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- Posted: Fri, 24 Apr 2009 18:47:36 +0000
Mameoyashi
Well I can understand it somewhat, after all most people only hear about the fundamentalist religious polygamy that makes the news... in which case most of the time women and children are forced into things, abused, treated as posessions ect... So it's more of a misunderstanding in most cases. Which is another reason for making this thread, to help educate people on the subject matter and show that people can have very happy, healthy poly relationships smile
Bad for the children... eh. I don't get it either. It is highly dependant on how the children are treated, but that's no different than in any family setting. As long as it's not an abusive household... there shouldn't be any problem with it.
But what I don't get is why people think, for example, that you can ONLY DATE ONE PERSON. I mean, 30 years ago, it wasn't uncommon for a girl (or guy) to have a few people they took out on dates, unless they were "going steady" with someone, which was a pretty formal thing and was usually discussed. Nowadays, it's like, you go out for coffee with someone once or twice and you're their possession and only they, out of all the folks of their gender/sex, may take you out for coffee. Which seems silly. I dunno... It seems like monoamory has gotten out of control, in a way. How can a person find out who they have what in common with if they can't go out for coffee with multiple people? (or out for dinner, or dancing, or for a couple drinks, or whatever?) I was in a relationship as a teenager that lasted almost 4 years with a guy I had very little in common with. Honestly? If it wasn't a case of "I go out with him and only him" from the moment we first started going out, I would probably have seen that there were better people for me YEARS earlier and never gone through some of the things I went through.