Pregnancy Support: Amazingly Original [05/09/2011]

Are you ever truly ready to be a parent?

Yes.	15.8%	[ 239 ]
It's a matter of opinion.	33.1%	[ 501 ]
No.	35.0%	[ 531 ]
I can haz gold?	16.1%	[ 244 ]
Total Votes:			[ 1515 ]

[Anesthesia_PROLIFIC]

Hey guys, thanks for all who replied, that was actually quite helpful.
I'm going to buy a couple on Thursday because it's my pay day, and I was wondering if I should wait and take them with my boyfriend when I see him within the next couple of weeks (he's off at a conference right now unfortunately) 'cos he is a little worried.
Mainly because it's going to change a lot of things.

I am quite happy though because of my income I do get help from the government if it turns out I am pregnant.


I think I found the most trouble I had with the LD was them assuming I am a sixteen year old or something, just because I posted my questions on gaia.
I'm 20 going on 21, and my boyfriend is 25, we've been together for over two years and as soon as we stopped using condom's we talked about the possibility of this happening.

Of course I was told that my boyfriend was going to leave me because of it by a few people.

And then I got told that the questions I asked were stupid.

Which I kinda find that they weren't, I know my sister's had a lot of trouble with the pregnancy tests that they took, which is why I was asking about accuracy, and I realise that not all people have the same symptoms which is why I was asking about symptoms.


With mine my breasts seem to ache on and off, I feel nauseated but haven't had the luck of throwing up yet, I also need to pee a lot more then I used too and smells are making me gag and retch.

Those symptoms and my mum asking me "You're not pregnant are you" are what made me stop and think and it kinda adds up.

I thought I'd get as much information as I could about pregnancy tests and what people's experiences were and what their symptoms were before I worried too much about it so thank you for all of your answers.

[ZellyKat]

Anesthesia_PROLIFIC

I asked a question in the Life Issues sub-forum about relieving back pain while sleeping. I got a few replies like that as well. I am definitely not a 16 year old either, heck my profile has a photo of my wedding but still, it still didn't stop the judging.

I can be unfair when people assume that the boyfriend is gonna bail. I think that the LD is filling up with trolls more so now than before. I can't even go into the religion discussions anymore because of the people who want to drill the hell outta ya. (not that I like going there anyway)

From the sounds of your symptoms, I'd say there is a good chance you are. Take the tests for sure. I hope that your results are what you wish for them to be.

[Anesthesia_PROLIFIC]

ZellyKat

Anesthesia_PROLIFIC

I asked a question in the Life Issues sub-forum about relieving back pain while sleeping. I got a few replies like that as well. I am definitely not a 16 year old either, heck my profile has a photo of my wedding but still, it still didn't stop the judging.

I can be unfair when people assume that the boyfriend is gonna bail. I think that the LD is filling up with trolls more so now than before. I can't even go into the religion discussions anymore because of the people who want to drill the hell outta ya. (not that I like going there anyway)

From the sounds of your symptoms, I'd say there is a good chance you are. Take the tests for sure. I hope that your results are what you wish for them to be.

Yeah, I can see that trolls are filling up the LD, it just annoys me that people make assumptions based on nothing.
They see the title and think they have a right to judge my life style even though they know nothing of it.


And thank you, I hope they are too.
Not entirely sure I'll know what result I'm looking for until I take the test though.

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-sighs- I've got one more full day until I have to drive down for my appointments and I'm getting more and more nervous about them as well. My mom never even thought stuff like two perfectly normal people with no history of defects could give birth to a child with downs syndrome (I didn't even know that this was possible which is why I'm so stressed/depressed) and she started to cry over the phone after I told her I may be at risk..crying out of worry and thinking I may have done something wrong like getting pregnant to soon after getting off the pill etc etc. I can't help but feel terrible and like it might possibly be my fault because I'm not the healthiest of most people nowadays sweatdrop ..the hormones are making me worry more and more as time passes I just want to get my appointments done and over with so I can figure out that my baby boy is perfectly fine and at no risk of having anything.

