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WHOA NEW POLL. Are you doing Day of Silence and/or Ally Week?

Yes, I am doing both.	10.0%	[ 11 ]
I'm doing the DoS but not Ally Week.	11.8%	[ 13 ]
I'm doing Ally Week but not the DoS.	3.6%	[ 4 ]
I am a student and I am doing neither.	26.4%	[ 29 ]
I am not a student.	41.8%	[ 46 ]
All of the above and more! Let me tell you about it.	6.4%	[ 7 ]
Total Votes:			[ 110 ]

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Lady Ai Yori

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Lady Ai Yori

It's just my older sister said I can't be bisexual without having sex. Even when I went out with a girl.

Having sex is not a prerequisite for identifying as a sexuality.

Thanks so, much. Sorry if I made anyone mad.

No, no, I'm so sorry if that came off as mad! I'm not upset with you at all, I'm sad that yr being told how you can/can't identify.

[Lady Ai Yori]

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Lady Ai Yori

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Lady Ai Yori

It's just my older sister said I can't be bisexual without having sex. Even when I went out with a girl.

Having sex is not a prerequisite for identifying as a sexuality.

Thanks so, much. Sorry if I made anyone mad.

No, no, I'm so sorry if that came off as mad! I'm not upset with you at all, I'm sad that yr being told how you can/can't identify.

I may talk to her about it.

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Lady Ai Yori

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Lady Ai Yori

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Lady Ai Yori

It's just my older sister said I can't be bisexual without having sex. Even when I went out with a girl.

Having sex is not a prerequisite for identifying as a sexuality.

Thanks so, much. Sorry if I made anyone mad.

No, no, I'm so sorry if that came off as mad! I'm not upset with you at all, I'm sad that yr being told how you can/can't identify.

I may talk to her about it.

I hope that you are able to have conversations that feel useful to you, and that you can get support from your sister. I think she is probably just coming from a place of ignorance, and misunderstanding.

[Karoish]

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Yeah, I don't think there's a problem with people happily identifying as hetero. I guess I think it's a problematic that a lot of people don't even actively identify as such, because it's a norm it's treated like it doesn't even need to be talked about. I think everyone should question their own sexuality, not only people who are gay/bi/queer/etc.

I see you raise a very good point, and self exploration in all terms would be absolutely advisable for every individual! 3nodding
I luckily got a very lax upbringing and education regarding sexuality. (ie. my parents didn't stress heterosexuality, and in school we were taught about different kinds of orientations as opposed to my partner, whose sex.ed consisted of "man and woman have sex BUT ONLY WHEN MAKING BABIES." )

[Karoish]

For the record, my sister also at first took the stance of "Well I guess you can try things out when you're young, everyone questions their sexuality" when I first came out as bisexual with a same-sex partnership. But she has since come round to accept my orientation and to respect my relationship. So even if the conversation starts off on the wrong foot, it can still end in a high note. C:

[Lady Ai Yori]

I'm going to go offline now. I want to write more.

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Karoish

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Yeah, I don't think there's a problem with people happily identifying as hetero. I guess I think it's a problematic that a lot of people don't even actively identify as such, because it's a norm it's treated like it doesn't even need to be talked about. I think everyone should question their own sexuality, not only people who are gay/bi/queer/etc.

I see you raise a very good point, and self exploration in all terms would be absolutely advisable for every individual! 3nodding
I luckily got a very lax upbringing and education regarding sexuality. (ie. my parents didn't stress heterosexuality, and in school we were taught about different kinds of orientations as opposed to my partner, whose sex.ed consisted of "man and woman have sex BUT ONLY WHEN MAKING BABIES." )

yeah, my upbringing was more similar to your partners, which made it really hard to even question my identity or understand myself, because all I was taught about really was straight and cis people. and haha, isn't that exactly why we have hegemonic homosexuality-- MAKIN' BABIES! Gotta keep produce a new labor force.

[Karoish]

Lady Ai Yori

I'm going to go offline now. I want to write more.

