Engaged..and Underage [A SUPPORT thread!] [updated May]

[The Fetish Faerie]

Gorrific

TheTrueGothPrincess

Gorrific

TheTrueGothPrincess

Gorrific

TheTrueGothPrincess

The only big problem for me is the bath tub...it is small neutral but I will adjust.

I think I'd die without a big bath tub. xD I love taking long hot baths. <3

Same or shaving my legs with alot of room...but hey I need to leave my mom's house me wanting to be independent is clashing with my mom so I will adjust. xp soon I hope

You'll be okay. <3 damn overbearing mommies! >=o


Me and Michael have decided that for our first "home" together, we're going to rent a studio apartment. Simply because when we leave here, we're moving to another city for school and it will be cheaper. c:

My fiance and I had it planned out about how we don't need to pay bills so we can save up to buy a house. We lucked out with everything.

That is a really good point. It'll be ALOT easier to save money. You definitely got very lucky. c:

Yes, I did! I am very grateful for it too. Since we will be living in a below poverty area we can apply for food stamps!!! Hehe!! But we won't be living poorly though... hehe

[Tute Sweet]

Goth Princess and Gorrific: Thanks! And I wish she'd have come in an egg! It would have been much more pleasant.

Ophiucha: That dress is lovely! I had long sleeves on my wedding dress, but I did wear a strapless bridesmaid dress for my friend's wedding.
The only problem I encountered was that my boobs were a bit too big for it (I was 3 months pregnant at the time, and they got kind of huge all of a sudden), so it was uncomfortable where it pinched them. It did make them look good, though!

[Vacuum Tubes]

I only sort of fall in to this category of under 20 and engaged or married, but I'm going to introduce myself anyhow. I have been dating my boyfriend since i was 16 and he was 17. We met through mutual friends and two weeks later were dating. Since then he's graduated high school and gone to UMBC while I was still a senior, then I graduated high school and went to UMCP. Now I'm done my freshmen year and he's done his sophomore year. I'm now 19 and he's 20. We both have known for a while that we want to get married, but we agree that there's no way we'd be able to afford it before we've both graduated with undergrad degrees and started our careers. We both intend to go to grad school, but we'd have to pay for that on our own anyhow, so getting married before we finish that shouldn't be a problem money wise. We also agree that when we get engaged we want it to mean we're planning the wedding, so we won't be getting engaged until a year or so before hand. Hopefully once he graduates we'll be able to rent an apartment together while I finish my last year of college, and then that fall we should be able to get married. At that point (fall 2012), we'll both have degrees and jobs (we both already have jobs in our field, but going to school full time makes it impossible to work full time and support ourselves), we will have lived together for a year and a half, and dated for over 5 and a half years. We also will hopefully have a fair amount of money saved up from working during school and no debts since we're lucky enough to have parents that pay for undergrad.
I guess we could get engaged right now since we fully intend on getting married, but we feel like getting engaged right now wouldn't change anything about our relationship, and we want engagement to mean we've taken another step (like, preparing for the wedding and our lives together), so that'll probably come around the time we move in together in 2 years. we really wish we could live together now, but we also want good careers that we enjoy and we want the other person to have a career they enjoy, so we're willing to wait.

[The Fetish Faerie]

Tute Sweet

Goth Princess and Gorrific: Thanks! And I wish she'd have come in an egg! It would have been much more pleasant.

Ophiucha: That dress is lovely! I had long sleeves on my wedding dress, but I did wear a strapless bridesmaid dress for my friend's wedding.
The only problem I encountered was that my boobs were a bit too big for it (I was 3 months pregnant at the time, and they got kind of huge all of a sudden), so it was uncomfortable where it pinched them. It did make them look good, though!

Hey if she did come in an egg you could have been on the covers of magazines!

Edit:The dress thing as long as your boobs looked good that is all that matters lol!

[Is_THIS_Your_Name]

My totally kickass English teacher was a teenage bride. She married at 19, after only three
months of knowing the guy. And hey, until death did they part! He died last year, and they'd been together all the while - more than 30 years. They were both successful in life - he made a shitload of money. I guess it works, but only in exceptional cases, because a lot of young people might think they were ready, due to their immaturity and unreadiness. Good luck, be brave, and hope for the best!

[The Fetish Faerie]

Is_THIS_Your_Name

My totally kickass English teacher was a teenage bride. She married at 19, after only three
months of knowing the guy. And hey, until death did they part! He died last year, and they'd been together all the while - more than 30 years. They were both successful in life - he made a shitload of money. I guess it works, but only in exceptional cases, because a lot of young people might think they were ready, due to their immaturity and unreadiness. Good luck, be brave, and hope for the best!

That is an awesome story! 4laugh

[Kiwisticks]

I Will Crawl On Hands And Knees Until You See...

So, I'm going to be seventeen soon. Tater Butt (I live for making up strange names for people, don't ask) is already seventeen. If anyone cares enough to see how long we've been dating, check my ticker. I first met him on the second day of school; he had my second and third period with me. Nathan knows more about me than my sister and mother combined (which says a LOT) and has helped me through my father's suicide. We're wanting to get engaged, but he says he's going to wait until he can afford a ring. I don't remember the exact words but he said that if we are wanting to get engaged we should be able to wait (which we are) and that saving up for a ring will help to show that he's serious, or else he wouldn't spend that much money and time. We've already been planning for the future, as in college, careers, living arrangements, who is doing what chores, etc. We have decided that we will not hold each other back if one of us wants to go off to college some where else. I'm half asleep so I don't really know what else to say. Sorry if I was rambling at all. X]

...You're Just Like Me.

