Sex-Ed and What They Missed! *new poll*

[Fran Salaska]

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "Yes, in the USA I would say women still tend to do more of the housework. I know I do all of it, even when I had a job I still did 90% of it. Sex is meaningful to some people, but to some that is all it is. Sex."

Also I have a kind of question. When I was on vacation to visit my girlfriend I ripped my frenulum during sex.. Yes I am not circumsized. 99% in my country is not circumsized. And it happened when my girlfriend wasn't aroused thus wet. At first I thought my foreskin might be too short, but I guess it's all about if the girl's wet, because if she isn't, not only does it hurt her, but it'd hurt me as well. What do you think about it?

British?

The same thing happened to my ex-boyfriend. We freaked out, actually, because there was a fair amount of blood. But don't worry, he went to the doctor and apparently it's totally normal. It made it more difficult to give him handjobs and blowjobs, because from then on there was always a sensitive bit on his p***s that was painful if too much pressure was applied. But sex? It made sex way better, because previously his foreskin was pretty tight so we had to be a little careful, but after that it was any position, any way we could.

But you're right, it happened because she wasn't wet. To be honest, in my experience, it chafes/burns more than it actually physically hurts, and even that goes away pretty quickly (for me) because the v****a lubricates to protect itself. But my ex's frenulum snapped when I wasn't that wet, so I'd say you've pretty much got your own answer.

[MarrieMarin]

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "Yes, in the USA I would say women still tend to do more of the housework. I know I do all of it, even when I had a job I still did 90% of it. Sex is meaningful to some people, but to some that is all it is. Sex."

Also I have a kind of question. When I was on vacation to visit my girlfriend I ripped my frenulum during sex.. Yes I am not circumsized. 99% in my country is not circumsized. And it happened when my girlfriend wasn't aroused thus wet. At first I thought my foreskin might be too short, but I guess it's all about if the girl's wet, because if she isn't, not only does it hurt her, but it'd hurt me as well. What do you think about it?

British?

The same thing happened to my ex-boyfriend. We freaked out, actually, because there was a fair amount of blood. But don't worry, he went to the doctor and apparently it's totally normal. It made it more difficult to give him handjobs and blowjobs, because from then on there was always a sensitive bit on his p***s that was painful if too much pressure was applied. But sex? It made sex way better, because previously his foreskin was pretty tight so we had to be a little careful, but after that it was any position, any way we could.

But you're right, it happened because she wasn't wet. To be honest, in my experience, it chafes/burns more than it actually physically hurts, and even that goes away pretty quickly (for me) because the v****a lubricates to protect itself. But my ex's frenulum snapped when I wasn't that wet, so I'd say you've pretty much got your own answer.

Thank you, it was during the climax when it happened. I think the p***s swells during the orgasm? I am not sure, but it felt like it. There was not too much blood involved, luckily. I have not been to the doctor and it healed by itself, at the end of my vacation there, intercourse was resumed. And I'm dutch. When I read something about the frenulum I was worried that I had to go to the doctor and had to get surgery. My question is: Is my frenulum too short or is it normal and I just have to be careful?

[KatieKat920]

I'll ask him next time I see him. Thanks. =]

[Magic-Froggie Sundae]

@Marin: "So....did it rip because she wasn't aroused or because you orgasmed? I would think it would have happened because she was dry, because it would have happened before if it was "too tight"."

[Fran Salaska]

MarrieMarin

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "Yes, in the USA I would say women still tend to do more of the housework. I know I do all of it, even when I had a job I still did 90% of it. Sex is meaningful to some people, but to some that is all it is. Sex."

Also I have a kind of question. When I was on vacation to visit my girlfriend I ripped my frenulum during sex.. Yes I am not circumsized. 99% in my country is not circumsized. And it happened when my girlfriend wasn't aroused thus wet. At first I thought my foreskin might be too short, but I guess it's all about if the girl's wet, because if she isn't, not only does it hurt her, but it'd hurt me as well. What do you think about it?

British?

