Anyone never had a relationship or dated before?

[Champaign Supernova]

I was just curious to see how many people out there have also never had a boyfriend/girlfriend/fwb or have never dated before, and how you feel about it at this point in your life, and if you have any advice for any of us in this situation.

As for me, I'm 18, and never had either. I guess I went on a blind date with someone much older than me because I have horrible apathy for what happens to me and my random impulses, but I don't really count that. I'm in college now, and I was hoping to just become friends with many people, and hopefully having a couple go further than just that. I always keep real to myself, consider myself to not be unattractive, and am not shy. I have a bunch of girl and guy friends, and I party with them every weekend, and yeah guys are interested to dance, but that's about it. It sometimes makes me feel like I'm almost a repellant and I become incredibly frustrated considering my efforts of flirtation, but I'm not really sure what to think at this point. I'm not looking for anything serious, I'm actually okay with becoming friends with someone and just being fwb, but I just get so confused when there are less attractive girls with boyfriends and people with mundane personalities who get more action than I.

So, for those who just can't get the guy/girl, feeling the same way, or do you feel differently, and do you have any advice for those in this particular boat? Discuss.

[Imortalvalkrie]

Yeah. I haven't ever dated or anything. There were a few boys who had a crush on me, but they never asked me out, seeing that I'm shy, awkward, and a total geek.

[Risa de Navi]

I've never had a relationship or dated before.
But I'm 14, so it's all good.

Anyhoo...
I suppose I've never dated anyone because 1) I act ridiculous around boys I like or am interested in and 2) I already know everyone in my grade.
So if I don't like a guy, then I am 100% normal and myself around him. Which might explain why weirdos are the only ones who ever crush on me. gonk
And if I do like a guy, I can't speak right and I become awfully boring and I mess up.
Plus, when you spend 7 years with the exact same people, and when you were a bad person in sixth grade and thus became semi-nerdy when you might have been popular otherwise, and when everyone separates into nearly-unbreakable friends circles because we've been together for so many years, it becomes quite difficult to date a guy outside said friends circle. And I actually have no guys in my friends circle. So yup.
Oh, and my friends don't have much in common with me, so we don't talk about guys or go out to parties and dances and whatever either. =/
Plus I'm not bubbly or connected enough to date guys in my school that are older than me.

Guess I'll wait till college.
Or something.

[40s]

i've never had a boyfriend before but it's mainly because i don't want one

i see my friends and how they're always dealing with drama with their boyfriends and he said she said nonsense

i think i'm going to wait until college 3nodding

[vintage zoo]

Yes I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 7 1/2 months

[Champaign Supernova]

The Great Death Spiral

anyway in answer to your issue;

a) post a picture

b) you're approaching finding a relationship from a level of detached metacognition. "overthinking" it to that degree is something people can pick up on from body language and speech patterns. people become put off without quite knowing why, necessarily

Alright, getting on a). And as for point B, I see where that's coming from, but I try not to overthink it when I'm in action, or attempting to be, so to say. I'm usually chill about these situations until after the fact and I sit in my room and wonder why it happened like it did. Plus, I occaisionally lower my cognition through alcohol.

[saffiremoon21]

I'm 18, in college...I've been in one..."relationship" but it was so weird and nobody else knew about it anyway and ugh.

So no, I've never had a real boyfriend. Does this depress me? A little. I've only ever seriously been interested in one person though, so it's not like I was missing out horribly.

[Majnooni]

I've never dated before. I've had plenty of offers from decent people, and 3213820983 offers from sketchy strangers but it's just not something I'm interested in doing. I have some "old-fashioned" ideas about relationships... I don't want to have a physical relationship (not just sex...kissing, etc as well) with someone to whom I am only semi-committed (committed to exclusive dating, but not permanently committed).

I plan to meet someone eventually to whom I am attracted and with whom I have a lot in common, get to know them in a non-romantic way by talking to them and comparing values and interests, and commit to them completely. People seem to think that's weird, but it makes more sense to me.

[Champaign Supernova]

Risa de Navi

I've never had a relationship or dated before.
But I'm 14, so it's all good.

Anyhoo...
I suppose I've never dated anyone because 1) I act ridiculous around boys I like or am interested in and 2) I already know everyone in my grade.
So if I don't like a guy, then I am 100% normal and myself around him. Which might explain why weirdos are the only ones who ever crush on me. gonk
And if I do like a guy, I can't speak right and I become awfully boring and I mess up.
Plus, when you spend 7 years with the exact same people, and when you were a bad person in sixth grade and thus became semi-nerdy when you might have been popular otherwise, and when everyone separates into nearly-unbreakable friends circles because we've been together for so many years, it becomes quite difficult to date a guy outside said friends circle. And I actually have no guys in my friends circle. So yup.
Oh, and my friends don't have much in common with me, so we don't talk about guys or go out to parties and dances and whatever either. =/
Plus I'm not bubbly or connected enough to date guys in my school that are older than me.

Guess I'll wait till college.
Or something.

Oh good. Honestly, I think at your age you're better off just being friends with people. I remember being 14 and having friends with boyfriends, and I thought it was the biggest waste of energy anyone could ever put into something. The relationships were just really dumb and lacked a mature level of communication that is necessary. Waiting til late high school or college is good though, I laud your efforts.

[Herro Chitty]

If you want sex, then go after the most attractive girls. Most guys are too shy to hit on them so don't think lowering your standard will get you more chicks.

If you want a relationship though then avoid any relationship with anyone you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with.

Friends with benefits usually gets more strings than your first thought... I'm practically married to the person I had benefits with... Avoid that, either get a partner, or a ******** buddy... don't try to be friends with your ******** buddy, makes it way too complicated.

[CryCry03]

I'm 19 and I have dated many guys. My current boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years going on 5 in July. My boyfriend and I have had our problems and have delt with it. But we still love each other and get over our differences.

[Happy47Talk]

I've been with my Boyfriend for a year now but before that i had never dated or anything i guess the main reason was because i cared what my friends thought to much, the were real bitches and i have moved on to others who are nicer but i guess i cared so much about what they would think i did listen to see if i liked the guy myself.