Cheating (a Survey)

[StopLookingHere___x]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any

Yeah. If they have done it once, what will stop them from doing it again?

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N

Yes.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N

Yes.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

Men are often accused of cheating more due to sex with other women. Bisexuals are often accused.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N

No.

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?

Probably lie down and eat a lot of Ben and Jerry's.. then get pissed.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N

No.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?

nope


Thank you for participating in this survey.

[Story and Song]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
It depends on their character. If they have the morality to truly feel bad about it, no. If they don't give a hoot about dedication, yes.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
Yes.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
Yes.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
Men in a hetero couple are more likely to cheat, willingly or unwillingly.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Yes.

6.) If yes, how so?
Bringing this back to my previous answer on yes for players being cheaters. One can't really be a player unless they have something attractive about this, in this case, money.

7.) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Talk it out, and if they don't think it's a big deal I'd dump 'em.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
No.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
Not applicable.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
None!

[Divine Moment of Truth]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? No, sometimes Cheating is an honest mistake.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? No, just a ******** up individual. If it's not a relationship, it's not cheating.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? I don't think so, I think it's all pretty traumatizing.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are? N/A

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? No, I think anyone is capable of infidelity in a monogamous relationship. This being said I believe race and social standing has nothing to do with it, just the individual him/herself and their choices. Infidelity is all one playing field of equal hurt.

6.) If yes, how so? N/A

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on? I have been. Depending on the situation, I stayed this time because I knew it was an honest mistake, if I had any feelings that it was more than a mistake, I would have high-tailed it out of there.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Emotionally? Yes, physically, never.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation? I was young and had terrible self esteem issues. I also did not know how to communicate within the relationship, so I broke it off with both parties and learned from my mistakes.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add? Cheating is a complex issue, and some may think you weak for accepting a cheating man/woman as a life partner. I beg to differ. It was the best/worst thing to happen to my relationship. We now communicate on a much deeper level and have a love for eachother because we have been through hell and back together.


Thank you for participating in this survey.
YO WELCOME.

[Poisoned Frosty]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
Probably yes. Just, they clearly don't care about the boundaries of the relationship anyway. or something.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
nah. unless you commit to a closed monogamous relationship cheating cant happen

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
I dont think so.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Race no, social standing maybe?

6.) If yes, how so?
like someone gettin a power trip or something.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
probably be very dissapointed in my S.O., and myself for not seein it coming.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
no

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
nope but good luck with your thing~

[Zazz Blammymatazzz]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
Yes. Reasons? I know far too many habitual cheaters to prove the contrary.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?
If the shoe fits.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation?
Yes.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
I do know there's a stigma against bisexuals and pansexuals as being "sexually loose" by both the heterosexual and homosexual community. Since we bisexuals go both ways, apparently that means double the cheating! Or something...

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
No. There are stereotypes, sure, but infidelity seems endemic across the board.

6.) If yes, how so?
I said no.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
Break up w/ the a*****e. End of story. You break my trust, there are no second chances.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
Nope.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
Never cheated, so I can't say. I HAVE been the "other woman" and that wasn't a good thing to do in hindsight. Never again.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
If you're prone to cheating, or think you might, don't marry and have kids. That ******** w/ their heads, man. The kids I mean.

[Maxxxipad]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any

Yes. It's already breaking your trust and they don't deserve your presence.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N

No. (They aren't in a relationship)

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N

No.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

None. A cheater is a cheater, no excuses.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N

Yes.

6.) If yes, how so?

Not race, but I think social standing can make infidelity easier. IMO

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?

Dumb their a** real quick and never speak again.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N

Yes.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

It felt okay because I didn't truly love them and was a 15 year old dating-to-date, not for love or actually liking them. Idiotic choices.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?

Nope.

[Jason Zaire]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
Depends on the person, an impossible questions given how many factors can be involved.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?
No, I don't see why everyone thinks it's cheating if you aren't in a relationship.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation?
If I'm understanding the question correctly, yes.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
Well I'm answering this based on someone else's answer because I don't full understand the question. If my girlfriend were to cheat on me with another girl instead of a man, I would be less upset. I can't not answer why that is, it's just something I'm aware of.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
It's a shame you grouped both of these together in one question, social standing does affect acts of infidelity.

6.) If yes, how so?
I do not know why I "believe" this. But it is my opinion.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
This question requires so many factors. For my specific relationship right now of six years: If she cheated on me with another man, who was an above average part of her life, I would probably leave her, but I can't say that it's definite. If it was with another woman, I'd talk about it and tell her to not do it again, but would not leave her the first time it happened. I'm not worried about a woman stealing her from me for life. Only a man can do that.

All that being said, I have been cheated on before. Looking back now, it's very silly.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
Yes, I cheated on a girl with my current girlfriend.
I have had many opportunities to cheat on my current girlfriend, but I have never done so.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
I felt a little bad I guess, but I love my girlfriend and do not regret being with her. We had gotten into a fight a split off for a bit. The girl I cheated on was the unlucky rebound. She knew what the relationship was though, we had our fun and left on good terms.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
You have too many people answering these with very generalized answers.