Also, I just started getting some pain in my hips, which I'm positive is normal during pregnancy. I'd just like to ask if any of you have some tips on how to relieve the pain.

[t1ner]

Oh how busy life has been....

This past Tuesday (Feb. 7) my uncle died of cancer, he had been fighting it for a little over a year.
I was in the hospital Tuesday from 9am to about 8pm (he died at 5pm). It was horrible, and the cancer started out on his tongue, he stopped talking back in September or so because of the swelling and pain that ran down through his throat. Its a horrible thing to have to see your whole family bawling in the middle of the hospital, let alone your father and grandfather for the first time in front of you. Plus he died leaving behind his 17 year old son, and his 15 year old twin daughters.
The showing was Friday from 4pm to 8pm and the funeral was today. Defiantly drained me. He was only 41. Also, yes he was a smoker and that is why he died.

Somewhat good news, I MAY be offered a job at Build-a-bear.I have had three interviews, and they seem SUPER interested. My only concern is, they do NOT know I am pregnant. I have worn darker clothes, or something with patterns or stripes to distract from my tummy. Plus I am slightly bigger, so they may have thought,"oh she's just a fatty!" sweatdrop If I am offered the job, and chances are HIGH, I am nervous about telling them. I wanted to tell her in the 3rd interview but I REALLY want this job and didn't want it to hinder my chances of getting the job. crying Advice on how I could tell her, and how to keep the trust between me and the new boss lady?

My current job Subway, I have been at for a little over three years (was assistant manager for over a year). I ended up quitting on Dec. 20, because of stress and my boss hated me. I begged her to transfer me to another store because we just didn't get along. She just laughed. So I put in my two weeks and left on the 20th. After about two weeks with no job my boss that had gotten transferred to another store before my new one started, contacted me and asked me to be the assistant manager at her new store. I was eligible for re-hire so I said yes, I needed the money.
She hired me back but making .60 cents LESS than I was before, and NOT assistant manager because the current one was to be transferred to a new store in a week.
The assistant got transferred, they then offered the assistant position to a girl they hired a week after me. She took it. They offered it to her because I am pregnant. I was pissed, called them out on it. They cut my hours. Now I work about 20 hours a week, when I was working 35+. I am tired of this place, and with whats going on it is JUST as stressful as the other subway. Minus my boss HATING me, but still.

On dippers. I am SO curious about this as well. I need to be stocking up on these types of things. I have no idea what to get?

ALSO, about the whole "how do you feel?" thing. Seeing as I was JUST at a funeral and showing for about 6 hours all together this weekend I understand COMPLETELY. I got asked at LEAST 50 times those two days. Sometimes the SAME person the next day even asked me again. I just kept saying, "Oh I'm tired. She's doing well. I'm fine. Yes I get enough sleep. Just tired a lot." Blah blah..... So much advice was given, and tummy rubbing!!!

[Days of Raine]

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-sighs- I've got one more full day until I have to drive down for my appointments and I'm getting more and more nervous about them as well. My mom never even thought stuff like two perfectly normal people with no history of defects could give birth to a child with downs syndrome (I didn't even know that this was possible which is why I'm so stressed/depressed) and she started to cry over the phone after I told her I may be at risk..crying out of worry and thinking I may have done something wrong like getting pregnant to soon after getting off the pill etc etc. I can't help but feel terrible and like it might possibly be my fault because I'm not the healthiest of most people nowadays sweatdrop ..the hormones are making me worry more and more as time passes I just want to get my appointments done and over with so I can figure out that my baby boy is perfectly fine and at no risk of having anything.

Also, I just started getting some pain in my hips, which I'm positive is normal during pregnancy. I'd just like to ask if any of you have some tips on how to relieve the pain.

