Introverts and Extroverts

[Naked Bacon]

I'm an introvert too and I think she sounds like a real b***h for cancelling last minute. Been there. You ******** suck it up because that's what you do. It's called having conviction. It pisses me off when people use their introversion as an excuse to be assholes. I've seen people say horrible things to others because they felt introversion excused it. It isn't an excuse; it's learned helplessness at best.

Any case, if she has that hard a time going to things she's planned (again, been there), her problem isn't introversion, it's probably social/somethingelse anxiety. In which case going "oh but I'm such an introvert" is just her not solving her own issues and is pretty not cool.

I'm fine with extroverts, though my close friends aren't ones. Sometimes I find them obnoxious but I chalk stuff up to personality more than which 'vert they are. That's part of their personality anyway. Whether someone's an introvert or an extrovert you're either compatible or you're not.

[SamaSenseiSenpai]

I am very introverted, kind, and shy. And now you know why I am single.

[Kitagawa Yusuke]

I'm introverted, but some wouldn't think so. I just tend to get riled up over things I love, like video games or something.
People tend to exhaust me really easily though, and I need plenty of time to recharge. I usually don't make any plans unless I know I have the capacity to deal with it. My closest friends are introverted, but recently I became close to an extroverted guy, and he's exhausting. Fun, but exhausting sometimes. I don't know how I can deal with him sometimes, but he's a lovable guy.
I can usually handle most things, but my recharge time is long, which is why I plan things in advance. A lot.

[thewaitingtree]

sometimes i feel left out because after turning down a few invites - no one invites me anymore.
(but if i say i'll come. i come. breaking promises is bad.)

i do like to go out. but i just need to be invited to a place that's not too loud. biggrin (or promised coffee. i will go most places if there is coffee)

[Blooming desire]

I'm an introvert and quiet at the same time. For me, I would never go to a big social party. Other than that, I would go to a party if i know someone and they stick to me. However, sadly, most people that invite me to go would usually abandon me, so it would feel awkward and very lonely. .this made me decline invitations and no one (except family) would invite me lol

[miss norma jean]

peach tea latte

I'm an introvert. At the same time, I'm also really shy. Most people have this misconception that the two traits are the same, but they're really not.

You should be aware though that introversion and extroversion has nothing to do with one's social skills, but rather where they get their energy from. While extroverts can get energized by being in social situations, introverts get their energy from being in solitude. Social situations can be mentally draining to introverts, and they feel the need for quiet time to themselves in order to recharge. Whenever I go to gatherings or anywhere with family or friends, I quickly feel tired after a while and just want to go home and recharge myself. This comic I found on Tumblr pretty much sums up what it feels like to be an introvert perfectly, imo.

I was just going to post this. lol The misconception about introversion and shyness being the same can be very frustrating. I'm a little shy when meeting people for the first time or in large groups, however, I don't mind socializing and can do so very well. But it comes at cost. As stated, socializing is VERY draining for introverts. Just the normal social interactions I need to perform for work (answering the phone, conversing with my co-worker about what needs to be done, being a part of the conversation) often leave me wiped out after my shift is over. Hell, just doing normal family things wears me out. I like a LOT of me time, but I also still need companionship and social interaction... I just get tired if I have to talk and be "on" for hours.

With that being said, most of my friends seem to be very outgoing and/or extroverted. I don't mind it too much, in fact I used to envy them a lot when I was younger. But I've learned to embrace who I am and understand that this is normal for many people, and that I'm not "anti-social" as some people in my family would accuse me of being.

My advice would be to invite your friend to things that are just the two of you, or maybe one or more people added. Sometimes large groups can be intimidating. 3nodding

[Theodoro]

Well, if we're going by Jung, the I/E dichotomy has the least friction. Introversion = subjective data, extroversion = objective data. I can get along with an extrovert just fine so long as they aren't an Fe ego.

[Sakura Latte]

Phenothiazines

Cancelling plans a few hours before meeting isn't a sign of being introverted, it's a sign of being a flake.

I'm pretty introverted but I do enjoy socializing once in a while. Hanging out with friends a few times a week is good enough for me. The rest of the time I prefer to spend alone.

But there are legitimate reasons for someone to cancel plans a few hours beforehand, though, such as if an emergency suddenly came up. Surely the person whom one made plans with would understand in that sort of situation. I'm not relating this to the op's friend, but just pointing out that it happebs.

[xO-MULE-Ox]

Nurse Kipsie

I had a shoot with a group of extroverts long ago.