[Luther Strode]

Lol women.

[nepko]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
I think it depends on whether they're willing to change/settle down.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?
No? You can be a player without even having relationships, henceforth not cheating.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation
Obviously men are blamed more as they're more known for cheating.
Sexual orientation is irrelevant. Also IMO cheating isn't really gender biased as much as people think it is. Women cheat just as much.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
I think men get the worse end of it. Women are forgiven more.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
I don't think this s**t is relevant.

6.) If yes, how so?

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
I'd get over it and find somebody else. I'm not the kind of person who is so overly attached to their partner that they will blindly forgive or ignore cheating. Oh but I would be mad, probably smash some of my SO's stuff up before leaving.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
Kinda, but not really. I wasn't in a defined relationship at the time but my FWB thought he owned me..

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
I didn't feel guilty in the scenario I was in, free woman free to sleep with whoever blahblahblah. I'd feel bad if I cheated on somebody I loved and honestly? I wouldn't do it. I have more restraint.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
Cheating isn't black and white. I don't condone cheating, and I don't consider myself a cheater (again, only time I was ever called one was when my crazy a** FWB got mad about me getting with somebody else) I think sometimes people are pushed into the scenarios where they are forced to cheat. Especially if they're in failing relationships and their partner is making it hard for them to leave. I think if your reason for cheating is just that your sex life with your partner is dead then it's not ok. You can always resolve that, and if your partner just isn't into it then leave. I think it's scummy to cheat over lack of sex. If you're genuinely just trying to get out of a relationship, having huge doubts or you've fell for somebody else - well you should prob leave, but if you cheat on the way out then so what? At the end of the day, you have the power to do whatever you please in relationships. I don't consider it my place to judge people who cheat, and I definitely wouldn't shame them super badly.

[kitti kat]

The Official Lurker

kitti kat

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? probably because they are likely s**t when it comes to establishing rules and mainting trust in relationships through honesty and candor and being honest with themselves in the first place and having realistic expectations of their behavior

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? idk what you mean

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? idk

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are? xp

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
I don't think so, idk, maybe, culture does effect behavior a lot, but in general probably no because there would be sooooo many exceptions to that

6.) If yes, how so? xp

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on? I trust the people I'm with and expect only the expected out of them and let that be known so idk on the off chance it does come up there will be much discussion


8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? nope (does having sex with a friend who has a gf count? is that like, me cheating on their gf? cuz if it is then yes.)

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation? in the situation I brought up where I wasn't exactly the one cheating because I didn't have any proir agreement with their gf in order for me to violate that, then idk I guess I felt like said gf had less to worry about with me than if he was just doing his normal thing with the other ladies, whatever her insecurities are they must be founded but she really should wake the ******** up and learn how to communicate with this man...

10- have you considered how these questions may not apply the same to people in open or poly relationships? cuz that would be a worth while thing to think on....
I define cheating far differently than most people would, I have a very different perspective on these things.
Ask BlackRose, she knows whats up. Surprised she hasn't posted here yet... sure she will.

This survey is about what you define cheating as, not specific types of relationships.

I have no opinions on your viewpoints, I'm merely collecting data across the board.

Btw I'm pansexual, and loyal to one partner at a time, and I've always believed in long term, serious commitments. I've been cheated on, and I broke his jaw once I found out. He cheated on me simply because his friend brought his other friend, they all started watching porn, and his family jewels somehow slipped into the girl's nether regions. *shrugs*

He deserved the punch, for lying about it, and for doing it in the first place. He was promptly kicked in the balls afterward, and then I stormed out, afterwards I cut him off permanently. I'm not the sort to forgive easily, and I'm not selfless enough to try and make it work after a violation of my trust. I do NOT share my toys with the others on the playground. If I have a special other, I grab them and go "MINE, YOU NO CAN HAS,"

If the toy decides to do something it's not supposed to do... I toss it.


I'm not "loose" despite being labeled as "loose" by people who don't understand what pansexuality actually means..... *rubs eyes*

Mewr, so sleepy, and so many more opinions to read....3_____3

Anyway, there's my little story, and its just the way I live my life, doesn't affect any of the others here in any way, their opinions are important no matter what the opinion is.