Like I said before [I didn't see your response because I couldn't find it in the last few pages, I don't check this site often enough >.<] there's a definite chance that you'll find out everything is fine very soon. I know it's SO incredibly hard not to worry, and blame yourself for something that may or may not even be wrong, but my best advice is not to worry. I can't tell you how long I sat crying in my bathroom floor because I didn't want my SO to see me so upset because I knew he was dealing with the same thing and I didn't want to add to the worries he was having. I've never been so upset in my life- all because of an inaccurate, foggy ultrasound. I wish you the same luck I had with finding out everything was actually okay!

As for the hip pain- Try to put a pillow under your hips, or laying in different positions on a comfy couch or bed. Mine is getting terrible lately, and I've found a couple odd positions while sitting up that relieve it, but everyone's body is different. I actually asked my NP at my last appointment about it, and she said the pain could be caused by either the baby sitting on a nerve, or the baby putting pressure on your actual hips, so moving around may also get the baby to shift to a different position and relieve the pain.She also said Tylenol was fine to take as well, and i've found usually Tylenol is my best bet because Gabriel [the baby boy i'm having] flails around plenty but tends to stay in the same spot no matter what I do.

[Days of Raine]

t1ner

Oh how busy life has been....

This past Tuesday (Feb. 7) my uncle died of cancer, he had been fighting it for a little over a year.
I was in the hospital Tuesday from 9am to about 8pm (he died at 5pm). It was horrible, and the cancer started out on his tongue, he stopped talking back in September or so because of the swelling and pain that ran down through his throat. Its a horrible thing to have to see your whole family bawling in the middle of the hospital, let alone your father and grandfather for the first time in front of you. Plus he died leaving behind his 17 year old son, and his 15 year old twin daughters.
The showing was Friday from 4pm to 8pm and the funeral was today. Defiantly drained me. He was only 41. Also, yes he was a smoker and that is why he died.

Somewhat good news, I MAY be offered a job at Build-a-bear.I have had three interviews, and they seem SUPER interested. My only concern is, they do NOT know I am pregnant. I have worn darker clothes, or something with patterns or stripes to distract from my tummy. Plus I am slightly bigger, so they may have thought,"oh she's just a fatty!" sweatdrop If I am offered the job, and chances are HIGH, I am nervous about telling them. I wanted to tell her in the 3rd interview but I REALLY want this job and didn't want it to hinder my chances of getting the job. crying Advice on how I could tell her, and how to keep the trust between me and the new boss lady?

My current job Subway, I have been at for a little over three years (was assistant manager for over a year). I ended up quitting on Dec. 20, because of stress and my boss hated me. I begged her to transfer me to another store because we just didn't get along. She just laughed. So I put in my two weeks and left on the 20th. After about two weeks with no job my boss that had gotten transferred to another store before my new one started, contacted me and asked me to be the assistant manager at her new store. I was eligible for re-hire so I said yes, I needed the money.
She hired me back but making .60 cents LESS than I was before, and NOT assistant manager because the current one was to be transferred to a new store in a week.
The assistant got transferred, they then offered the assistant position to a girl they hired a week after me. She took it. They offered it to her because I am pregnant. I was pissed, called them out on it. They cut my hours. Now I work about 20 hours a week, when I was working 35+. I am tired of this place, and with whats going on it is JUST as stressful as the other subway. Minus my boss HATING me, but still.

On dippers. I am SO curious about this as well. I need to be stocking up on these types of things. I have no idea what to get?

ALSO, about the whole "how do you feel?" thing. Seeing as I was JUST at a funeral and showing for about 6 hours all together this weekend I understand COMPLETELY. I got asked at LEAST 50 times those two days. Sometimes the SAME person the next day even asked me again. I just kept saying, "Oh I'm tired. She's doing well. I'm fine. Yes I get enough sleep. Just tired a lot." Blah blah..... So much advice was given, and tummy rubbing!!!

I'm so sorry for your loss, firstly. It's hard to watch a family member go, but the pain gets better for everyone eventually heart

As for diapers- For the first couple of months I used NB sized Pampers Swaddlers.

