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This thread and its contents are of a mature nature. This thread does not advocate unsafe or illegal practices. Viewer discretion is advised.

You have been warned. If you are squicked out by frank discussions of sex, alt. sex practices, leather, bondage, pain, clothespins, water balloons, and/or penguins please leave now.

Welcome to "Lick My Boots" The Official BDSM Support Thread. This is a thread for those who are BDSM enthusiasts in the real world; be you slave, Mistress, Top, or pet you are welcome here. Even those who are simply curious, and carry no title are welcome. We don’t bite, unless asked of course. ^_^ This thread is here to educate, and of course support those in the BDSM lifestyle and numerous subcultures that fit under that broad title. To practice BDSM or any part of the BDSM Lifestyle you must be the age of majority, which varies from 18-21 and IS NOT THE AGE OF CONSENT. IN SOME PLACES BDSM ACTIVITIES ARE ILLEGAL IN ANY FORM. Unsure what your age is for your area? LOOK IT UP! Better safe than sorry. This thread enforces an 18 age of majority.


The moderators of this thread do not condone illegal activities. This includes, but is not limited to: Underage M/s or BDSM relationships; non-consensual slavery; and abuse. Anyone who puts forth that they participate in or condone these activities will be blacklisted. For the safety of the members of this thread and those reading it, depending on the severity, posts admitting to participation in such activities will be reported. Please keep yourself and others safe by paying heed to these laws, they are there to protect you. Original paragraph by Error-dot-tar and Recursive Paradox.
Rules


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Related Links!
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The Gorean Lifestyle Located in the Lifestyles Forum
The Legalities Of It All


As a person within the BDSM lifestyle you need to be fully aware of the laws for your area, on the local, and national levels. What you think as fun, and a fulfilling part of your life could influence your job standing, keeping your children in a custody battle, and place you in prison. BE AWARE OF YOUR LAWS!!!! I cannot express that enough. Remember ignorance is not an excuse in a court room. Also, I or the Mods of this thread are not lawyers. I am interpreting the laws as I have been shown. Please, don't use me or this thread for legal advice.

Slavery, Legally Speaking

Slavery, the treating of non-consenting human beings as chattel and property, is in fact illegal. Selling and buying non-consenting human beings is also illegal. Also, I am not a lawyer, I am interpreting the laws as I have been shown. Please, don't use me or this thread for legal advice.

What makes "our" form of slavery any different? One, single, word. Consent. It may be two syllables and only 7 letters long, but in reality this is the word the entire BDSM world is built from. "Our" slavery is entirely self imposed. It is the slave's choice, (via consent) to hand over their lives to their Masters. "While physically and legally the slave can leave at any time, mentally and emotionally the slaves consider themselves owned and unable to leave unless the Master terminates the contract. The contract is psychological, not legal or physical. The slaves are, ironically, the ones that enforce their own slavery, which is why this does not fit the classical definitions of slavery". Error-dot-tar and Recursive Paradox

But, doesn't that mean slaves are stuck in the their own mental contract?!

"Actually no. The very way the contract works conceptually allows ways for the slave to leave if the slave wishes to leave. It’s just not psychologically viewed that way by the slaves. The majority of slaves feel that when a Master abuses them or breaks their trust (any form of betrayal) that Master has now implied that the contract was broken. It doesn’t matter if the Master actually wants the slave to leave or to break the contract. These actions are considered implication of a broken contract by the slave’s mindset. And of course, once the contract is broken? The slave is entirely free from the Master, as all the Master’s authority is null and void from that point." Error-dot-tar and Recursive Paradox

Age of Majority: What It Is and Why It Is Important


Consent is key to any BDSM relationship. Without consent, the relationship can easily turn abusive, and more importantly illegal. None of those are the point of BDSM, which is in fact to be fulfilled physically and mentally. To legally consent to BDSM activities, one needs to be of or over the AGE OF MAJORITY for your local area. This is very different than the AGE OF CONSENT.

