Mistress Lithias puppy
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- Posted: Thu, 28 Aug 2014 03:12:01 +0000
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Mistress Lithias kitten
Meep! There has been a lot of tension in here.
i have a few things i'd like to say, if i may. To SD, it seems as though, to me, you are a bit... confused. Your experiences with BDSM do not seem to be all healthy ones, especially since you said it started while you were a minor. That is going to cause you to see submission a bit differently than say someone who has has a more healthy experience with it. that's not to say all of your experiences were bad, just that, from what little you have said, some of them were, and being so young, it had a different effect on your psyche than it might have had your first experiences been after you'd finished 'growing up', as it were. you were still in a pliable state when you started and that can alter the way a person sees things. Its neither good nor bad, it just is. From one submissive who had some not so good experiences mixed with good ones to another, try to listen to the advice of others with an unjaded ear. its not easy, i know this from experience, but more often then not, if they're telling you that what they see is unhealthy, it usually is. i do hope you don't take anything i've said as an attack, but if you do, i will just chalk that up to your past experiences and not hold it against you.
To Master Darius, happy birthday, it is good to see you and yours around again, and do tell gillian hello for Mistress, Rafe, and i. she is truly someone to aspire to be like, for those of us with a submissive heart anyway. ^_^
To Chieftain Twilight, i agree with what Master Darius has said, you do seem to have your work cut out for you with your new girl but i for one do not think she is a lost cause. i think with your guidance she will grow and become the kind of submissive she seems to want to be.
To Harley, don't be so hard on the girl, she seems to have been through a lot and she's trying to learn, to be better.
To Marquessa de Sade, i agree about gillian's character, if only more people could be as serene as her, i think the world would be a happier place.
To everyone else, hello hello.
And now i must go. There is a vac-bed calling my name and i need to enjoy it while i can... Mistress will explain that should anyone desire to know what i mean *giggles*
i have a few things i'd like to say, if i may. To SD, it seems as though, to me, you are a bit... confused. Your experiences with BDSM do not seem to be all healthy ones, especially since you said it started while you were a minor. That is going to cause you to see submission a bit differently than say someone who has has a more healthy experience with it. that's not to say all of your experiences were bad, just that, from what little you have said, some of them were, and being so young, it had a different effect on your psyche than it might have had your first experiences been after you'd finished 'growing up', as it were. you were still in a pliable state when you started and that can alter the way a person sees things. Its neither good nor bad, it just is. From one submissive who had some not so good experiences mixed with good ones to another, try to listen to the advice of others with an unjaded ear. its not easy, i know this from experience, but more often then not, if they're telling you that what they see is unhealthy, it usually is. i do hope you don't take anything i've said as an attack, but if you do, i will just chalk that up to your past experiences and not hold it against you.
To Master Darius, happy birthday, it is good to see you and yours around again, and do tell gillian hello for Mistress, Rafe, and i. she is truly someone to aspire to be like, for those of us with a submissive heart anyway. ^_^
To Chieftain Twilight, i agree with what Master Darius has said, you do seem to have your work cut out for you with your new girl but i for one do not think she is a lost cause. i think with your guidance she will grow and become the kind of submissive she seems to want to be.
To Harley, don't be so hard on the girl, she seems to have been through a lot and she's trying to learn, to be better.
To Marquessa de Sade, i agree about gillian's character, if only more people could be as serene as her, i think the world would be a happier place.
To everyone else, hello hello.
And now i must go. There is a vac-bed calling my name and i need to enjoy it while i can... Mistress will explain that should anyone desire to know what i mean *giggles*
thank you for your kind words.truly.and your concern.I'll reply honestly.
the part about my body belonging to my owner completely to touch and take wherever, whenever, is what truly makes me happy.that closeness, that lack of boundaries is absolutely, positively positive for me.it's not abuse from a person I love.even if for everyone else it is, for me it isn't. it works both ways, I grew up differently from thosewho started later m that means that even myHEALTHY things might not be YOUR healthy things.please accept that.I know that part is healthy FOR SURE.
that doesn't mean there's never been ANYTHING abusive in my relationships. but to lookfor them, sex is not the place to start..I didn'tlearn my body is worth bnothing.it's worth a lot! which is why submitting it completely brings me such joy! no, if you want to abuse me there are far easier ways than sex.sex is the incredibly hard way.you'd really have to try hard! which you can probably believe knowing what you know already.
I believe it looks abusive.I believe it was partly abusive.I don't believe it's so easy for outsiders to see what parts were abusive and what weren't without imposing their own beliefs and feelings (wish I WASN'T feeling when I was or wasn't being abused,I was feeling MY feelings) onto it.
enjoy your play time.bye!
ps Sir Twilight is amazing.I'm sure he can turn me around.I'm only making him ashamed as it is.one day I want to make him proud.now I'll log out. smile
Kitten definitely understands the way it feels to have your body belong to your owner. that's how she feels, its how I feel as well, with Mistress. We are Hers, without a doubt. Maybe the whole thing was a matter of misunderstanding that got blown out of proportion? That can happen, especially when you get people together who have had different experiences and if something someone says is a trigger, well, it can cause an adverse reaction.
To explain what i mean, kitten's former master raped her and while he did so he told her she was a dirty slut and deserved it. For kitten, being called a 'slut' is a trigger, it would send her on a dark spiral that would put her in a very bad place, mentally, so it is a word Mistress does not ever use around her, nor does she allow anyone else to use the word around her. Sometimes just hearing or seeing the word can trigger a bad reaction in her.