Cheating (a Survey)

[ErroneousPsyche]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, no
list reasons if you have any
I think statistically most people will cheat at some point in their lives, but they also aren't serial cheaters.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N n: its a personality type, they don't need to limit themselves to strict monogamy, there are other types of open or monagamish relationships that they can have without cheating

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? No

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? No

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on? talk with the other person, try to find out why it happened and and what we should do about it

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? yes

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation? that relationship was already messed up on a number of levels. I was moving on, we didn't communicate about anything and I didn't cut off the relationship when I should have.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?

[My Little Spider Friend]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Definitely.
2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Yes.
3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Yes.
4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are? When a guy does it's like he'll always have that second chance. When a girl does it, it seems like every guy who tries to get with her after only want one thing.
5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? No.
6.) If yes, how so? N/A
7,) What would you do if you were cheated on? Murder him.
8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Never.
9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation? N/A
10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add? Nop.

[Bionic Bitchtits]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
Yes & No. It depends on their motivation for cheating, and the results/how it made them feel. For example, I cheated because I missed my ex, and didn't know how to handle the fact that for almost 2 years I hadn't gotten over him. Will I ever cheat again? ********, no. I won't. I learned my lesson. Riddled with guilt for months. Took over 6 months to get past my guilt and shame even though it took only 3 months to patch my relationship back together.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
No, not if they are single and mess with a lot of people. It's more fair if everyone knows, but unless you're in a relationship, you can't exactly cheat. The boundaries are fuzzy.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
Definitely, yes.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
Men are often praised by other men. Women tend to throw things at cheating men. Cheating women are often high-fived by their female friends, outed as a huge slut by all the other women, and labeled an "easy sleazy hoe" by men as a means to say "don't date her" and "she's easy if you just want some". Homosexuals are viewed as sluttier, bisexuals are definitely considered the "whores" of all humans (it doesn't help that I actually know a bisexual girl who is poly, as in she has a boyfriend of over 6 years and dates girls as well). I don't know about hets and trannies and whatnot, but I know how hets tend to view homo/bi people. I definitely think that there is a misconception that just because someone's outed as gay, they're supposedly some sexual deviant who screws everyone of the same gender that they can get their hands on.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Yes, I do.

6.) If yes, how so?
Race notsomuch, but social standing yes. People in power tend to enjoy it and want more power, so you often hear about the secretary who blew her supervisor, ahem, and the lawyer who bent his secretary over the desk, etc.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
I have been, and I left after they failed their second chance.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
Yes. sad For shame.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
It's a sick, gut-wrenching feeling in the pit of my stomach, like wanting to run and hide from everything, at the same time wondering what I could do to make everything better, and wishing I could go back in time. Very stressful and confusing. I questioned everything about the person I am.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
Not really.

[M i n 0 u h]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
Yes.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?
Kinda. As long as he's not a player after being in a relationship. Tho, If i knew I was dating a ex-player, i'd be scared for our relationship and my health

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation?
No.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
x

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
No

6.) If yes, how so?
x

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Leave the ******** and cry and be mad and not trust a man for quite a while.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
No.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
x

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
Yes, F U C K YOU CHEATERS

[The Underground Man]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
Yes. If they're already inclined to cheat and have the urge to, they'll want to again.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
I always thought a player was a cheater.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
No.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
I feel like it's viewed as the same because each gender is equally hurt and I don't think men that cheat are congratulated on it by other men. Maybe they are sometimes, but I don't think it happens a lot.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Yes.

6.) If yes, how so?
I think that richer men tend to cheat more because they have the money to get any woman they want.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
If my boyfriend now cheated on me I would be absolutely devastated, especially because I am terrified of this for no reason.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
No.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?

[Blackrose_Knight]

The Official Lurker

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
~ Maybe. The reasons for cheating are numerous, and its the cause of that cheating that matters, not the actual act of cheating.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
~I consider a player to be a person who engages in non-consensual, non-ethical multiple relationships, so yes.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
~YES!

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
~I find straight women to take almost anything as cheating. They are hyper paranoid about this stuff. Porn? CHEATER! Politely looking at an attractive woman? CHEATER! Talking with a girl? CHEATER!

~I think women have been groomed to be irrationally hyper vigilant about their mates and irrationally expect to control their male mates masturbatory, and mental behavior, as well as groomed to feel inferior/wrong/sad when their male partner finds another girl attractive. I think this grooming behavior is disgusting. It makes women weak, petty, and fight amongst themselves. It stunts them emotionally.

~I have found gay men to have the most lax/realistic relationship rules around what is, and is not cheating.


5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
~No

6.) If yes, how so?
~na

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
I would work to establish why the cheating occurred, address that problem, and work to rebuild trust. Depending on other circumstances than infidelity (risk of bodily harm, drug abuse...ect) auto-dumping is a last resort option. I think hitting the "dump" button on a cheating partner is hasty, dumb, and for wasteful children who were taught to throw away a slightly broken toy.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
~Yes

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
~I felt justified in cheating - but I would hesitate to do it again. I had my reasons, and I had been pondering the situation for about a month. After much thought, and much resistance I did it anyway.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
~na

[Craven Sapphire]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
Yes.
I say that because most of the time, if they cheat once they will do it again.
It's not always the case, but in me and my friend's experiences seven times out of ten it is.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?
No.
Simply because, even though they DO play with people's feelings and lead them on (hence earning the title of player) that doesn't necessarily mean said person was ever dating other said person.
And unless they agreed to a monogamous relationship, it's not cheating.
However, it is still a pretty shitty thing to do to someone.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation?
Yes.
I say that because everyone is different.
What I see as cheating sometime else may not and vice versa.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
Answered above.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
Yes.
Different cultures have different beliefs.