“Age of majority is the legal age established under state law at which an individual is no longer a minor and, as a young adult, has the right and responsibility to make certain legal choices that adults make.” Source

This means when you reach the age of majority, you are able to have new rights (such as voting) and certain responsibilities (such as going to jury duty). This is what makes you legally an adult. I am using the term “legally” because the eyes of the law see a whole lot differently than your own.

The age of consent is “The age at which a person may marry without parental approval. The age at which a female is legally capable of agreeing to sexual intercourse, so that a male who engages in sex with her cannot be prosecuted for statutory rape. A person below the age of consent is sometimes called an infant or minor." Source

This means if you are of or over the age of consent you can legally consent to sex, and to marriage. HOWEVER, you cannot consent to bodily injury which takes place in BDSM.

Some terms you need to know:

Informed consent is consent given with full knowledge of what the activity is to pertain of and with full acceptance of that knowledge. An example of informed consent is a contract written and signed by all parties involved. If at least one of the people involved in the activity does not know the full detail of how that activity will take place, the risks involved, and what it means for each individual in question, it is not informed consent. Error-dot-tar and Recursive Paradox


Legal consent is based on your area's laws regarding consent. This includes things like the age of consent, age of majority, and past rulings regarding the ability to give consent while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. If the laws in your area does not permit the practice of BDSM activities due to reasons listed above or any others not mentioned, it is not legal consent.
Error-dot-tar and Recursive Paradox

How does this tie into BDSM? If you are under the age of majority you are legally unable to consent to any injury via not being able (legally speaking) to give informed consent. Most kinky activities like buying/veiwing porn or toys are also illegal to you if you are under the age of majority.. If you are hypothetically under the age of majority and participate in something kinky, like a flogging, it is possible your partner could be charged with assault, EVEN IF YOU CONSENTED, because legally speaking, you are unable (too young) to give informed consent to anything yourself. This the is law. Please, obey it! We do not want you in trouble!

England, Oh England! BDSM in the UK!


Ah, the UK. "Across the Pond" for me. The BDSM lifestyle permeates every country, but in the UK there are some law variances. I advise anyone in the BDSM Lifestyle to be VERY familiar with your local state, province, and country laws about obscenity, consent, and BDSM in general.

Operation Spanner:

In December 1990 in the UK, 16 gay men were given prison sentences of up to four and a half years or fined for engaging in consensual SM activity. This followed a police investigation called Operation Spanner prompted by the chance finding of a videotape of SM activities.

The convictions have now been upheld by both the Court of Appeal and the Law Lords in the UK and the European Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg.

Despite what you may have read in the newspapers, for the most part, the men were convicted of the standard offence of assault occasioning actual bodily harm. Their defence, that they had all consented to the activities, was denied.

SM is not itself 'illegal'.

However, if the police discover you have engaged in SM activities which have caused injury, you and your partner could be prosecuted for assault.

The Spanner Trust - UK KINKSTERS PLEASE READ

“Extreme” Images:

"From 26th January 2009 it has been illegal for anyone in England and Wales to possess an “extreme” image, even if the activity itself is legal."

What does this mean? You cannot look at BDSM or possess BDSM imagery that includes but I assume is not limitied to:

"10. An extreme act is one which threatens a person’s life, which results or is likely to result in serious injury to a person’s a**s, breasts or genitals, which involves sexual interference with a human corpse, or which involves a person performing intercourse or oral sex with an animal. Only these specific acts will be caught, and only in conjunction with the other two elements of the offense.

11. Life-threatening is not defined in the Act. It will therefore take its ordinary English meaning and will be a question of fact for the magistrate or jury. It could include depictions of hanging, suffocation, or sexual assault involving a threat with a weapon.

12. Serious injury is not defined in the Act. It will be a question of fact for the magistrate or jury. The intention is that “serious injury” should be given its ordinary English meaning. The reference to “serious injury” was not intended to expressly link into the case law with respect to “grievous bodily harm” under Sections 8 and 20 of the Offences Against the Person Act 86 . Serious injury could include the insertion of sharp objects or the mutilation of breasts or genitals.

13. As well as being a specified act, an extreme act must be explicit and realistic. Both those terms take their ordinary dictionary definition.