They were loud mouthed, raunchy, gossipers who's main focus was who's dating who, who's sleeping with whom, etc. I really just had to sit there while they blabbed unprofessionally about nonsense while they did my hair, makeup, etc. they even decided to have a little twerking competition during the shoot and had the audacity to offer me dinner at a public restaurant. Ugh, extroverts

Do you think that is an extrovert trait though? Extrovert arent inherently gossips and shallow.

[xO-MULE-Ox]

-ThE LoCal HipPY-

xO-MULE-Ox

Anyone else frequently become frustrated when dealing with someone that has the opposite trait to you?

Grah!

I have a friend who is very introverted and while I can appreciate her need for quiet and alone time, cancelling plans a few hours before were meant to meet is not ok.
Similarly, refusing to socialise with others on a frequent basis and only wanting to sit and work one on one can be incredibly frustrating.

I love her dearly but seriously, there are some things she does that just annoys me to no end.

Have you had similar experiences with a friend?
Does it frustrate you as much as it does me? emotion_donotwant

I know what you are saying. When the introverts outnumbered the extroverts in my group of friends there were positives and negatives. The other extrovert and I found ourselves leading the way and exploring the New things we wanted, however sometimes we would be limited mod adventure because all the introverts were uncomfortable. This is part of the nature of coexistence, finding compromise.

Absolutely. I love seeking out new adventures and naturally i want my friends around me to enjoy them as well. I have had an introverted friend once tell me though that she feels forced to attend, like she willingly goes but does feel pressured. Its just one of the miscommunications that i have experienced personally when dealing with someone of the opposite trait.

[xO-MULE-Ox]

Cloud_Cookie

Your friend sounds like me haha. I just don't really like getting ready to hang out with people. Once I'm there, I'm fine. But it's the time leading up to it that I don't care for. For me, meeting people is just waaay too much work. At the same time, I like hanging out with people. I'm pretty quiet depending on if I know them beforehand or not though haha. To keep the conversation going, I usually just ask a lot of questions about the other person. Extroverted people seem to like that a lot. I usually don't have a problem with extroverted people, unless they are really obnoxious. They just always seem to have a problem with me lol xp

My friends does sound like you :p She will turn down events simply because getting ready is just too much of a hassle lol.

[Sakura Latte]

britt1110

I'm not sure what I am..... I lean more towards introvert, but I'm not the extreme case that I always hear about. Maybe I'm a shy extrovert? I think I'm more of an extrovert with people I know and am comfortable with.
..... I feel like I'm an introvert who isn't shy or has social anxiety.
Tottaly lying to myself, I'm an introvert. Theres no other way to put it.

Introversion has absolutely nothing to do with shyness or social anxiety. There are many introverts who are sociable and outgoing, but at the end of the day prefer quiet time to themselves. What introversion is is that you feel more energized being by yourself than with a bunch of people.

introversion vs extroversion

[xO-MULE-Ox]

The Neon Paradox

The general stereotype is that introverts are selfish and extroverts are shallow. What are you thoughts on that?

[xO-MULE-Ox]

britt1110

I'm not sure what I am..... I lean more towards introvert, but I'm not the extreme case that I always hear about. Maybe I'm a shy extrovert? I think I'm more of an extrovert with people I know and am comfortable with.
..... I feel like I'm an introvert who isn't shy or has social anxiety.
Tottaly lying to myself, I'm an introvert. Theres no other way to put it.

Haha youre reasoning makes complete sense to me.
Id say im a shy extrovert :p

[xO-MULE-Ox]

Naked Bacon

I'm an introvert too and I think she sounds like a real b***h for cancelling last minute. Been there. You ******** suck it up because that's what you do. It's called having conviction. It pisses me off when people use their introversion as an excuse to be assholes. I've seen people say horrible things to others because they felt introversion excused it. It isn't an excuse; it's learned helplessness at best.

Any case, if she has that hard a time going to things she's planned (again, been there), her problem isn't introversion, it's probably social/somethingelse anxiety. In which case going "oh but I'm such an introvert" is just her not solving her own issues and is pretty not cool.

I'm fine with extroverts, though my close friends aren't ones. Sometimes I find them obnoxious but I chalk stuff up to personality more than which 'vert they are. That's part of their personality anyway. Whether someone's an introvert or an extrovert you're either compatible or you're not.

The general stereotype is that introverts are selfish and extroverts are shallow. The behavior of cancelling things because they dont have enough social energy is often linked to introversion but would you say that its used as an excuse to disguise selfishness? Or do you think the stereotype is completely wrong?