Fat Acceptance & HAES~Support for the Large and InCharge

[Doodily Doo]

I gotta say .. how can someone be happy when they're overweight? :/

[LadyEladrin]

Its' easy. ^^ I'm technically overweight and I'm happy as most people. I love my curves. It's a state of mind. I don't allow the world to dictate to me how I should feel about my weight. There are more of us out there than you'd think and the number is growing.

Suicide Solution: I disagree.

[TikiBox]

Haunted Juice Box

I gotta say .. how can someone be happy when they're overweight? :/

Hmm...
I see it as this.
If you're overweight, it's best to accept that you are and then try and change for the better if you see that it causes issues. Rather than to say, "I'm fat. I need to lose weight," in a negative tone. Negativity attracts more of it's own than it does positivity. And if you are that way, why not be happy while you're changing it instead of getting to a "happy point" of weight?
And in a way, that's just like saying...
How can you be happy when you have cancer?
How can you be happy when you live on welfare?
How can you be happy if everyone thinks you're ugly?
It's about accepting the situation you're in as well as the present. Body image doesn't change as quickly as commercials say they do.

[My_Suicide_Solution]

EladrinStarmist

Its' easy. ^^ I'm technically overweight and I'm happy as most people. I love my curves. It's a state of mind. I don't allow the world to dictate to me how I should feel about my weight. There are more of us out there than you'd think and the number is growing.

Suicide Solution: I disagree.

You disagree with my opinion?

[IIlysium]

rofl

[Keykii]

EladrinStarmist

Keykii: Fat is an adjective just like 'smart' or 'pretty'. Noone's fighting anything here. I'm not saying to anyone that "Hey! You're a discriminating b*****d if you don't find fat people sexy!" I realize that everyone has different tastes.
What I'm trying to do that few people seem to get is have a place for body acceptance that promotes health at any size, a place where anyone, big or small can say "I love my body and I'm not going to change it; its' fine the way it is."

I know. See I am in the "over weight class" and well I feel like I am fat other days I am like alright I dont look bad at all. You know? I mean so much... ^^:: And I mean alittle can be quite hott to be honest. ^^ As long as the person love them because no one will love you more than yourself. ^^ So... Thus sometimes its hard. You know?

[The Horror Queen]

Haunted Juice Box

I gotta say .. how can someone be happy when they're overweight? :/

I'm happy because my love and my mom accept me. :/ Just because you're overweight doesn't mean you can't be happy, no matter how overweight you are. x3; Some may get depressed, but some are happy the way they are, like myself.

[Heliotrope_Sugar]

Different strokes for different folks.
I require to be as thin as possilbe to be happy and the thinner I am the better I look and feel.
That's just how it is.
If that's not an issue for you, that's fine too.

[zoey_100]

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I love it Ela smile

[LadyEladrin]

TikiBox

Haunted Juice Box

I gotta say .. how can someone be happy when they're overweight? :/

Hmm...
I see it as this.
If you're overweight, it's best to accept that you are and then try and change for the better if you see that it causes issues. Rather than to say, "I'm fat. I need to lose weight," in a negative tone.

That's awesome. Thanks for posting. smile
Violet Victorian: Did you ever question why though?
The Horror Queen: Excellent. I am honestly happy for you. My mom is sometimes my worse critic.
Keykii: I have my bad days too; where I look at the mommy pouch and go "god I hate this thing". It'll probably last me the rest of my life unless I take some pretty drastic actions. On good days though it doesn't bother me because it's a small price to pay for my beautiful baby boy.
Hi Zoey! Thanks for popping in. biggrin

[x3-S-u-n-s-h-i-n-e]

First off, ello Eladrin.

