Wee Little
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- Posted: Thu, 26 Jun 2014 01:26:27 +0000
RunningWithNemo
Wee Little
Maybe I did just have shitty luck. I'm in the US and my boyfriend is in Canada. She badgered me for everything down to how new my clothing looked, which she found suspicious.
While a great deal of it was new, it wasn't all new and it's not like I bought it for the trip. It was recently my birthday and I treated myself to some new clothing.
She chewed me out for only having $300 for a weekend with someone I never met (I was being hosted, I didn't need much and I get her concern but I trusted him).
She made me give her my phone and she read all of my text messages and conversations on my Facebook and Skype app. And she inquired on some of the conversation topics too. At some point she got confused because my boyfriends name is Jesse, my best friends name is Jessica, my bosses name is Jim, and my supervisors name is Justin. So when she didn't see any texts from my boyfriend (he doesn't text) but she saw those three J names, she got confused and suspicious and badgered me more about that. Funny considering I may be starting a second job soon and my boss and supervisor over at that place will be Jim and Julie...
In the end she let me go. Could've been worse I suppose.
I don't think with how much she was prying I could have avoided the topic of who I was visiting. I've received mixed suggestions - don't lie, saying it's a friend vs. a boyfriend doesn't make much of a difference, then some say to keep it simple and to just say a friend. Then again I'm sure by reading my Skype conversations with him she figured out he was more than a friend, which she didn't really get onto me for. She may just be used to it. From the minute I said he was a guy I met online she probably assumed it was a boyfriend.
While a great deal of it was new, it wasn't all new and it's not like I bought it for the trip. It was recently my birthday and I treated myself to some new clothing.
She chewed me out for only having $300 for a weekend with someone I never met (I was being hosted, I didn't need much and I get her concern but I trusted him).
She made me give her my phone and she read all of my text messages and conversations on my Facebook and Skype app. And she inquired on some of the conversation topics too. At some point she got confused because my boyfriends name is Jesse, my best friends name is Jessica, my bosses name is Jim, and my supervisors name is Justin. So when she didn't see any texts from my boyfriend (he doesn't text) but she saw those three J names, she got confused and suspicious and badgered me more about that. Funny considering I may be starting a second job soon and my boss and supervisor over at that place will be Jim and Julie...
In the end she let me go. Could've been worse I suppose.
I don't think with how much she was prying I could have avoided the topic of who I was visiting. I've received mixed suggestions - don't lie, saying it's a friend vs. a boyfriend doesn't make much of a difference, then some say to keep it simple and to just say a friend. Then again I'm sure by reading my Skype conversations with him she figured out he was more than a friend, which she didn't really get onto me for. She may just be used to it. From the minute I said he was a guy I met online she probably assumed it was a boyfriend.
That is insane that she acted that way - she doesn't know you and she doesn't know him... who is she to judge your relationship!! *hugs* I'm sorry that she acted that way hon!! sad
It's alright. I just hope it it doesn't happen again. It just may, I just hope I don't one day get denied entry eek I've heard stories of people getting denied entry for no real reason. But thinking about it makes me feel paranoid and nervous because they seemed to question me for everything and I'm not sure if it's normal.
When I was going back to the US they didn't pester me at all nearly. He asked my nationality, asked why I went to Canada, asked what game I play with my boyfriend (guessing they keep track of the questions you answered with the other customs agent because I never mentioned playing any games with him), asked if I had anything to declare, and he cracked a little joke that it must not have gone well if I wasn't coming back and bringing my boyfriend back with me.