14. A further requirement in respect of an extreme act is that a reasonable person looking at the image would think that the people and animals portrayed were real. The practical effect of that requirement is that only photographs and films, and images which are indistinguishable from photographs and films, will be caught by the offence.”

IF YOU ARE IN THE UK PLEASE NAVIGATE TO THIS SOURCE!
Is BDSM Abuse?....NO!


BDSM is an intense mix dominance, sexuality, and sometimes violence, but this does not make it inherently abusive!

Abuse is a wretched, terrible, act that tears apart families, and kills people. Abuse should never be tolerated by anyone, anywhere at anytime. Period. End of story. If you are being abused this is a great place to seek help! You can escape!

BDSM and abuse are confused often by those outside of the lifestyle. Bruises are bruises right? WRONG! There is one giant, marked difference between BDSM and abuse. That simple, two syllable, seven letter word again; CONSENT! This is also where the credos Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC) and Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) come from. Consensual, is in both of these credos. If something you do not like is happening in your relationship you have every right to have it stop; be you slave, submissive, pet or vanilla person.

I will not stick my fingers in my ears and say that the BDSM community is free of abuse. No community is free of abuse. However, if you encounter abuse within your community you need to know what it looks like so you can speak out against it. Masters can abuse not only their slaves, but other Masters. Slaves can also be abusers to their Masters or other slaves. In my opinion if someone abuses someone else, they lose their title, they aren't "Masters" or "slaves", they are abusers since what they are doing is outside the realm of BDSM.

ashes_of_phoenix

BDSM activities are ALWAYS Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Abuse is NEVER safe, NEVER sane, and NEVER consensual.

BDSM follows established rules. Abuse has no rules.

BDSM is negotiated for the safety of both partners. Abuse is NEVER negotiated.

BDSM activities are used for mutual pleasure. Abuse is used to terrorize, frighten and control.

In BDSM, safewords can be used to stop any activity. If someone is being abused they cannot stop what is happening to them.

BDSM activities are about pleasure and being connected. Abuse is about power and control.

KNOW THE DIFFERENCE ---END DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

National Leather Association:International

NLA-I Domestic Violence Project Website: http://www.nlaidvproject.us/


What Abuse Looks Like! Know It! Stop It From Happening To You And Others!

As stated above abuse is not tolerated in this thread, or anywhere else for that matter. If you are in an abusive situation please form a safe plan of action to get out. There is always hope and the violence will end!

National Domestic Violence Hotline
Domestic Violence International Resources

What is Domestic Violence? National Domestic Violence Help Line

Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner [without that partners informed consent].

Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person [done without that person's informed consent]. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone. [BDSM is meant for mutual enjoyment of partners, not the above.]

Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner [does these things to you without your informed consent]:

* Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
* Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
* Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
* Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
* Does not want you to work.
* Controls finances or refuses to share money.
* Punishes you by withholding affection.
* Expects you to ask permission.
* Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
* Humiliates you in any way.
[* Disrespected your use of a safeword.]

You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever [done these things to you without your informed consent]:

* Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
* Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
* Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
* Scared you by driving recklessly.
* Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
* Forced you to leave your home.
* Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
* Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
* Hurt your children.
* Used physical force in sexual situations.
[* Disrespected your use of a safeword.]

You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner [does these things without your informed consent]:


* Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
* Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
* Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
* Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
* Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
* Held you down during sex.
* Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
* Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
* Involved other people in sexual activities with you.
* Ignored your feelings regarding sex.
[* Disrespected your use of a safeword.]


What Can Each Of Us Do?


* Call the police if you see or hear evidence of domestic violence.

* Speak out publicly against domestic violence.

* Take action personally against domestic violence when a neighbor, a co-worker, a friend, or a family member is involved or being abused.

* Encourage your neighborhood watch or block association to become as concerned with watching out for domestic violence as with burglaries and other crimes.

* Reach out to support someone whom you believe is a victim of domestic violence and/or talk with a person you believe is being abusive.

* Help others become informed, by inviting speakers to your church, professional organization, civic group, or workplace.

