Turts
Belonging To Night
Turts
*This all took place on gaia. Also, he lives quite far away, like other country kind of far. I'd rather not have anybody commenting on the fact that I should find some one closer to my physical location, that isn't the issue.*
So, a few months ago I began to have romantic feelings for my friend, I shall refer to him as Doc. Doc and I had been extremely close friends for a very long while and I'm not sure how but suddenly we began to talk as though we were a couple. Even "I love you"s slipped into conversations and not the plain friendly kinds. This all would have been fine and dandy, except for one fact: He has a girlfriend.
I figured this out a couple days after our lovely intimate conversations started, in fact, he introduced his girlfriend to me in Rally. I felt betrayed, but he immediately explained to me that he didn't even like her any more and he was going to break up with her when the time was right, so he could be with me.
Now it's been months and Doc is still with his girlfriend. I do not want to be the foolish accomplice to a cheater and I am paranoid that if he ever does break up with her and goes out with me, he may cheat on me just like he did to her.
I'm wondering if I should break this off. I love him very much and he's a great guy, but I don't want anyone to be more hurt than they already are.
Advice or opinions?
He lives a country away from you. In the long run, what are you expecting to find with him? He may cheat or he may not cheat. It's difficult to determine what this intentions are. It's a long-distance relationship, so if you feel you can't trust the guy, you're better off not letting anything go any further, because trust is all you have in those types of relationships. He technically hasn't cheated on you yet, so I'd give him the benefit of the doubt on that front, but he hasn't broken up with his girlfriend yet either. So honestly, who knows.
Follow your heart, but use reasoning when you follow it.
Thank you for the advice. It's reasonable and very helpful. Thank you so much.
Not a problem. It's good to question certain things. If you can follow a line of questioning that is pertinent and pertains to the relationship, what you want, and what he wants, then it's easier to see and to determine how real and practical everything is and isn't.
It's easy to get caught up in romance and rush into things without realizing what's truly going on or where things may be headed. But then again, that's what lust, love, and romantic chemistry is. Also, it's said that distance has the ability to enhance the feelings of longing and yearning between lovers.
The guy could be putting you on, or he could have gotten caught up in the moment with you and fell for you, and he himself could be teetering between two worlds right now, questioning whether or not it's practical to continue a long-distance relationship. It's difficult to tell what he wants since you can only take him on his words, his actions, and the value that you choose to place in those things based upon how much you trust him.