Sammiifayse
Those of you that remember the drama my mother caused me a few weeks back? Well she's at it again. Sent me a message today asking for a photo of Emmett, I didn't reply 'cause I was still trying to decide what to do, so she sent another one tersely asking for a photo of Emmett. I sent her one, with a messaging saying I had gotten her messages and that I took so long to reply because I wasn't sure how I felt about everything and what I wanted to do.
She replied saying something along the lines of "what has happened is history, if you want to hold a gurdge, that's up to you. But do you really think it's fair to keep Emmett from knowing your mother and father?".
That's not going to fly with me, you're not going to guilt trip me with my own son.
I responded "I only knew one set of my grandparents and it never hurt me. I'm not holding a grudge so much as trying to get you to realise that you need to treat me with respect. It seems the only way I'm going to get you to realise this is to show you what you stand to lose if you don't"
She shoots something back about offering the olive branch etc. still being a rude, terse, disrespectful piece of work, claiming I'll be losing out too if I cut her off (not that I can see how). So whatever, I'm done. I wash my hands of her. I'll continue to talk to Dad, to send him messages and such.
That's the only thing that's bothering me about all this. I really wanted Emmett to know my Dad. My Dad was everything to me growing up & he's the most amazing man I know & he is so smitten with Emmett. I hate having to take Emmett away from him because he and my mother are a package deal. Hopefully one time when we're on the Coast visiting Michael's parents, he'll be there visiting Nan & I'll be able to take Emmett to see him then.
I kinda know how you feel, I got pregnant and moved out at 17, less than 3 months later my parent's relationship exploded, she was cheating on my dad, he found out, she called the cops on him (???) he had to move a couple hours away, AND I WAS PREGNANT and nobody gave a s**t
emo Actually, the last time I would ever see my parents together was when my bf and I went to dinner with all of our parentals and reveled both the first ultrasound pics and the gender of their new grandchild.
I did not care about my mom at all at this point, she lied to my face about what happened (while still saying part of the truth, at least about how she didn't really have a good reason for calling the cops on him) I didn't even want her in my life at that point, but I wasn't about to make that decision for my daughter. I still don't talk to her that often, but she is usually to be seen around holidays, a phone call every month or two. As for my dad, I did everything I could to make him a part of my daughter's life, she knew him and she loved him, he loved her and made it known, he passed away in December. But my daughter loves my mom too, and I'm happy that I didn't shut her out completely since shes the only part of my previous generations still around. And our relationship has improved since I don't have to see/deal with her as much, she's always been kinda off in her own la-la land... but w/e she loves and cares about my daughter who's still young that love all she really understands about relationships