* Support domestic violence counseling programs and shelters. Source - Domestic Violence Awareness Handbook
Common Vocabulary


*Dominant - One who gives orders during SM play

*Sadist - A person who specifically enjoys giving pain

*Top - A generic term for someone who enjoys being dominant and/or sadistic. Many people use the word "top" to mean someone who enjoys giving sensation, as opposed to a "dominant," who enjoys being in control of others

*Submissive - One who obeys orders during SM play

*Masochist - A person who specifically enjoys receiving pain

*Bottom - A generic term for someone who enjoys being submissive and/or masochistic. Many people use the word "bottom" to mean specifically someone who enjoys being given carious sensations, as opposed to a "submissive," who enjoys being controlled

*Switch - A person who enjoys both top and bottom roles

*Scene - A meeting between two (or more) people for the purpose of SM play. Also know as a "session".

*Toy - A piece of SM equipment such as a whip, collar. length of rope and so forth. One "plays" with "toys" during "scenes."

*In the Scene - A member of the SM community. A person might say "I've been in the scene for five years." One person might ask another, "is so-and-so in the scene?"

Pet - A type of submissive who identifies with being treated like a pet; especially an animal pet. Specific pets can be ponies, kittens, and dogs. However, this is not a limiting list.

Owner - A type of top who identifies as keeping or owning a pet; especially an animal pet.

Flogger - Multi-tailed impact play toy. Normally made of various leathers or ropes

Whip - Single tailed impact play toy normally made of leather.

Paddle - A broad impact play toy. Can be solid or slatted for different sensations.

Crop - A riding crop, used as an impact play toy

Cane - A thick wooden or synthetic fiber stick used for heavy impact play. A hit with a cane is called a "stroke" or"cut".

Switch - relatively thinner than a cane but still made of wood or synthetic fibers used as an impact play toy.

St. Andrews Cross - A large toy shaped like an "X" for binding a person upon

Dungeon - A place, not necessarily underground used a play space. Normally, dungeons are themed and outfitted for SM place.

Play Party - A party where like minded people meet and play together.

Munch - a plain clothed meeting of kinky people normally in a public place.

Kinkster - name for those "in the scene".

**Fetish - inanimate object given unreasonable attention, or any part of the body not of a sexual nature that arouses erotic feelings. Someone with a fetish is called a fetishist.

Have a suggestion for more vocab?! Please feel free to PM an active mod with your idea or own definition.

*Taken from SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

** Taken from Wipipedia
FAQ – Dispelling Myths



Are All Masters Assholes?


No! Of course not! Most Masters are not the stereotypical, stoic tall man clad in leather straps and silver studs. If anything, that is the minority. Masters range from 20-something college students to 60-something women, with anything and everything in between. Anyone can take a Top role. "[t]he kind of guy or gal who enjoys exploring with his or her partner and pleasing his or her partner, of course!

More than that, though; by exploring your fantasies and your partner's fantasies, you create a deep intimacy that's hard to beat. This kind of exploration, and sharing of fantasies and sexual feelings, helps form a bond of intimacy and trust that's at once more romantic and more passionate than you may believe.

And the pleasure to be gained simply from seeing your partner eager to service you and submit to your desires shouldn't be discounted, either..." BDSM For Nice Guys (cite removed as per mod demand)

Tops of any sort seek to please their own needs and their partners; always with consent. If you see a Top whipping a partner, that bottom agreed upon it. Even if it seems harsh and painful, odds are that bottom is enjoying it. Else wise, all play would stop.

Now, I cannot say that some Doms, Tops, or Masters are assholes. Of course, each person has a different personality. However, there is no "twue" Top or Master personality.

Does BDSM Always Have To Involve Sex?


nightwolf714


The stereotype of BDSM is one filled with whips and chains and orgies. But BDSM is more like a buffet, where you fill your plate with whatever suits your fancy and leave behind things that you dislike. This is where the idea of “your kink is not my kink” and “your mileage may vary” comes from. One of the things that can be taken up or left behind is the sexual aspect.