6.) If yes, how so?
Answered above.

7.) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Depends on how mad and hurt I was.
When my ex cheated I cheated on him back, told him, and then dumped him.
Nowadays I'd like to think I'd just leave.
Either way, it's a one strike you're out kind of deal with me since I'd never be able to fully trust my s.o. again.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
The only time I've ever cheated was when my ex was ******** two other women. He admitted to only one but when his friend informed me of the second one that I suspected (and he lied right to my face when I asked if it was her) I got pissed.
And even more so with the third girl I found out about.
So, I had a one night stand with a good-looking coworker's friend.
I knew I wouldn't be able to hurt him like he hurt me, but it would damage his bastardly large ego.
Not gonna lie, it did feel good when he flipped his s**t after I told him and then he cried because I left.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
Since that was the only time I had ever cheated and it was because he cheated and lied to me about it even when he got caught, I felt what I did was justified.
Hell, I still feel that way.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
Nope.

[Feminist Barbie]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
Probably. Chances are they never addressed the reason they cheat(ed) so they'll end up do the same thing again.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
Provided he/she isn't lying or already have a partner then no.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
I'll have to go with depends on their person. there are probably some generalization but everyone is different so it can be hard to predict.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
See above for closest answer I got.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Maybe, but also different people, ect.

6.) If yes, how so?
See above, ect.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Try to address the problem and kill the other women of course.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
No. That's just rude.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?[/b]
N/A

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
Not really.

[Toxilicks]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
Short answer no, long answer yes.


2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
I'm not sure, probably.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
Nah, that seems like way too many factors to think about.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Probably not

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Break it off, be angry, then sad, then move on.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
No

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
Nope.

[PreposterousPanda]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
It depends on the situation that drove them to cheating and what happened after the cheating was discovered. If they get forgiven they will most likely cheat again, if not then they might learn they can't treat people like that.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?
I don't really understand that term, but from what I understand yes.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Yes.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
Many couples say things such as "if you cheated on me with another girl, I think it would be better than with another man". Not for all couples but several.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
No

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Most likely swiftly end the relationship.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
No

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?

[Psykeiri]

use fluidsurvey or surveymonkey next time to save yourself the stress of going through all the responses one by one like this! just a tip.

1. Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
i think it depends on the person. i think they are more likely to cheat than people who haven't.

2. Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
i don't really even know what "player" means. womanizer? someone who pretends to be nice to get in bed with women? i guess they could be cheaters. i don't know. not necessarily.

3. Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
no. the differences come from whether you consider yourself monogamous or polygamous and whether or not you're in an open relationship. this is separate from what gender you consider yourself to be and who you want to sleep with.

4. If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
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5. Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
not race. i wouldn't be surprised if low SES is correlated with greater infidelity, but you know what they say about correlation.

6. If yes, how so?
your guess is as good as mine.

7. What would you do if you were cheated on?
first we'd have a conversation.
if he was extremely regretful and apologetic i might forgive him (once only).
if he was anything other than that, i would dump him and could see myself pulling a pain-driven public shaming. not that it solves anything, i realize that.

8. Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
not on someone i was dating. i have been the other woman. it started as a misunderstanding - they were in an open relationship and i thought i would be open-minded and try it out. turns out they had very different ideas of what that meant for them. he and i got too attached and neither of us wanted to stop seeing each other even after she voiced her opposition. it was a big mistake. we hurt her a lot, although this happened 10 years ago and we've sinced patched things over (i left him). i've learned from it. not going down that alley again.

9. If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
well being the "other woman" was an awful experience. i was constantly thinking up ways to justify what we were doing and was waiting for him to end things with her. felt really bad. dirty. i don't recommend it. lots of lying and hiding. bad way to live.

10. Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
if you want to get into an open relationship, make sure everyone else involved is on the same page.

[Seruubi]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
Well, yes. But I know there are certain situations such as abuse and manipulation where the other person cheats. And I do not see that as cheating but escaping.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
Yes.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
Usually bisexuals are associated with being "greedy" and have the view point if that they aren't not the same gender, it is not cheating. Just a stereotype.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Social standing yes.

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Have a mental meltdown because if Boyfriend cheated on me, I'd be completely broken.
Then dump him.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
No and Never.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
everyone's situation is different.

[ferallfeline]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
I think it all depends on the situation and the person. Nothing is ever that black and white.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Not really

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? I don't know

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
If your into open relationships its something entirely different.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? No

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
I'd be extremely angry and hurt. If I was lied to about it, I would probably never trust the person again. But if it was dealt with up front and discussed, I might be able to move past it.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? yes

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
Its really one of the only things in my life that I truly regret. I did it because I was very lost and confused in my relationship and there was a lot of pain I was feeling. It really was a combination of relationship issues and my own personal issues taking over. I felt regret about it the moment it happened.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?

[Wee Little]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?

Yes, most likely. People can change, but it is not always over night or immediate. Cheating is usually either by someone who simply does not want to commit and has sex on the brain, or they've been driven to by a failure to resolve issues within their relationship. This means they have communication issues, which means they might be prone to do it again if any future relationships end up having any sort of issues.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?

Depends on if they are in an exclusive monogamous relationship or not.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation?
No.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
No.

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
I would break up with them. From past experiences, cheaters always cheat again, and if they cheat it means there's issues within your relationship that are going unresolved.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
No. When I've found my mind wandering to someone else I took it as a sign that there was something wrong with my relationship and I tried to sort that out instead.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?