Sex-Ed and What They Missed! *new poll*

[Arianna Blackstone]

WOMEN: On average, how often do you orgasm during penetrative sex?

Not yet, but I almost have. We really need to find a better place to have sex, because the stress of renting a room in his parents house isn't helping.

I think that once I get on the pill or something similar, it'll be much better. Since hubby and I are monogamous and clean, I wouldn't mind ditching the nasty smelling condoms. He looks forward to the day. ^_^

[EpoxyObsession]

The thing I felt was most missing from my sex ed was any kind of attempt to teach us how to decide who we want to sleep with and when we want to do it. If you had links to resources about sexual ethics and about partner choice/making the decision to have sex, that would be completely awesome. But good job providing accurate health info!

On the poll, I didn't really know what to put because I honestly don't keep track of vaginal orgasms specifically. I have an orgasm pretty much every time I have sex (although I think there have been exceptions), but not always from vaginal penetration. If a vaginal orgasm isn't happening we'll usually do something that includes clitoral stimulation and I'll get off then. I think for vaginal orgasms only it's somewhere around 60%. Maybe a little higher. It doesn't happen every time (which is fine, things can be perfectly enjoyable without necessarily an orgasm), but it does most of the time.

[KatieKat920]

I don't orgasm at all for penetrative sex. Hell, I don't even get pleasure out of it.

[Ladybird Sauce]

I don't really know what to answer for the poll. I nearly always orgasm during penetrative sex, but never because of the penetrative sex. I need clitoral stimulation - the vaginal stimulation just makes it a bit nicer.

@ Epoxy: I don't think there's really any way we could link to resources about sexual ethics and partner choice, because it's so subjective. Some people have absolutely no moral objection to sex with multiple strangers, whereas others wouldn't even consider sex with someone they weren't married to and ready to have a baby with. There's nothing wrong with either end of the scale so long as everyone's being safe.

However, I do think a "How to know if you're ready for sex" section could be useful. A bit like Fizzlesticks' "Things to consider to help you decide if you're ready for sex" article/checklist, except with more emphasis on the emotional side (she links to a very good Scarleteen article, but it's fairly long, and more to do with being in unhealthy sexual situations than the emotional side of preparing for a sexual situation). So things like 'are you emotionally prepared for abortion/adoption/parenthood in the case of an unplanned pregnancy?', 'are you having sex because you want to or because of outside pressures?', 'would you regret having sex with this person if you broke up in the future?' etc.. Thoughts?

[Foxglow]

I have never orgasmed through penetrative sex. I came close-ish once in my life (by close-ish, I mean I was nowhere near the point of no return, but I was closer than I had been before).

This is partly why, to me, oral sex is the most intimate thing I can do with my partner.

Penetration feels really good for me, just not in an 'I'm going to orgasm kind of way'.

[Zilla brad]

EpoxyObsession

The thing I felt was most missing from my sex ed was any kind of attempt to teach us how to decide who we want to sleep with and when we want to do it. If you had links to resources about sexual ethics and about partner choice/making the decision to have sex, that would be completely awesome. But good job providing accurate health info!

On the poll, I didn't really know what to put because I honestly don't keep track of vaginal orgasms specifically. I have an orgasm pretty much every time I have sex (although I think there have been exceptions), but not always from vaginal penetration. If a vaginal orgasm isn't happening we'll usually do something that includes clitoral stimulation and I'll get off then. I think for vaginal orgasms only it's somewhere around 60%. Maybe a little higher. It doesn't happen every time (which is fine, things can be perfectly enjoyable without necessarily an orgasm), but it does most of the time.

You cant teach who to sleep and not sleep with. It is about feelings and sometimes urges and lust. I think you could be advised to make good choices, but in the end it's up to each person themselves.

[Fran Salaska]

@Zilla: I assumed that's what Epoxy meant. What we call comprehensive sex education seems to be "insert tab A into slot B" and it totally ignores any advice on how you know when you're ready for sex, and how to decide the way you want to first experience sex.

@penetrative sex: I orgasm 99% of the time from vaginal sex, usually several times. It takes longer for me to orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone.

[Zilla brad]

Any questions today?

[The Shady Oaks]

This thread is great; I always love when people make good, informative, solid threads like this. this really is way more than you learn in a year in sex ed, which is sad.

I learned most of what I know from gurl.com, which you linked to, but I plan to email them and thank them. I wouldn't know jack without them.


also, since ya'll seem to be talking about the poll question, I've never orgasmed from vaginal intercourse. sad

[vampire9blood]

...so why did you put this up?

[Zilla brad]

vampire9blood

...so why did you put this up?

It was started to help and inform and protect.

[MediaclCunt]

I just wanted to add a link suggestion:
Sex Health Guru

[MediaclCunt]

But, anyway, concerning the poll, I haven't had sex. I have orgasmed during oral and fingering,though.

[Zilla brad]

Any questions today?

[Mirror TPol]

I have never orgasmed from vaginal peneration.