BDSM is often times linked with sexuality. People refer to Dom or sub as a sexual orientation. However, this is not always the case. BDSM can be separated into two categories, the kinks and the D/s relationship. Kink is defined by defined by Merriam-Webster as an unconventional sexual behavior. However, another definition of the word is an unusual action or mentality. SourceSame is true for the word fetish, where it can be defined as something required for sexual pleasure or an intense fixation. Source Many people use this definition of the word as the pleasure they get from the kink can be separate from their sexual pleasure. These people may perform rope bondage for the secure feeling or enjoy sado-masochism for the endorphin and adrenaline rush.

The other aspect of BDSM is the D/s relationship. This type of relationship can come in many different forms. There are those who are purely sexual D/s. There are those who are submissive rather sexual or otherwise. And there are some who have agreed to not bring the dynamic into the bedroom for various reasons.

While the norm is for BDSM to have a sexual aspect (especially in our sexual intense society that many of us live in), one should be aware that this is not always the case. It is quite possible for a Dom to not be a top but instead a bottom or neither. Same with a sub. It is all about what fits in with your beliefs and desires.



A good example of a non sexual D/s relationship is the bond between Bruce Wane (Batman) and Alfred. Alfred is always there at the end of the mission to take care of and provide support and service to Bruce. They are great friends, confidants, and are in a non sexual relationship. Unless of course you are reading slash fiction then they might be! ^_^.

Non sexual service and D/s relationships contain just as much trust and bonding as a sexual relationship; just without the sex. Some might be house maids, or butlers doing the housework and making the coffee in the morning. Others might be rope bottoms who only like to be tied up and nothing more. BDSM is a highly malleable lifestyle in you can mold it to fit any of your whims be it sex or in this case; no sex.

Are All Slaves Doormats?



Of course not. Submission is given, never taken. Just because someone chooses to submit one should not treat it as an open invitation to walk all over them and order them around. You weren't given that submission, so you have no right to order them around.

Again that is not to say some submissives or bottoms have more permissive personalities than others. However, if one submissive or bottom has a slightly more, emboldened personality, it does not make them less of a submissive or bottom. There is no "twue" submissive personality.

Isn't This Unhealthy?



As a whole, I believe that any consensual actions between adults that mutually benefits and expands their boundaries and self awareness is healthy. If someone is unhappy with what is happening, or what is happening is taking them away from and damaging their daily life, then things become unhealthy.

Sexual masochism and sexual sadism is listed in the DSM-IV-TR, which is a diagnostic manual for those in the mental health profession. They are both listed under the paraphilia section. Take note however that paraphilias are formed around social norms. Homosexuality was considered a paraphilia for a very long time. Have a paraphilia isn't necessarily a "bad" thing unless they involved the non-consenting such as animals or children or the obvious non-consenting adult. Then it isn't legal, nor are those BDSM.

Both of these listings assert that it only becomes a disorder when it impacts someones daily life negatively and/or causes distress to the person and/or when it involves non-consensual acts. Then and only then is it a mental disorder.

It is suggested that these paraphilia's manifest because of childhood experiences or classical conditioning. Personally, I think it is more than just that.

But people are being hit, beaten, bound and called all numerous amount of foul names. How is this healthy?! Simple. Consent. Everyone consents to what happens to them. Also, those who wish to be hit, beaten, and bound ENJOY IT! It may seem like it hurts to you, but what they are feeling, and what you would feel in their same position are very different sensations. The intent of BDSM is to hurt for a moment, not harm for a lifetime.

Isn't BDSM the Same as Self Harm?


No. While being in a scene can bring out cathartic feelings, it should not be used in place of professional therapy. Self harm is used to deal with feelings and situations that someone can not handle or do not know how to handle in a conventional and healthy manner. To use BDSM in this way is not a great idea. There is no healthy substitute for working through tough emotions and issues.

Safewords?!


A safeword is a word or action previously agreed upon to indicate discomfort or emergency. During play, strange things come out of peoples mouths. Some bottoms may scream "NO!!!!" but really mean "YES YES YES!!!!!!". A safeword is the way to say no, and mean it, without any confusion or miscommunication. Safewords are very important. They keep it SSC, and RACK without detouring from play.