Come back anytime, we're always available to lend an ear or a hand or a shoulder. (:

[Karoish]

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yeah, my upbringing was more similar to your partners, which made it really hard to even question my identity or understand myself, because all I was taught about really was straight and cis people. and haha, isn't that exactly why we have hegemonic homosexuality-- MAKIN' BABIES! Gotta keep produce a new labor force.

I'm so sorry to hear that! If I do end up migrating to the states to live with my partner, I will make it my personal mission to improve sexual education in schools. I know there'll be TREMENDOUS resistance but at least I'll be doing something that is not only worthwhile, but also right.

Admittedly I also have a strong urge to reproduce. But luckily I can do that despite my orientation. |'D

[Armas Valo]

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Armas Valo

Thanks for your advice.
Another one of the reasons I started questioning was that when I think back to my freshman year of high school(I'm a senior) I realize that I had started to notice girls,and thus I opted out of P.E. the minute I learned that being in marching band let me. It's just that back then I didn't have any female crushes and now I do.

Wait, you opted out of band because you didn't want to be crushing on your fellow band members? That's a shame really. ):
Questioning your sexuality is fine and dandy too. Even I'm not 100% sure despite my long term same-sex partnership. 3nodding

Haha, no, band allowed me to opt out of P.E. It was getting a bit awkward for me.

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Armas Valo

Haha, no, band allowed me to opt out of P.E. It was getting a bit awkward for me.

Ooh, I see. That's still kind of a shame that it'd limit you in such a way. I was never attracted to my friends romantically or sexually so I never felt awkwardness with changing and/or showering with them. Of course I was also closeted at that time so it might've "helped". sweatdrop

[Armas Valo]

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Armas Valo

Haha, no, band allowed me to opt out of P.E. It was getting a bit awkward for me.

Ooh, I see. That's still kind of a shame that it'd limit you in such a way. I was never attracted to my friends romantically or sexually so I never felt awkwardness with changing and/or showering with them. Of course I was also closeted at that time so it might've "helped". sweatdrop

It probably wouldn't have been as bad if the girls that had lockers next to mine didn't insist on talking while changing and when I talk to someone I prefer to look at them. sweatdrop

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Armas Valo

It probably wouldn't have been as bad if the girls that had lockers next to mine didn't insist on talking while changing and when I talk to someone I prefer to look at them. sweatdrop

Haha, I understand. That's too bad P.E. didn't work for you. I mean I'll admit I do look at my friends/people I'm changing with but it's because I'm a people-curious person, not because I intend to perv. xD;

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Karoish

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yeah, my upbringing was more similar to your partners, which made it really hard to even question my identity or understand myself, because all I was taught about really was straight and cis people. and haha, isn't that exactly why we have hegemonic homosexuality-- MAKIN' BABIES! Gotta keep produce a new labor force.

I'm so sorry to hear that! If I do end up migrating to the states to live with my partner, I will make it my personal mission to improve sexual education in schools. I know there'll be TREMENDOUS resistance but at least I'll be doing something that is not only worthwhile, but also right.

Admittedly I also have a strong urge to reproduce. But luckily I can do that despite my orientation. |'D

Yeah, I feel like that's something that's really needed here. Where did you get yr education from if you don't mind me asking?

and yeah, I hope my comment didn't come off as shaming people who reproduce, that wasn't my intention! I've seen a lot of shaming of queer families in my communities, and it's really ******** that they don't get support. Especially cause kids are so great, and if they have queer parents they'll probably be educated on that stuff!

[Staff Sergeant Sarcasm]

Hello, all~

I am really confused about my gender/sexual orientation right now. I am a female *referring to sex* but I sometimes dress in boys' clothes. I also have times where I act very quote-unquote girly (i.e., wearing heels, dresses, make-up, etc.). I have a boyfriend, though, and I haven't really questioned my gender and/or sexuality for extended periods of time before. (This has been going on for about a year now.) I once made out with one of my gal pals, although that was on a dare, and I still knew I was straight.

My point is, I'm just so confused and I don't know if I'm straight or bisexual or transgender or what. I'm not really looking for pity or sympathy, just people who can talk to me about what's going on.

Hugs & kisses, SSS heart