The same thing happened to my ex-boyfriend. We freaked out, actually, because there was a fair amount of blood. But don't worry, he went to the doctor and apparently it's totally normal. It made it more difficult to give him handjobs and blowjobs, because from then on there was always a sensitive bit on his p***s that was painful if too much pressure was applied. But sex? It made sex way better, because previously his foreskin was pretty tight so we had to be a little careful, but after that it was any position, any way we could.

But you're right, it happened because she wasn't wet. To be honest, in my experience, it chafes/burns more than it actually physically hurts, and even that goes away pretty quickly (for me) because the v****a lubricates to protect itself. But my ex's frenulum snapped when I wasn't that wet, so I'd say you've pretty much got your own answer.

Thank you, it was during the climax when it happened. I think the p***s swells during the orgasm? I am not sure, but it felt like it. There was not too much blood involved, luckily. I have not been to the doctor and it healed by itself, at the end of my vacation there, intercourse was resumed. And I'm dutch. When I read something about the frenulum I was worried that I had to go to the doctor and had to get surgery. My question is: Is my frenulum too short or is it normal and I just have to be careful?

I'm pretty sure the p***s gets bigger during orgasm. Either way, it's normal. If it's snapped now, it won't be how it was before, so it shouldn't happen again.

[MarrieMarin]

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "Yes, in the USA I would say women still tend to do more of the housework. I know I do all of it, even when I had a job I still did 90% of it. Sex is meaningful to some people, but to some that is all it is. Sex."

Also I have a kind of question. When I was on vacation to visit my girlfriend I ripped my frenulum during sex.. Yes I am not circumsized. 99% in my country is not circumsized. And it happened when my girlfriend wasn't aroused thus wet. At first I thought my foreskin might be too short, but I guess it's all about if the girl's wet, because if she isn't, not only does it hurt her, but it'd hurt me as well. What do you think about it?

British?

The same thing happened to my ex-boyfriend. We freaked out, actually, because there was a fair amount of blood. But don't worry, he went to the doctor and apparently it's totally normal. It made it more difficult to give him handjobs and blowjobs, because from then on there was always a sensitive bit on his p***s that was painful if too much pressure was applied. But sex? It made sex way better, because previously his foreskin was pretty tight so we had to be a little careful, but after that it was any position, any way we could.

But you're right, it happened because she wasn't wet. To be honest, in my experience, it chafes/burns more than it actually physically hurts, and even that goes away pretty quickly (for me) because the v****a lubricates to protect itself. But my ex's frenulum snapped when I wasn't that wet, so I'd say you've pretty much got your own answer.

Thank you, it was during the climax when it happened. I think the p***s swells during the orgasm? I am not sure, but it felt like it. There was not too much blood involved, luckily. I have not been to the doctor and it healed by itself, at the end of my vacation there, intercourse was resumed. And I'm dutch. When I read something about the frenulum I was worried that I had to go to the doctor and had to get surgery. My question is: Is my frenulum too short or is it normal and I just have to be careful?

I'm pretty sure the p***s gets bigger during orgasm. Either way, it's normal. If it's snapped now, it won't be how it was before, so it shouldn't happen again.

How interesting, I've been modified, er scarred for life. xd

[vinaigrette]

Hi. I have a question about birth control:
I know that two methods of birth control are more reliable than one, so are there two I can use in conjunction without having to get hormonal treatment? Or, ideally, without having to see a doctor at all?
I was interested in going on the pill, but I've read that, on average, women put on 10lbs in the first year when they take it. I only weigh a little more than 90lbs, so that's a pretty large percentage of my weight. I know I'm underweight, but I'm a petite woman and 10lbs would be a disturbing change for me.

[MarrieMarin]

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "So....did it rip because she wasn't aroused or because you orgasmed? I would think it would have happened because she was dry, because it would have happened before if it was "too tight"."

