Do you keep the gifts after a break up?

[Bootiful Lia]

Generally, if the gift is awesome, I keep it. Who cares where it came from. If it's sentimental and useless after the breakup, I toss it.

An ex had bought me black-ops (which is now sold because I got tired of it), and we broke up shortly after he bought it for me. You better be damn sure I kept that and played the crap out of it.

And clothes he bought for me. Still wear them.

I expect he does the same with gifts I bought for him. I expect nothing less.. dramallama

[x0xPANicx0x]

If the dress fits you that well, keep it. I don't keep gifts from ex's because they never bother to ask my preferences so it's a pretty shitty gift when they even bother to get me one.

[Yechibei]

Yes, why not?

It's rude to donate, or throw away the gifts if the guy doesn't ask for it back.

[diamondgirl02]

it you like the dress keep it,i don't give no gift back

[Kaeth]

Yeah, I don't see the point in not. If it were something that belonged to them, like clothing and s**t they'd left at my house, of course I'd give it back. But if it were something useful and fun like a book or a shirt, that was given to me, then hell yeah I'm holding on to it. It's the same as if any other friend had given it to me.

[hannahcube]

I stuff all of my ex's gifts at the bottom of my closet.
Out of sight, out of mind.

[Happy little toast]

I'v kept it all but in a bag under my bed so I know it's always going to be there. I'll probably get rid of it if I move in with my boyfriend but until then its safe under my bed.

[Lemnzest Manatee]

I usually pack away the really sentimental stuff (like a bracelet he got me), but I am currently wearing the headset he got me last Christmas. I'd say that if the item is bringing you pain, then put it away for a while. But after you have time to heal and you still like the item, keep it! It was a gift after all. If anyone asks, just tell them a friend gave it to you.

[General Snicker-Doodle]

If you like it, then keep it! I've kept the things my ex has gotten me. I even kept a CD he burned for me; I just blacked out his name with a Sharpie. Problem solved.

[Bienaimee R]

PKMN Breeder Aello

Just wondering what other ladies do...

Last year for my birthday, my ex bought me an expensive dress. I either threw away or packed up the majority of the stuff he'd gotten me over the years, but I'm tempted to keep using this one...

The problem is that I'm starting a new relationship with another guy, and I feel guilty keeping this dress, wearing it maybe, and knowing that it came from the last one.

Dresses don't usually fit me, and never ever as beautifully as this one does, and its a unique style so I doubt I'll ever find a similar one to replace it... otherwise I'd just get a different dress and be done with it.

Do you guys think I should just donate it, or is it really that bad of a thing to keep using it?

If you really love the dress, look good in it, and feel great wearing it, keep the dress and enjoy it. If wearing the dress prompts awkwardness or unpleasant memories, you're better off without it.

[Elusive Bookworm]

I've kept most everything I've gotten from past relationships. I just don't put a lot of thought into them. Still have a shirts, jewelry, stuffed animals, etc. from exes. Some of the memories are really nice. :]

Except with my last ex-, I gave him back most of the things he gave me because I knew what they meant (like a deck of magic cards and a game he couldn't use). I had no right to them. However, he did give me this really ugly stuffed animal. So, I gave it to my siblings since he had said some harsh things to them. They ended up ripping all its limbs off and the head and then burned the sucker. I had planned to just take a shotgun and take some anger out one it, but it felt just as good watching the stupid thing burn.

[Bienaimee R]

Lemnzest Manatee

I usually pack away the really sentimental stuff (like a bracelet he got me), but I am currently wearing the headset he got me last Christmas. I'd say that if the item is bringing you pain, then put it away for a while. But after you have time to heal and you still like the item, keep it! It was a gift after all. If anyone asks, just tell them a friend gave it to you.

I was close friends for years with a very generous gift-giver and a serious jewelry maven. I'm not a big "jewelry person," but I loved some of the things my friend gave me and wore them often. The friendship ended badly and now all that stuff sits in a box. I honestly wish she'd asked me to return the items because I doubt I'll ever feel comfortable wearing them.

The weird thing, though, is I use a nice set of coasters she gave me all the time. I think the reason I enjoy the coasters is that I believe her feelings toward me at the time she gave me the coasters were sincerely friendly and loving. I feel icky about the jewelry because I suspect her feelings at that time were more romantic and I'm uncomfortable with that.

Kind of funny, how material objects can affect us so much.

[Masochist Marduk]

Yes. I still have some clay magic mushrooms my girlfriend made and gave to me in 9th grade. I have another high school girlfriend's hair in a DVD case - A huge wad of it that I took from her hairbrush.

I have two books and a video (yes, the cassette type) that I stole from another ex before we broke up, too. I like to keep a little something from everyone. Yes, I know it's creepy. gonk

[l-Roro-l]

yup. i have "ex girlfriend boxes" biggrin

[IIYuuki_ChanII]

Infinite Possibility

PKMN Breeder Aello

I guess I just don't want the new guy to ask me where I got it. He would; he actually likes shopping. And then I have to say, "Um, well..." I don't really want to lie to him.

You're a ******** head case.

"That dress looks good on you, where did you get it?"

"It was a gift from an old friend of mine"

"who;s your friend?"

"well, we used to date but it didn't work out"

"BY THE GODS WOMAN, YOU HAD RELATIONS WITH OTHER PEOPLE!"

"sorry yeah"

"I AM ACTING LIKE AN OVER REACTING CHILD IN WHICH THIS RELATIONSHIP WILL NOT WORK OUT EITHER"

"guess so"

"******** YOU!"

"no, seriously. ******** you. grow up"


yeah so.. what is the problem exactly?

you are the master dude!! mrgreen