Nightmare277
Chieftain Twilight
I should probably go on my usual spiel about Love and such.... but I'm tired. and somehow, I doubt he'll take my advice seriously, anyway.
Taking advice and consideration are two different things. I'd appreciate any and all insight you'd have to offer.
alright, you have a point. I'll share what I've got.
first off, I think it should be noted that the idea of finding a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship is a completely backwards way of doing things. it is the sort of behavior and expectations that are "normal" in our society, and that's part of the problem. people think of relationships as status symbols, rather than being concerned with what a quality relationship is.
I think it would be best for you to stay single for a while, and learn to develop a relationship with yourself, first. get to know yourself. discover what your needs, desires, and goals are. learn what you do and don't like. be yourself. be
happy with yourself, without needing anybody else to make you happy.
after that, you'll be in a much healthier position for forming meaningful relationships with other people. you can learn to match your goals and needs with their goals and needs. learn to take into account compatibility, and to be on the same page as whoever you are considering for a life partner.
and learn to take things slowly. Love isn't found; it's
grown.
Love is like a Garden. it takes constant work and communication, for both people involved. you have to till the earth, and sow the seeds. feed it, and prune the rotten and tangled bits. foster a healthy environment to support it with. and if at any point you stop putting in all that effort, it will wither and die.
and to be honest, I think that's what's so beautiful about it. that it's a product of hard work. that the longer it lasts, the more proud of it you should be. because that means that you are both still working so hard to maintain it, and can harvest it' fruits together.
think about Trees, for a minute. the branches reach out to the sky, mingling with eachother, forming a network of a canopy. each branch full of leaves to catch the light, and yet none of them get in eachother's way. all the while, they create homes and highways for animals to live and move in harmony.
meanwhile, the roots grow down and outward, twisting together, tangling up until you can't tell which tree they originally came from anymore. they create support for eachother, as well as feeding the trees. they are stronger together.
the trees breath in carbon dioxide and expel oxygen, while the animals breath in oxygen and expel carbon dioxide. it's a harmonious, symbiotic system.
and that is how Love should be. just let it happen, naturally, but put in the hard work. don't think of it as some sort of puzzle piece that you fit in and it's done. because that's not what love is.
I want to add one of my favourite quotes. this one is very important.
if you love a flower, don't pluck it.
because if you pluck it, it dies.
love is about appreciation, not possession.