Well before we had done it a few times before but it got damaged a little and it would become highly sensitive. I chose to ignore it after a while and focus on the pleasure rather than the pain. Eventually it snapped because: A. She wasn't wet, and B. because I orgasmed. I felt the pain and I knew I was bleeding somehow. It didn't bleed exceedingly much but it did bleed a little. It healed by itself luckily. The interesting thing was that she had to be careful with me, rather than me being careful with her. She wasn't too tight, she was normal I guess, for what I think is normal since she was kind of my first. (Not truly first as I had some experiments from a former relationship which ended abruptly)

[Fran Salaska]

vinaigrette

Hi. I have a question about birth control:
I know that two methods of birth control are more reliable than one, so are there two I can use in conjunction without having to get hormonal treatment? Or, ideally, without having to see a doctor at all?
I was interested in going on the pill, but I've read that, on average, women put on 10lbs in the first year when they take it. I only weigh a little more than 90lbs, so that's a pretty large percentage of my weight. I know I'm underweight, but I'm a petite woman and 10lbs would be a disturbing change for me.

Not all women put on weight, and it's mostly water retention. Plus, when you stop, it should all go away. So don't let it put you off. My sister put on about 6lbs and I've managed to lose 14lbs despite being on the pill.

As for two non-hormonal methods, there's condoms and the diaphragm, or an IUD. IUDs are pretty difficult to get fitted, though, because for women without children there's a chance that your body will just push it out.

[Fran Salaska]

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "So....did it rip because she wasn't aroused or because you orgasmed? I would think it would have happened because she was dry, because it would have happened before if it was "too tight"."

Well before we had done it a few times before but it got damaged a little and it would become highly sensitive. I chose to ignore it after a while and focus on the pleasure rather than the pain. Eventually it snapped because: A. She wasn't wet, and B. because I orgasmed. I felt the pain and I knew I was bleeding somehow. It didn't bleed exceedingly much but it did bleed a little. It healed by itself luckily. The interesting thing was that she had to be careful with me, rather than me being careful with her. She wasn't too tight, she was normal I guess, for what I think is normal since she was kind of my first. (Not truly first as I had some experiments from a former relationship which ended abruptly)

How long were you having sex for? I admit that I produce lubrication more readily than some people, but even so, it shouldn't take long to get wet. To be honest, you're lucky it happened when you orgasmed and not beforehand. My ex's snapped when he entered me, and we were only having sex for about a minute before I said "Whoa, what's that blood?" and he realised it wasn't my period. Maybe it looked like more than it was because it all pooled inside me, and when I sat up it all came out over the bed. It did look like someone had died, but his erection went away quite quickly.

All I can say is, work more on the foreplay? XD

[MarrieMarin]

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "So....did it rip because she wasn't aroused or because you orgasmed? I would think it would have happened because she was dry, because it would have happened before if it was "too tight"."

Well before we had done it a few times before but it got damaged a little and it would become highly sensitive. I chose to ignore it after a while and focus on the pleasure rather than the pain. Eventually it snapped because: A. She wasn't wet, and B. because I orgasmed. I felt the pain and I knew I was bleeding somehow. It didn't bleed exceedingly much but it did bleed a little. It healed by itself luckily. The interesting thing was that she had to be careful with me, rather than me being careful with her. She wasn't too tight, she was normal I guess, for what I think is normal since she was kind of my first. (Not truly first as I had some experiments from a former relationship which ended abruptly)

How long were you having sex for? I admit that I produce lubrication more readily than some people, but even so, it shouldn't take long to get wet. To be honest, you're lucky it happened when you orgasmed and not beforehand. My ex's snapped when he entered me, and we were only having sex for about a minute before I said "Whoa, what's that blood?" and he realised it wasn't my period. Maybe it looked like more than it was because it all pooled inside me, and when I sat up it all came out over the bed. It did look like someone had died, but his erection went away quite quickly.

All I can say is, work more on the foreplay? XD

Well she's from canada and I am from the Netherlands. I only had had sex kind of once before with a different girl but I had issues getting inside. sweatdrop

Anyway, my girlfriend was the first girlfriend I had actually had sex with, got inside longer than one minute and orgasmed. Other than that when I try to turn her on, I can't get her to. She says she get's turned on when she pleasures me. But if I try to pleasure her with foreplay, it doesn't interest her. Neither does she get aroused, no matter how hard I try. Or she says she doesn't feel like it. Though if I act dominant and as a 'master' she get's turned on. Domination is not really in my personality though I managed to pull it off a few times. I snapped after having had sex about 3 or 4 times I think, spread over the days. I also noticed oral is also a good way to get her lubricated. We're apart now sadly, but we wish to meet this christmas, though chances are slim still. I just wish I knew a way to succesfully get her in the mood other than myself being dominant. I've talked it over with her, but she doesn't really know either, other than letting her pleasure me.

