Dr Abraxas
Long story short, I have access to my ex gf's twitter, tumblr, Skype, and YouTube accounts. I have had them for months, and in the creepiest way, simply monitering her and her new bf (who she cheated with before leaving me).
We were together for a decent amount of time, 3 years, and it's been 5 months since we broke up. Now she says she wants me back, but she hasn't left the new bf... I still have feelings for her, but this does not bode well with me. I could of destroyed her, but chose not to, and now she is doing the same thing to this guy.
Wat do?
1. Why on earth have you been "monitoring" your ex? What possible happiness is in that for you?
2. What do you mean you "could of destroyed her?" Why do you cater to some phony sense of empowerment over your ex? You don't control her. Rather, it is she who has controlled you. You can't mind your own business, that indicates terrible self-control.
3. You don't have feelings for your ex. If you had any genuine love and respect for her, you would not have spied on her, using her accounts to nose into her business. Whatever you believe you feel for your ex, it's not real. You've abused her.
As to what to do,
a) Delete all your ex's account info.. Tell your ex she should consider closing her accounts or changing her passwords to protect her accounts.
b) Discontinue all contact with your ex.
c) Consider discussing your behavior with a counselor.