebook he starts questioning me, and getting super jealous.

yet, here he is now adding new girls to his facebook and telling me he's inviting them over to drink with him and his buddies. and they're real whorey. like really.
Then he gives them his number, and they text him while we're hanging out, and it's annoying because sometimes we;ll be talking and he'll seem to lose interest and focus more on his texts.
I NEVER complain, so wth?

[Jisu sama]

I think it honestly depends on trust...and if not trust..how you act around these 'guy friends'.
I mean not to put the blame on you but I've know guys in the past get all worried in jealous of who their gf hangs around...and to me and them its been a mighty good reason since their gf is practically a whore XD (but who am I to judge?)
I think you should give more of your bad points instead of blaming him...a jealous bf means he cares...but if you don't like it you should talk to him.

[SilverMist]

I still maintain you break up with him.

Hon, WE can't give you all the answers you seem to be looking for. We're not psychic, we don't know him and we don't know how he's grown up. You've already gotten all the opinions and suggestions you could possibly need on your previous thread...Its time to make your own decisions.

[GillyBBY]

Then start complaining and making your voice heard, or dump him.
Call him out on his hypocrisy.
Tell him that if he can hang out with girls, you're allowed to hang out with men.
If all else fails, get rid of him.

[British Tourettes]

http://tinyurl.com/ybb3z8sDump him. Insecure, jealous, and controlling boyfriends are never a good thing.

[vintage zoo]

Call him out, if you can't have guy friends he can't have girl friends. He is being a hypocrite I recommend you discuss this issue or break up with him.

[Helena-Feileacan-]

British Tourettes

http://tinyurl.com/ybb3z8sDump him. Insecure, jealous, and controlling boyfriends are never a good thing.

[lovepink689]

SilverMist

I still maintain you break up with him.

Hon, WE can't give you all the answers you seem to be looking for. We're not psychic, we don't know him and we don't know how he's grown up. You've already gotten all the opinions and suggestions you could possibly need on your previous thread...Its time to make your own decisions.

i know, i know.
its just so hard too, i don't want to let go, but so many people tell me to, and i know like deep down that i should, but i cant.

[Infinty-void]

Sorry but, for one you sound like a retard for not doing anything in the first place. You can't get answers for something like that on Gaia i man come on. You have emotions right??? That crap should drive you to hell so you can gather fire and pour in on you lame boyfriend who obviously doesn't know how to act in a relationship.
Not trying to be mean to you personally, thats just how i feel and yeah your not to blame. Hes doing wrong not you.

[SilverMist]

lovepink689

SilverMist

I still maintain you break up with him.

Hon, WE can't give you all the answers you seem to be looking for. We're not psychic, we don't know him and we don't know how he's grown up. You've already gotten all the opinions and suggestions you could possibly need on your previous thread...Its time to make your own decisions.

i know, i know.
its just so hard too, i don't want to let go, but so many people tell me to, and i know like deep down that i should, but i cant.I can understand why this would be hard, and its easy to sense in you that you're desperately needing the encouragement.
But in the end, all you're doing is asking us for opinions, and we'll all agree with you, and nothing will get done. You have to take control, hon. You have to find the strength in yourself to let go of this obviously unhealthy relationship, for your own sake. Otherwise, you'll have nobody to blame for yourself when this gets out of hand.
Again, I encourage you, I implore you, to get out of there. He is not the best you can do, hon, and you DON'T deserve the treatment you're getting from this. You can do better.
Please, for your own sake, find your strength and get out.

[Vivianne Venita]

I see this same situation with an acquaintance I have.
Her bf is abusive, though. More emotionally than anything.
Just don't let it get to that point. I know if my bf did that to me, I'd call him out on his hypocrisy.
No way would I let that s**t go down.

But like the first post said, you also need to observe how you act around other guys. Maybe he has a reason to feel that way a little?
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[Masturbating_Rot_Crow]

I don't understand why you listened. If my boyfriend said "You can't hang out with your guy friends" I would have said "Uh, no, I really can, ******** you." and done it anyway. It's not my problem if he's a b***h with issues.
But him turning the tables is just asking for your wrath; go ahead and give it to him.

[XxEverlasting_SorrowXx]

Tell him that his double standards aren't quite fair at all.
He needs to grow up and realize that you shouldn't have to drop all you're previous friends because of him. He sounds like a jealous jerk to me but what do i know.

[Bampot]

You're boyfriend shouldn't dictate who you hang out with. There is a pretty fine line between butthurt jealousy and telling your SO who they can be friends with. The first signs of a controlling and abusive relationship. I say you have a long talk with him about your own rights and life.