[Zilla brad]

MarrieMarin

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "So....did it rip because she wasn't aroused or because you orgasmed? I would think it would have happened because she was dry, because it would have happened before if it was "too tight"."

Well before we had done it a few times before but it got damaged a little and it would become highly sensitive. I chose to ignore it after a while and focus on the pleasure rather than the pain. Eventually it snapped because: A. She wasn't wet, and B. because I orgasmed. I felt the pain and I knew I was bleeding somehow. It didn't bleed exceedingly much but it did bleed a little. It healed by itself luckily. The interesting thing was that she had to be careful with me, rather than me being careful with her. She wasn't too tight, she was normal I guess, for what I think is normal since she was kind of my first. (Not truly first as I had some experiments from a former relationship which ended abruptly)

How long were you having sex for? I admit that I produce lubrication more readily than some people, but even so, it shouldn't take long to get wet. To be honest, you're lucky it happened when you orgasmed and not beforehand. My ex's snapped when he entered me, and we were only having sex for about a minute before I said "Whoa, what's that blood?" and he realised it wasn't my period. Maybe it looked like more than it was because it all pooled inside me, and when I sat up it all came out over the bed. It did look like someone had died, but his erection went away quite quickly.

All I can say is, work more on the foreplay? XD

Well she's from canada and I am from the Netherlands. I only had had sex kind of once before with a different girl but I had issues getting inside. sweatdrop

Anyway, my girlfriend was the first girlfriend I had actually had sex with, got inside longer than one minute and orgasmed. Other than that when I try to turn her on, I can't get her to. She says she get's turned on when she pleasures me. But if I try to pleasure her with foreplay, it doesn't interest her. Neither does she get aroused, no matter how hard I try. Or she says she doesn't feel like it. Though if I act dominant and as a 'master' she get's turned on. Domination is not really in my personality though I managed to pull it off a few times. I snapped after having had sex about 3 or 4 times I think, spread over the days. I also noticed oral is also a good way to get her lubricated. We're apart now sadly, but we wish to meet this christmas, though chances are slim still. I just wish I knew a way to succesfully get her in the mood other than myself being dominant. I've talked it over with her, but she doesn't really know either, other than letting her pleasure me.

Just do whatever works to make you both feel good.

[Fran Salaska]

MarrieMarin

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "So....did it rip because she wasn't aroused or because you orgasmed? I would think it would have happened because she was dry, because it would have happened before if it was "too tight"."

Well before we had done it a few times before but it got damaged a little and it would become highly sensitive. I chose to ignore it after a while and focus on the pleasure rather than the pain. Eventually it snapped because: A. She wasn't wet, and B. because I orgasmed. I felt the pain and I knew I was bleeding somehow. It didn't bleed exceedingly much but it did bleed a little. It healed by itself luckily. The interesting thing was that she had to be careful with me, rather than me being careful with her. She wasn't too tight, she was normal I guess, for what I think is normal since she was kind of my first. (Not truly first as I had some experiments from a former relationship which ended abruptly)

How long were you having sex for? I admit that I produce lubrication more readily than some people, but even so, it shouldn't take long to get wet. To be honest, you're lucky it happened when you orgasmed and not beforehand. My ex's snapped when he entered me, and we were only having sex for about a minute before I said "Whoa, what's that blood?" and he realised it wasn't my period. Maybe it looked like more than it was because it all pooled inside me, and when I sat up it all came out over the bed. It did look like someone had died, but his erection went away quite quickly.