[Days of Raine]

Anesthesia_PROLIFIC

Hey guys, thanks for all who replied, that was actually quite helpful.
I'm going to buy a couple on Thursday because it's my pay day, and I was wondering if I should wait and take them with my boyfriend when I see him within the next couple of weeks (he's off at a conference right now unfortunately) 'cos he is a little worried.
Mainly because it's going to change a lot of things.

I am quite happy though because of my income I do get help from the government if it turns out I am pregnant.


I think I found the most trouble I had with the LD was them assuming I am a sixteen year old or something, just because I posted my questions on gaia.
I'm 20 going on 21, and my boyfriend is 25, we've been together for over two years and as soon as we stopped using condom's we talked about the possibility of this happening.

Of course I was told that my boyfriend was going to leave me because of it by a few people.

And then I got told that the questions I asked were stupid.

Which I kinda find that they weren't, I know my sister's had a lot of trouble with the pregnancy tests that they took, which is why I was asking about accuracy, and I realise that not all people have the same symptoms which is why I was asking about symptoms.


With mine my breasts seem to ache on and off, I feel nauseated but haven't had the luck of throwing up yet, I also need to pee a lot more then I used too and smells are making me gag and retch.

Those symptoms and my mum asking me "You're not pregnant are you" are what made me stop and think and it kinda adds up.

I thought I'd get as much information as I could about pregnancy tests and what people's experiences were and what their symptoms were before I worried too much about it so thank you for all of your answers.

That's just about an exact replication of both of my pregnancies in the first trimester. I hope you get the results you want from the test!

[ZellyKat]

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I hate when you have to deal with waiting. Reading helps me sometimes, or even trying to play a video game.. it might not be the best distraction but I could help. Lately I've been focusing all my anxiety on gaia and Facebook. If you need an addiction you can try StumbleUpon. That works for me too.. God I love the internet.

t1ner

I had an uncle who died of lung cancer when I was a kid. He was just as young. It sucks to loose family.. I've been dealing with death for the last three years. Friends, family and people I've admired.. all taken too early and in really close succession. It's sad and it hurts but it always passes and life begins again.

As for the job, congratulations on landing Build a bear interviews. You have one thing on your side.. they can't deny you because of pregnancy. You could always bring up the fact that you love children and that you are expecting to be a mom soon. That actually might work in your favor. Build-a-Bear seems like it's a family friendly place.

Your current job is really blowing it. You need to get ahold of corporate and make complaints of prejudice due to pregnancy. Cutting your hours and passing over you (who is more qualified) and taking another is cause for disciplinary action. There are laws protecting the rights of pregnant women.. take advantage of them. Even if you are leaving it's still worth making the call, that way they think twice before doing that to another pregnant woman.

[Mightelove]

Treehuggingmama

I wouldn't use pamper on my worst enemy's dog.
My son word them for a few days -they were on sale and it was before pay day- and he got the WORST chemical burn ever.
Poor little man couldn't sit!
And I only left him in the diaper for maybe 2 hours.
Awful, awful, awful.
Go with huggies.

Haha, and I would say the exact opposite. Huggies leaked like a mofo on Zoe. She wore Pampers until she was out of diapers.

It really is trial and error. Every kid is different so the same diaper doesn't work on every kiddo.

[Days of Raine]

Mightelove

Treehuggingmama

I wouldn't use pamper on my worst enemy's dog.
My son word them for a few days -they were on sale and it was before pay day- and he got the WORST chemical burn ever.
Poor little man couldn't sit!
And I only left him in the diaper for maybe 2 hours.
Awful, awful, awful.
Go with huggies.

Haha, and I would say the exact opposite. Huggies leaked like a mofo on Zoe. She wore Pampers until she was out of diapers.

It really is trial and error. Every kid is different so the same diaper doesn't work on every kiddo.

Huggies definitely leaked a ton when we were using them as well!