[Moonlight Silver]

That wedding cost estimator is cool. It seems that if I do/get everything for my wedding at the location I want to use, it's only going to cost $10,000 at most... but if I do it in my hometown, it'll cost over $25,000. surprised

[MakeBelieve[-Hyunah-]]

heart Lovely new info

$7,449 and $12,414. is my cost but i want a really small wedding and my great grandma to make my dress

[Blackrose_Knight]

Wow thanks Ms. Vacuum Tubes. That is a wonderful tool! Though, it doesn't have an option or two I want. I am having the actual hand fasting on a tall ship, with a small amount of close friends and family, and the reception at a park close by to where the boat will be docked. Yes, its a pirate themed wedding...>.>.......... its how my fiance and I met and bonded. pirate

Edit: $4,691 and $7,821.

[Vacuum Tubes]

Well I'm glad people like the cost estimator. Mine came out to 10-17k. Which.. alright, hopefully towards the lower end of that. On a guess my parents will pay for some stuff because they seem to be in to that idea; I don't know why, but I'm not complaining. Plus we're going to use a family heirloom as the engagement ring, so it's free (and 2.5 carats... gotta love rich great grandparents).

[Satil]

My husband and I started dating right before the two of us turned 18. We were married last month and we're now 25. I'd feel hypocritical telling people it can't work, but it is just that. WORK.

I've noticed a lot of talk about wedding cost in this thread. For every single thing related to my wedding- venue, dress, tux, rings, and cabin afterwards (cake too) rounded up to about 3k. The wedding alone was 1300.00, my dress was 350, his tux 100, the cabin 600 for two nights. The cake only cost 50 bucks and they came and assembled it at the cabin.

You don't have to have an expensive wedding for it to be beautiful. My family said my wedding was the most beautiful wedding they had ever seen. Don't let people talk you into crap you don't need. Our families came back to the cabin for a total of an hour and a half to talk and take pictures and eat some cake. For our reception (which was at the cabin) our friends brought food and alcohol instead of gifts and we spent zilch on food. We were socializing and went to cook and our friends already had it done. We had planned on cooking for them but they wouldn't let us! It was different and fun and they all loved it. Our married friends said they thought it was brilliant since they all missed half of their very expensive reception taking photos anyway.

All I can say to you young men and women is be realistic about your relationships. The odds are stacked against you and you have to really work to make it last. Don't take each other for granted and love every moment together. You'll fight, you;ll hate each other some days. Just remember- not every day is a fairy tale and you WILL struggle a bit financially when you first start out. Not everything is sunshine and roses, but the sunshine and roses make up for the storms and mud. smile

[Ophiucha]

Thank you for the advice, Satil. My boyfriend is very well off, as are my parents (who already agreed to pay for half of the wedding, up to $50,000), but we are not being cheap. It wasn't so much that we wanted an expensive wedding, but what we wanted was a bit... expensive. It's my dream to be married in Alnwick Castle (where they shot the Harry Potter films; 1, 2, and 6 to be specific), and by the gods I will have it. Everything else is inconsequential.

As I said, however, we are looking at a wedding seven years in the future, at least. Plenty of time for us to break up without a penny spent. But I feel like we have a bond. Maybe it will not be romantic in the future, but it will always be there. If I marry another man (or woman), I know he'll be one of my bridesmaids (I've already got one man on that list, so why not?) and I hope he is always a part of my life. We really support each other. We help one another through hard times, through difficult emotions, and through the simple things and there is something really strong in our relationship that I've always valued, even before we began dating. Oddly enough, we have discussions about what we'd do if we did break up... and we both decided that we'd still want to have a child together. I know that seems odd, and a bit pre-planned, but we both have very specific ideals about child rearing and we have what the other lacks. That, and the financial stability of it is perfect for us. Besides, after all these years of dating, at least the sex wouldn't be as awkward.

[Angel Dragonar]

I sorta fall in this category. Im not married yet though razz

But me and my fiance got engaged when I was 15 and he was 18.
Pretty funny engagement actually!
We went on a ferry for our 1 year anniversary together, and he got stopped at the metal whatsit, and the security guard took him off to one corner. I knew at that time it was a ring [I was there when he got it razz ], but the guard said to me to not let him wear his boots again!
On the ferry, something scratched my hand in his pants area, and he said it was his chain. Yeah, right!
So when he finally proposed, he got the box out, and had it opened and asked me.
My reaction?
"Umm, theres nothing there...."
And he went "AWWW DAMNIT!" poor him, the box was hard to open so he opened it before hand, so the ring was in his pocket! I said yes obviously and burst into tears [of laughter and joy!]

So yeah.
We are now 17 and 20.
We have been living together for almost a year now [in july], together for 3 years in October, and engaged for two. We are incredibly comfy around each other [farting, eating like a pig, you name it], and we still love each other as much as the day we met.

So I am all for young engagement/marriage, as long as they know what love is and are comfy enough to have farting competitions!

Btw, our engagement will be a long one, we are in no rush. Hell, I dont care if we dont get married. After all, who needs a piece of paper to prove their love? heart