Safewords should be a short simple word that doesn't come up often in play. "No", "stop", "hairy purple sheepdog" and "supercalifragilisticexpialidocious" are not good safewords. A traditional safeword system is the "red", "yellow", "green" system. "Red" means stop now! "Yellow" means, lighter please or if you continue I will say "red". "Green" means please more! Safewords can be personalized.

When a bottom is gagged or unable to speak, a safeaction should be in place. The dropping of a specific item, or certain sequence of grunts or squeezes of a hand is normally employed in situations like that.

]Have more suggestions for the FAQ?! Please Feel free to suggest them to any of the active mods. You are always more than welcome to write your own if you feel there is something missing.


Further Reading and Education


Fiction For Your Creative Side

Sleeping Beauty Series (3 Books) by Anne Rice as A. N. Roquelaure

Story of O by Pauline Reage

Gorean Saga (28 books) by John Norman

The Marketplace Series (5 books) by Laura Antoniou

Non-Fiction For your Learnin' Side

Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus by Christina Abernathy

The Ethical Slut: Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton

When Someone You Love Is Kinky by Dossie Easton

Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex by Gloria G Brame

Female Submission: The Journals of Madelaine
by Claudia Varrin

Different Loving: A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by Gloria G Brame

Slavecraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude by Guy Baldwin

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 (M/s Series) by Robert Rubel PhD

Manual Creation: Defining the Structure of an M/s Household by Machele Kindle

Becoming a Slave: The Theory and Practice of Voluntary Servitude by Jack Rinella

Philosophy in the Dungeon: The Magic of Sex & Spirit by Jack Rinella

The Complete Slave: Creating and Living an Erotic Dominant/Submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella

The Master's Manual: Handbook of Erotic Dominance by Jack Rinella

Erotic Bondage Handbook by Jay Wiseman

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Loving Dominant by John Warren

Flogging by Joseph Bean

S-M The Last Taboo Edited by Gerald and Caroline Greene

Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The real lives of gay Masters and slaves by david stein

The Mistress Manual: A Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance (Erotic) by Lorelei

Endless Knot: A Spiritual Odyssey Through Sado-Masochism by Mathew Styranka

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori

Wild Side Sex: the Book of Kink: Educational, Sensual and Entertaining Essays by Midori

The Control Book by Peter Masters

Bondage on a Budget by Alison Tyler

To Love, to Obey, to Serve: Diary of an Old Guard Slave by V. M. Johnson

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller

Master/Slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert J. Rubel

Protocols: Handbook for the Female Slave by Robert J. Rubel

The Toybag Guide to Hot Wax & Temperature Play (Toybag Guide) by Spectrum

Two Knotty Boys Showing You The Ropes: A Step-by-Step, Illustrated Guide for Tying Sensual and Decorative Rope Bondage by Two Knotty Boys

Two Knotty Boys Back in the Ropes: A Step-by-Step Illustrated Guide for Tying Sensual and Decorative Rope Bondage by Two Knotty Boys

Bondage for Sex Vol. 1 by Chanta Rose

Everyday Knots For Fishermen, Boaters, Climbers, Crafters, and Household Use by Geoffery Budworth

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Compleat Spanker by Lady Green

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny

Master Nage's Guide To Training Consensual Slaves by Master Nage

The Path of Service: Guideposts for Excellence (S/M Tech Educational) by Christina Parker

Movies for Your Inner Critic

Secretary. 2002. Starring James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal

The Pet. 2006. Starring Pierre Dulat and Andrea Edmondson

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Awesome, such quick movement!

For the first topic at hand; what brought you to the lifestyle?

For me, it was the second reincarnation of this thread by Error and Poe. They presented an educational and fun place to learn about kink in a frank manner. I am forever in doubt to them for helping me find a large part of myself.

From the thread I branched out to books, and when I got old enough, to playing kinky. I now have a fiance, and Dom who loves me, and treats me well, and calls me a wanton little slut. ^_^

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