[Satil]

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-sighs- I've got one more full day until I have to drive down for my appointments and I'm getting more and more nervous about them as well. My mom never even thought stuff like two perfectly normal people with no history of defects could give birth to a child with downs syndrome (I didn't even know that this was possible which is why I'm so stressed/depressed) and she started to cry over the phone after I told her I may be at risk..crying out of worry and thinking I may have done something wrong like getting pregnant to soon after getting off the pill etc etc. I can't help but feel terrible and like it might possibly be my fault because I'm not the healthiest of most people nowadays sweatdrop ..the hormones are making me worry more and more as time passes I just want to get my appointments done and over with so I can figure out that my baby boy is perfectly fine and at no risk of having anything.

Also, I just started getting some pain in my hips, which I'm positive is normal during pregnancy. I'd just like to ask if any of you have some tips on how to relieve the pain.

Even if he DOES have Down's it is in NO WAY your fault. Trisomies are completely and totally random and just a really unfortunate side effect of us having super complicated DNA and a really complicated gene replication system. It's a shitty, terrible thing to experience especially since there is really no blame to be place. But please try not to blame yourself. heart

My hips have started hurting a lot at night as well. I sleep with a body pillow and sometimes it helps, sometimes not. It all depends on you really. Just experiment with sleeping positions and pillows in random places.

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Satil

Ya, it just hurts to hear my mother crying. I'm actually also sleeping with a body pillow too..sleep is definitely much more comfortable ^-^

ZellyKat

I cracked to where I stopped worrying, but I just recently cracked back into worrying -sighs- the drive, being with my family and mine and my husband's date will be great distractions. I just gotta wait till tomorrow afternoon x.x;

[Shima Shinji]

We've used Pampers from day 1, because from my experience Huggies tend to run a little bigger and are a little more expensive. Pampers is also the only brand I've seen to offer premie-sized diapers. We used Huggies for a little while because we got some at the baby shower, and the umbilical cord cutouts would've been absolutely perfect had we had normal sized babies! I didn't like them as much as Pampers though, they seemed ridiculously padded and were harder to tell when they were wet.

@Hip pain: Nothing worked for me except popping 3 Tylenol every couple of hours to dull the pain a little.

@Pregnancy tests: It took me about a week past my missed period to get a positive, even with those early response tests. Once I finally got a positive on a dollar store brand test I showed up positive with everything, though. The actual accuracy percentages should be printed on the side of the box you buy, but it can still vary a lot depending on when you take it.

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AtomicNeurotic

Like I said before [I didn't see your response because I couldn't find it in the last few pages, I don't check this site often enough >.<] there's a definite chance that you'll find out everything is fine very soon. I know it's SO incredibly hard not to worry, and blame yourself for something that may or may not even be wrong, but my best advice is not to worry. I can't tell you how long I sat crying in my bathroom floor because I didn't want my SO to see me so upset because I knew he was dealing with the same thing and I didn't want to add to the worries he was having. I've never been so upset in my life- all because of an inaccurate, foggy ultrasound. I wish you the same luck I had with finding out everything was actually okay!

As for the hip pain- Try to put a pillow under your hips, or laying in different positions on a comfy couch or bed. Mine is getting terrible lately, and I've found a couple odd positions while sitting up that relieve it, but everyone's body is different. I actually asked my NP at my last appointment about it, and she said the pain could be caused by either the baby sitting on a nerve, or the baby putting pressure on your actual hips, so moving around may also get the baby to shift to a different position and relieve the pain.She also said Tylenol was fine to take as well, and i've found usually Tylenol is my best bet because Gabriel [the baby boy i'm having] flails around plenty but tends to stay in the same spot no matter what I do.

I can say my baby boy is somewhat the same, but he'll actually move for me..thank god lol and the hip pain being caused by the baby makes complete sense so I'll try shifting around when I begin to feel pain in my hips.

The doctors tell you not to stress out even if there actually is cysts in the brain, but you can't tell a pregnant woman to not worry about her baby. Most tend to do the opposite the doctor said x10 but not on purpose -sighs- ..I'm just hoping everything they saw wasn't there, and there's a great chance that..that is a possibility and if not that then the cysts being gone by now would ease my stress :3