oceanicchild
Honestly - if polyamory was more widely accepted, I really believe cheating on a whole would go down.
I believe cheating comes most into play because one, or both partners feel their mate isn't giving them adequate attention. More working hours is usually the cause, and lack of communication.
Which is why communication is all the more important.
If polyamory was more widely accepted, except in few colonized villages around the globe where it's okay, the rate of cheating would go down, because no one would feel like they'd have to hide their emotions.
..That didn't make any sense, did it?
It makes sense (in the sense that I understand what you're saying), but I'm not sure if I agree with that notion entirely. While it may get rid of some of the problem of cheating... I don't think it would be erased entirely or go down
that significantly.
While I agree people make mistakes and they can change, that living in monogamous relationships when you're not wired for such can make someone feel trapped, frieghtened and frustrated and without a proper outlet or understand can cause someone to slip up.
However I do not think all people who cheat are polyamorous or would make good polyamorous partners in general. The way I see it healthy relationships (of any kind) require trust, open honesty, communication and respect, people who cheat violate all of these tennants. They lie, they do not consider the needs of their partner, they do not remain in negotiated boundries. All of these problems could only be compounded by having multiple partners. (After all, cheating can and does still happen in polyamorous style relationships, it's not a solution to all the problems).
I think that it's possible for someone who has cheated to be polyamorous, and I believe they can learn to change their ways and become good partners... but I really don't think everyone who cheats are just confused polyamorists.
I can understand your point of view, especially because your views on why cheating happens... but I don't think it's quite as simple as that.