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- Posted: Tue, 07 Oct 2014 06:27:05 +0000
Indeed it is!
I was so nervous!
So you and your man are no longer together?
Yep, broken up. But he certainly isn't acting different. All he'd have to do is call me a pet name and tell me he loves me and I swear it wouldn't be any different. This is why I'm debating on asking him if he wants to give it another shot. Because if we're going to spend this much time together (which of course I want to do because I genuinely care for an enjoy him) I'd like for us to be exclusive.
Aww that's so sad.
Maybe ask him to see?
I'm thinking about it. I have a feeling he'd still say no, though, despite his behavior. I've talked to various people about it. A lot of people tell me to just move on and that we broke up for a reason but sometimes people need breaks. I also talked to a counselor about it. She said it sounds like he may have psyched himself out and felt that removing the label of boyfriend and girlfriend would relieve him of pressure and obligations, and it technically has, but he's doing exactly what he claimed was pressured to do and couldn't quite live up to.
Every morning for 3 days now I've woken to a spam of texts from him trying to get me to respond to him because he thought I was there, but not responding. And this evening he wasn't feel well and he was tired, he didn't feel like talking but he still called me on Skype. He got on cam and just listened to me talk.
In my head I think "Why not give it another shot?" I won't ask much else from him beyond what he's giving me now. But you never know what's going on in his head.
Maybe he doesn't like the who boyfriend/girlfriend title. Kinda like how marry people are better just dating not being actually married.
But I think you should really work up the courage to ask him. Maybe if you can in person?
That's always really frustrated me with people. The people who think dating changes everything, and that marriage changes everything. No, people who psyche themselves out and freak out over the commitment because they think it will change everything are the ones who change and ruin everything stressed
And anyone else who actually thinks being in a relationship or being married does change everything and automatically gives you certain entitlements that you didn't before just need to go away or something. Nothing should change in a relationship when you take it to the next level, it should get better.