How long did or is it taking you to getting over crush?

[Chieftain Twilight]

I honestly can't comprehend "getting over" somebody you ever really loved. crushes are one thing, but that usually doens't take so long. but Love, I don't fall out of Love.

I don't really know how the amount of time it takes to get over a crush is even relevant to my life, or anyone's for that matter. but I don't set other peoples' priorities. they do. as far as I am concerned, I get over crushes when I get over them. I don't even think about it. I think that's part of getting over them.

[Paris ls Burning]

I have a crush on my best friend and I have for about six months now.
I really wish I didn't, because not only is he gay, but he's taken and he used to date another good friend of mine.
I haven't told him how I feel and I don't plan on it since it would never work out anyway, but I haven't been able to "get over it" no matter how hard I try.

[ectogasm]

My biggest crush?
A few months maybe. It hurt a lot.

[disabledaccount0069]

I'm a helpless p***y a** b***h so i know I'll never have a chance with any woman.

The infatuation is enough for me.

After that I go watch porn and forget.

[Willow_SheWolf]

Roughly two hours and a citrus sangria.

[The Peppermint Bunny]

Well, the last crush I had was during my first year pursuing an MA. The guy was smart, intelligent, funny, and kind of had the same attractiveness as James Franco. I mistook his kindness for flirting (although it didn't help when we both worked as temporary English instructors for Korean exchange students and we chaperoned trips together. When we went to Disneyland, he said I'd make a good Princess Jasmine, and when we went to Hollywood, our students kept asking us if we were boyfriend and girlfriend). I never acted on my feelings, because 1) I had a feeling I was overanalyzing his behavior, 2) I found out that I was correct about that, and 3) he had a girlfriend and I never want to be that person that disregards the feelings of someone else for my own personal happiness. I wouldn't want someone flirting with someone I date, so I am not going to do that to someone else.

I got over him relatively quickly, but I think that might be because I'm a little older. When you're younger, your crush not returning your feelings can seem like the end of the world, but you eventually get over it.

[dawgmeat]

I get crushes a lot but get over them by finding better people to crush on

[Ellie Mae Tractor]

It took me over a year to get past my girlfriend. And that was a three year relationship. She was also my first.

******** meeee

[Sweet_Whimsy]

Robotic lalanono

Well, the last crush I had was during my first year pursuing an MA. The guy was smart, intelligent, funny, and kind of had the same attractiveness as James Franco. I mistook his kindness for flirting (although it didn't help when we both worked as temporary English instructors for Korean exchange students and we chaperoned trips together. When we went to Disneyland, he said I'd make a good Princess Jasmine, and when we went to Hollywood, our students kept asking us if we were boyfriend and girlfriend). I never acted on my feelings, because 1) I had a feeling I was overanalyzing his behavior, 2) I found out that I was correct about that, and 3) he had a girlfriend and I never want to be that person that disregards the feelings of someone else for my own personal happiness. I wouldn't want someone flirting with someone I date, so I am not going to do that to someone else.

I got over him relatively quickly, but I think that might be because I'm a little older. When you're younger, your crush not returning your feelings can seem like the end of the world, but you eventually get over it.

I know how you feel. I hope it gets easier. Even if he's not leading you on purposely it still hurts if you thought he liked you.

[Sweet_Whimsy]

Luna Legend

I've...struggled with it lately. My last serious crush was on someone who turned out to have BPD, so it hasn't been easy. We never actually dated because we live in different states, but we were planning to someday. He had me convinced we were soul mates for almost four months, then suddenly fell into a deep depression, and all his feelings for me did a complete turn-around when he came out of it. I was emotionally traumatized. That's the most accurate way I can put it.

It's been a few months since it all happened, but what's difficult is that he is completely unable to understand what he did. I have to put up with random, spontaneous interactions with him that almost pull me back in and convince me he still cares. And he still sort of flirts with me sometimes, even though he's told me he's found someone new. It all hurts very much.

I've realized that I just need to start ignoring him altogether, since that's the only way I'm ever going to heal and move on from this. His narcissism wasn't apparent when I was still in love with him, but I see it very clearly now. I just have to keep reminding myself that it never would have worked out anyway. I'm better off.

that sucks so bad. I am so sorry. I'm in the situation where someone is saying they want to date you in the future and when they are probably changing their mind. When people stop liking you back it hurts so bad. I've been trying to get over the same guy for the past 3 years. If you need someone to vent to, I'm here. I know what your going through.

[Ghostfrost]

Well I'm dating my current crush but the last one I had a hard time getting over. Liked him for 2 years and I think what helped was that I stopped seeing him so much after he graduated and also he developed a crappy personality.

He's still hot but I wouldn't touch it at this point. Feels really good to be free of him.

Time really does heal heartbreak as long as you don't dwell on the past.