I just don't have the energy to reply to every post, they're so detailed, so that's why you don't see many posts by me, I just take notes for the survey and keep reading. x____x

I feel like from the questions you're asking you are investigating some very interesting facets to this topic but you're making your job pretty much impossible by not being specific enough in your questions. like, "Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?" it may be interesting to see a what people's opinions are on this but you asking it on a survey won't give you any measurable results.
Also, your vocabulary, you use "infidelity" here and in the third question, everywhere else its "cheating." They may be interchangeable but I think "infidelity" refers more to a breech in an agreement when often couples don't even discuss their comfort levels and when their threshold for feeling secure is violated, they feel "cheated," regardless of whether that threshold was made clear to all involved.
If you're trying to get to the bottom of how exactly people define cheating and why (a much better stepping-off point if you ask me) you're going about it the wrong way. Most people are, or try to be, or don't give any thought to being anything other than monogamous because its how our culture and society defines relationships. I think a lot people don't realize that monogamy as we know it today is a very new thing and back in my grandma's day it was perfectly acceptable, even expected, for a married man to have a mistress so long as a married woman didn't carry on with another (and its not like mistresses were flaunted in the face of the man's family either)

so yeah just some things to think on, good luck with your project

[Delightful_FOOL]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again?
Not entirely. I think it depends on why they cheated in the first place. If it's because their relationship hit a sour note and they turned to someone else for what they were missing from their partner instead of talking about it, then they may learn their lesson. If they did it for no reason or for the thrill, then I think they have a higher chance of doing it again. Although that's not a guarantee.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater?
No? Just a shitty person.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation?
No, I don't think so. Not in my experience, anyway.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?
N/A

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity?
No.

6.) If yes, how so?
N/A

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
I would be seriously hurt. However, I'd try to work it out. I believe in second chances. If they were missing something that I couldn't provide, I would be more forgiving. Then again, being poly, I would be seriously confused. Our relationship is built on this honesty and knowing that no one person can fill another's every need. I'd be extremely hurt and confused that they felt the need to lie to me when they could just as easily be honest and get what they needed.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone?
No. But I did help someone cheat once.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
I still feel guilty about it. I was a shitbag and was only thinking about my physical needs. That it continued for quite a while only makes me feel worse. I rationalized it that she'd been asking for an open relationship for a long time and that they just weren't meant to be together. Really, though, I was just a shitbag taking advantage of a bad situation.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
N/A

[Miyaka Hana]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Depends on the Person.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Yes.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? No?

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are? n/a

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Yeah.

6.) If yes, how so? Some people just want to watch the world burn, then there are people who just want to ******** the world while it burns.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on? Most of the time, I'd leave the person unless I knew the relationship could be mended and trust can be regained.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Yes, once.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation? I felt like a common whore. I broke up with the person because I didn't feel like they deserved that and I knew I'd cheat again if I stayed.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add? Nope.

[xVallx]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any

Yes and no, it's entirely situational. I think that people who cheat are inconsiderate and compulsive, they usually will cheat again because they are only thinking about themselves.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N

That depends if the player is in an actual relationship. If they are just stringing girls along but not committed to someone, then they're not a cheater.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N

I guess. My mom thinks that bisexuals are unable to be in a committed relationship, I don't agree with her, but that is an example.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

I think that anyone who cheats is self centered whether they're male, female, gay or straight or anywhere in between.

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N

No.

6.) If yes, how so?

N/A

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?

End the relationship and move on.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N

No.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?

N/A


10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?

Nope.

[Maternal Muffin]

1.) Do you think a person who has cheated once will do so again? Y/N, list reasons if you have any
I think they are capable to do so. However, I have seen those who have cheated completely change. My father-in-law is a prime example.

2.) Do you consider a player to be a type of cheater? Y/N
Yes.

3.) Are there differences in how infidelity is viewed based on gender identity/sexual orientation? Y/N
I don't think so, no.

4.) If yes, what differences do you personally think there are?

5.) Do you believe that race and social standing may affect acts of infidelity? Y/N
Yes.

6.) If yes, how so?
You can see all over the news of celebrities, public officials, figures, etc. announcing their affairs.

7,) What would you do if you were cheated on?
I really don't know.

8.) Have you ever cheated on someone? Y/N
I have.

9.) If you have cheated on someone, how does it feel, from your side of the situation?
First, I will say that the first time I ever cheated was when I was in high school. I had made a mistake by letting this guy brainwash me into thinking that I could do better by getting with him. when I got with him, I had missed my ex more than anything and he was willing to forgive me and take me back. I had tried leaving my boyfriend a few weeks later, but he wanted nothing to do with it and refused to accept the break-up. (I had NO backbone in high school.) So I kept going with my ex behind his back. I was involved in that love triangle for almost a year and it was hell, mainly because I was putting up with my boyfriend's bullshit and he wouldn't let me leave him even when we clearly weren't happy. He would just harass the hell out of me if I tried. And since we went to school together, I couldn't really get away from him.
As far as feelings go, I felt guilty but only for my ex, because he was the one I wanted. when I was with HIM, I felt amazing. Couldn't get any happier. It was great. But it felt as though I was cheating on my ex with my boyfriend. when I finally said F-U to my boyfriend, less than 2 months later, I got pregnant by my ex. My son is almost 5 now LOL So that tells you how long it's been. we're not together anymore, though; he had moved out of state for different reasons, which gave the psycho ex an opportunity to move back in for the kill.
Oh, look, more bullshit.
But I got away from him. FINALLY.

10.) Do you have any further opinions, concerns or any questions you want to add?
I don't feel that it's okay to cheat. It's never a good thing. And when it comes to love triangles, nobody ever wins. Dump em both and move on to somebody new.