All I can say is, work more on the foreplay? XD

Well she's from canada and I am from the Netherlands. I only had had sex kind of once before with a different girl but I had issues getting inside. sweatdrop

Anyway, my girlfriend was the first girlfriend I had actually had sex with, got inside longer than one minute and orgasmed. Other than that when I try to turn her on, I can't get her to. She says she get's turned on when she pleasures me. But if I try to pleasure her with foreplay, it doesn't interest her. Neither does she get aroused, no matter how hard I try. Or she says she doesn't feel like it. Though if I act dominant and as a 'master' she get's turned on. Domination is not really in my personality though I managed to pull it off a few times. I snapped after having had sex about 3 or 4 times I think, spread over the days. I also noticed oral is also a good way to get her lubricated. We're apart now sadly, but we wish to meet this christmas, though chances are slim still. I just wish I knew a way to succesfully get her in the mood other than myself being dominant. I've talked it over with her, but she doesn't really know either, other than letting her pleasure me.

Meh, some people are like that. My boyfriend is more interested in my pleasure than in his, so touching me turns him on faster than anything else. Your girlfriend may not have a very high sex drive, either. That's the sort of thing that is difficult to tell with a long-distance relationship, I mean they can be typing "ohh yeah baby I'm touching myself" and really making a sandwich. If you have cyber-sex, that is. Anyway, if oral is a good way to get her lubricated, try doing it for a long period of time. Some women take a long time to c** and others not so much. As Zilla said, it's really whatever works.

[MarrieMarin]

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Fran Salaska

MarrieMarin

Magic-Froggie Sundae

@Marin: "So....did it rip because she wasn't aroused or because you orgasmed? I would think it would have happened because she was dry, because it would have happened before if it was "too tight"."

Well before we had done it a few times before but it got damaged a little and it would become highly sensitive. I chose to ignore it after a while and focus on the pleasure rather than the pain. Eventually it snapped because: A. She wasn't wet, and B. because I orgasmed. I felt the pain and I knew I was bleeding somehow. It didn't bleed exceedingly much but it did bleed a little. It healed by itself luckily. The interesting thing was that she had to be careful with me, rather than me being careful with her. She wasn't too tight, she was normal I guess, for what I think is normal since she was kind of my first. (Not truly first as I had some experiments from a former relationship which ended abruptly)

How long were you having sex for? I admit that I produce lubrication more readily than some people, but even so, it shouldn't take long to get wet. To be honest, you're lucky it happened when you orgasmed and not beforehand. My ex's snapped when he entered me, and we were only having sex for about a minute before I said "Whoa, what's that blood?" and he realised it wasn't my period. Maybe it looked like more than it was because it all pooled inside me, and when I sat up it all came out over the bed. It did look like someone had died, but his erection went away quite quickly.

All I can say is, work more on the foreplay? XD

Well she's from canada and I am from the Netherlands. I only had had sex kind of once before with a different girl but I had issues getting inside. sweatdrop

Anyway, my girlfriend was the first girlfriend I had actually had sex with, got inside longer than one minute and orgasmed. Other than that when I try to turn her on, I can't get her to. She says she get's turned on when she pleasures me. But if I try to pleasure her with foreplay, it doesn't interest her. Neither does she get aroused, no matter how hard I try. Or she says she doesn't feel like it. Though if I act dominant and as a 'master' she get's turned on. Domination is not really in my personality though I managed to pull it off a few times. I snapped after having had sex about 3 or 4 times I think, spread over the days. I also noticed oral is also a good way to get her lubricated. We're apart now sadly, but we wish to meet this christmas, though chances are slim still. I just wish I knew a way to succesfully get her in the mood other than myself being dominant. I've talked it over with her, but she doesn't really know either, other than letting her pleasure me.

Meh, some people are like that. My boyfriend is more interested in my pleasure than in his, so touching me turns him on faster than anything else. Your girlfriend may not have a very high sex drive, either. That's the sort of thing that is difficult to tell with a long-distance relationship, I mean they can be typing "ohh yeah baby I'm touching myself" and really making a sandwich. If you have cyber-sex, that is. Anyway, if oral is a good way to get her lubricated, try doing it for a long period of time. Some women take a long time to c** and others not so much. As Zilla said, it's really whatever works.

Thank you very much Fran Salaska for all your replies. I'm glad I could talk to someone else about this. whee

[Fran Salaska]

Glad I could help. : )