I'm just going to through out my opinions and history on the matter, because many of the arguements I personally disagree with are more accusations and opinions that are not directly related to the theme of this thread.
Growing up, I was always overweight and did not accept myself for it in the least. I wasn't so much picked on, as I knew I wasn't the thin and beautiful girls the media portrayed. Around 12 or 13 I began dieting, but always went off the diets within a week or so. Eventually, I started dieting to an extreme and went from maybe 115 to around 70 or 80 pounds. Clearly, that wasn't the way to go at the time and I still wasn't accepting my body. A few monthes and hospital stays later, I was back up to the 100's. Today makes a year and a few days since I returned to school, and I've remained the same mid-weight. (in the 100's, keep in mind the height and age gain since the original weight) Going from overweight, to underweight, I eventually did get to the right weight and it's been more of a lifestyle change for me. (Granted, that was a lifestyle change that fell into a hole and I had to be pulled back out to make a new lifestyle change) Regardless, I still don't accept my body at times but I do for the most part. I still view thin people or healthy sized people as prettier than overweight people. It's really not something I mean to do, more so it's my tendency to want to be thin, and media's effect on both my opinions and most of society's opinions.
In short, I can see fat people as physically beautiful to some extent, but I tend to associate physical beauty with thinness. (Inner beauty is an entirely different scenario though, and changes my view on a person entirely.)

...and now I'm off to watch Trumpy and will be back tomorrow. Goodnight.

[LadyEladrin]

Thank you for sharing that, Sunny. *hugs*

[sar...bear]

Just thought I would tip in my 2 cents. In my sophmore year of high school i rarely ate. We did a study on health and put the values of the out height, weight, and bone structure into a computer. The computer said I was overweight (at 5'2 115 lbs) but that I my weight would plummet drasticly if I continued to eat the way I did. My eating habits have not changed much since then and if anything my senior year I ate less and was more active, still I have never droped below 105 lbs. I still weight about 110lbs no matter I do. I can work out a lot or a little eat lots of unheathly food or just a little healthy food and I stay between 105 and 115. I have a little extra around my middle and always have. Right now I'm working a lot so I rarely eat regular meals and I am always running around and 10-15 pound objects. I also do yoga and am trying to learn to do belly dancing. I weight 107 now and still have the extra around the middle. Acording to the thing I did in high school I'm at my ideal weight now (i'm stil only 5'2) but I don't look or feel any different for the 8 lbs.

[o sunflower king]

Ivan Isaacss

"I'm proud to be a fat, ticking time bomb of a medical disaster, attractive only to other people just like me".

that...
really...
hurt.
crying
i'm not even kidding.
I usually agree with what you post, but...
that just ruined my week.

[Dr Raymond Stantz]

EladrinStarmist

1. Weight itself is not a health problem, except in the most extreme cases (i.e., being underweight or so fat you’re immobilized). In fact, fat people live longer than thin people and are more likely to survive cardiac events, and some studies have shown that fat can "protect against infections, cancer, lung disease, heart disease, osteoperosis, anemia, high blood pressure, rheumatoid arthritis adn type 2 diabetes. Yeah, you read that right: even the goddamned diabetes. Now, I’m not saying we should all go out and get fat for our health (which we wouldn’t be able to do anyway, because noone knows how to make a naturally thin person fat any more than they know how to make a naturally fat person thin; see point 4), but I’m definitely saying obesity research is turning up surprising information all the time — much of which goes ignored by the media — and people who give a damn about critical thinking would be foolish to accept the party line on fat. Just because you’ve heard over and over and over that fat! kills! doesn’t mean it’s true. It just means that people in this culture really love saying it.

Is this really true?

I just have a question.

A lot of actors act into their golden years and do very well. But one in particular I noticed slowed down, and gained a lot of weight. I know he has reasons to be depressed, but there isn't really a way to tell. I want to know if depression can contribute to rapid weight gain or if a rapid weight gain can cause a deep depression... Also, at what age does the body start to "break down" its metabolism? My friends keep telling me his condition is because he's old, but he's not really that old.

No doubt, he is unhealthy. The question is why. The actor I am talking about is Dan Aykroyd. It occurred to me that his problems could have been caused by the fact that a lot of his friends and coworkers have died, and seem to keep dropping dead roughly every 5 years or so. That's hard, I know that. But it was maybe over the last 5 years or so that he really let himself go. Or maybe it is his age. I don't know. It's just, he lost his energy and his energetic wit. I know of people 20 years older than him that are still tap dancing and having a great time. I just don't understand why he let his career die...

I'd ask, but it really isn't any of my business. I'm a complete stranger to him.

OH. DESPITE MY AVATAR/PROFILE... I'm not like, always thinking about this or anything. I like other actors and stuff. But the other actors I like are either dead or still acting. Dan's really the only one who let his career totally... yeah. Eat s**t. LOL.

Actually, Bill Murray did, too, but he didn't get fatter. So it isn't really relevant. Plus, I know what his problem is. He's an alcoholic.